Thegreatfrazzle Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 I have been reasonably ok for over the past week. It was my ex's birthday, and whilst I didn't contact her at all, the fact that it marks a year since we had some really fun times together is what is on my mind a lot of the time. Anyhow, yesterday we both had some great college exam results, and whilst I had no idea how she did (blocked on facebook), she found out that I did well, and texted me, after a few months of proper no contact: 'Well done! Very happy for you X'. My ex treated me APPALLINGLY. Even some of her friends have said I'll be happier without her, but, as you guys and gals know, the heart wants what the heart wants. So this took me completely by surprise. She has moved on, not with anyone else, but I know she doesn't want to get back together. I didn't reply for hours, but then a close friend, who knows us both but thinks she treated me badly, said to be nice and not to stoop to her level. So I replied with 'Thank you, and well done to you too'. To which she replied with 'Thanks! ' Basically this has affected me much more than I thought it would, so much so that I skipped a night out because my friend told me she is going out to the same place. Just seeing her is enough to make me feel sad, let alone with some guys tongue down her throat. Does anybody have any advice about how I feel now? Or what I should do in future situations? I was doing so well under NC, but then I saw her (not face to face) by accident a few times last week and now she has messaged me, I'm kinda back to how I was after the BU. Also why do I feel this way after she treated me so badly? She apparently wants to be friends, but I don't think we can be, or want to be.
theredpill Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 Friends will hurt, be straight to the point if she tries to usher you down this path. You say the heart wants what it wants, so tell her it's romance or nothing, can't be "just" her friend - she'll understand this. Work on you, get out, do stuff, you've already made great progress, this is just a temporary set back, You won't be thinking of her if you're busy, so get busy. It's normal to feel that way, but easier in the long run to get over, start dating as soon as you can, this is the best remedy of all!
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