Late Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 Hey there. I've been lurking for awhile, and this breakup feels like the death blow to my psyche... So I decided to post instead of text him. This last relationship was poly, and while I always knew that there was veto power with his primary, I never thought it'd come to that. From what I understood, he and I were strong, and she and him were strong. But whatever. It ended. I'm sure in a few months I'll be fine, but... Every single relationship I've been in that I haven't ended has been ended because of another woman. Sneaky crossover dating, full on cheating--it all feels the same. And I'm not exaggerating--every single breakup initiated by the other person. And they weren't all poly, so I'm sure that's not it. Has anyone else had this experience? How did you get over it? Continually being less important than someone else is really getting to me. Is this just a "normal" thing that people do? Thanks. And I'm sorry if this is the wrong area.
Captsingle Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 I recently asked my self a similar type of question, why are all the women that I date....? And I think that a lot of people ask themselves a question in that same arena when it feels like their love lives can be summed up by the same experience. After two years of being single and a great deal of soul searching, I realized that my problem was that I was dating the same type of female, every time. Do you find that you are dating the same type of guy, whether its a "normal" or "poly" situation? Do they share the same traits? Because when you ask a question the way that you did, it implies that the issue lies with you. Maybe it is the guy? I don't know, I'm not privy to the relevant information, but you are...and maybe that is where you need to start. Good luck!
guest569 Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 Hmm i can relate to wondering why.. All of my breakups were initiated by the other person too. What I will say though is that with each relationship, I was happy, I was certain, I knew what I wanted and I knew I had found it. I cant say the same about my exes. I'm sticking with that to get me through, it was them, not me. They bailed for whatever reason, it's not my problem anymore. Sure, there are times where it gets to me (just look at my threads) but it gets easier.
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