candie13 Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 so what's your take on first dates? how many hours does it generally last? how physical should it get - is touching hands or hugging ok? Kissing? Which level of interaction? When is it too much ? Can you tell you have a player in front of you by the interaction in the first date - or that he's only chasing tail ? How inaccessible versus warm is ok for the chick to be? What sort of subjects are you talking about - and never talk about? How about plans for the next date - is it mandatory that he asks you out again or is a little mystery ok? What makes you think that a date was fiiiiiiine or maybe not so share your opinion, folks 1
Toodaloo Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 If I like the guy I want a bit of physical contact. Perhaps holding hands for short periods of time, a touch on the arm. Perhaps the small of the back if I am being "guided" into my chair or through a door. A kiss on the cheek or a light peck is great. A full blown snog if I am into him is fantastic. I do not like lots of sex talk. I prefer a bit of light cheeky flirting but no more. While I am blunt and can easily talk about sex to be honest the subject bores me. I am bombarded with "sex" all the time at work so its nice to be able to think about other things. My attraction to another person rises considerably if talk is not about sex. I don't like talking about exes all that much. But I do want to know that they are single and have had time between and that I am not a rebound. I find it awkward talking about my ex. To be honest I know what the reaction will be, its over and done with and I want it left in the past. I think people expect me to burst into tears or something when I talk about it but I really do feel nothing at all these days. So its awkward when people expect me to have some sort of reaction... I feel more emotion talking about the grass being green! I don't think it gives a good impression when I sit there scratching my head and shrugging... But what can you do? It happened its gone. I usually try to get away with just saying it wasn't a good relationship and we do not speak anymore and hope that they leave it at that. I prefer to keep conversation to neutral topics. Perhaps comment a bit on what is in the news or local events etc. Hobbies, general family back ground etc. Get a general feel for the person. Are they stable? Do they have weird and wacky views on the world? Are there any signs of anger or resentment? What do they want their life to look like in the future? Is it compatible with how I would like my life to be? What ambitions do they have? Those sorts of things. You can find out a lot about a person by the way they view the world around them. To be honest though Candie the vast majority of my first dates don't go any further for what ever reason. I am also a very "touchy" person and like touch, which not everyone else does. So I am probably not the best person to ask. 1
guest569 Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 I like to spend at least an hour chatting if it goes well. A hug and peck on the cheek is good and i dont want any more than that. I've had people on here consider me some kind of freak cause i dont want a man to shove his tongue down my throat after a few minutes meeting. No need to set up a second date until later, even if i am super keen. It's too much for me. 1
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