Jord11 Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 From dating her its a fresh relationship I've noticed the mood swings one minute she could be happy and smiling to next she is just pissed off and irritated and sometimes I get it don't get me wrong she is a wonderful girl but wow how to deal with the mood swings
Gary S Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 How do you deal with a woman with mood swings? - you don't. Let her counselor deal with it. For a healthy and happy relationship that will last, you need someone with a good attitude. Who wants to spend the rest of their life walking on eggshells all the time when with their partner, knowing that her fangs could come out at any moment for no reason at all? 6
bubbaganoosh Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 Look, if she tuns crappy on you, then let her know that your not wearing a sign that says "Kick Me" on your back. Then you let her know that when she wants to act like a reasonable person to call you, although she's giving you a preview of who she really is so you can't say you weren't warned. 3
Learningtowalkagain Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 Look up Borderline Personality Disorder. If after reading about it you think your girlfriend has it leave. Don't hesitate. Get out of the relationship. You can thank me later for saving you months of aggravation. 3
katiegrl Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 Look up Borderline Personality Disorder. If after reading about it you think your girlfriend has it leave. Don't hesitate. Get out of the relationship. You can thank me later for saving you months of aggravation. Actually severe mood swings are a symptom of Bipolar Disorder. People with Borderline often suffer from Bipolar as well, but the mood swings are due to Bipolar. Which is a mental illness that requires medication to stabilize those who suffer from it. 2
katiegrl Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 (edited) Actually severe mood swings are a symptom of Bipolar Disorder. People with Borderline often suffer from Bipolar as well, but the mood swings are due to Bipolar. Which is a mental illness that requires medication to stabilize those who suffer from it. ...just researched Borderline and apparently those with Borderline suffer from mood swings as well ....sorry 'bout that! Jord, it does sound like Borderline, especially the aggressive behavior (lashing out, etc). Research it ....and be careful. Borderlines can really screw you up! Edited August 14, 2015 by katiegrl 3
xcupid Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 Sounds like her mood swings could be a medical problem. She should check that out. Otherwise it's doubtful the relationship will last. 1
Keenly Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 Just don't let her moods influence yours. If she starts acting bitch, say you have to be going and Leave She will soon learn you aren't going to tolerate that behavior. 2
Popsicle Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 From dating her its a fresh relationship I've noticed the mood swings one minute she could be happy and smiling to next she is just pissed off and irritated and sometimes I get it don't get me wrong she is a wonderful girl but wow how to deal with the mood swings I can't deal with moody people either (that includes men, yes, some are moody). I have no advice except to run. 3
joseb Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 Look up Borderline Personality Disorder. If after reading about it you think your girlfriend has it leave. Don't hesitate. Get out of the relationship. You can thank me later for saving you months of aggravation. Or years. Rapid mood swings are more likely Borderline than Bipolar. If she is BPD than yeah, sorry but the best thing you can do for yourself is leave. 2
ExpatInItaly Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 Or years. Rapid mood swings are more likely Borderline than Bipolar. If she is BPD than yeah, sorry but the best thing you can do for yourself is leave. This. My ex is diagnosed BPD and a hallmark of that is unpredictable, seemingly unprovoked, intense and rapid mood swings. As in, one minute he was fine and the next minute something triggered him and he flew into an absolute rage. It's really, really not fun. He is not Bipolar, though the two can indeed co-exist. OP, nobody here can accurately assess what your girlfriend's deal is. Let her know you will not tolerate being the target of her mood, if that's what you feel is going on. She needs to address it. Not you. If she doesn't, there isn't much you can do but safe yourself the hassle and move on. 1
Mrin Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 Don't. Seriously. Take it from a guy who dated a bipolar woman for four years. It is exhausting and you'll quickly lose yourself from having to walk on eggshells 24/7/365. She needs to deal with them on her own and when she gets a handle on them - then and only then should you date her. I'm projecting I know... But it was misery. 1
guest569 Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 I dunno, there's a lot of speculating and diagnosing here. More info needed. Is this her personality, is it PMS, is it some personal issues.. ? Did you do anything to make her mad? Did you talk about it? 1
katiegrl Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 (edited) Or years. Rapid mood swings are more likely Borderline than Bipolar. If she is BPD than yeah, sorry but the best thing you can do for yourself is leave. I read more about Borderline last night (couldn't sleep). They do have rapid mood swings but they are different from Bipolar mood swings. Bipolar is essentially manic/depression ....manic (extremely happy and high) moods followed by periods of deep depression. Each mood cycle can last minutes, hours, days, weeks and even months! Depending on the person. They usually don't suddenly become aggressive though (for no reason) like Borderlines and lash out and people. Borderlines also lack empathy. They are often accused of being sociopathic, due to their lack of empathy and lack of conscience. They are often out of touch with reality ...and view the world through their own distorted lens. That's my understanding of it anyway. So yeah, does sound more Borderline, but she would need to see a doctor to be sure. Edited August 14, 2015 by katiegrl
Gaeta Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 From dating her its a fresh relationship I've noticed the mood swings one minute she could be happy and smiling to next she is just pissed off and irritated and sometimes I get it don't get me wrong she is a wonderful girl but wow how to deal with the mood swings No matter how nice she is between her mood swings, why would you want to date such a person? It's a new relationship and already mood swings! Next! It just amazes me how men truly love crazies!! 1
hotpotato Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 I dunno, there's a lot of speculating and diagnosing here. More info needed. Is this her personality, is it PMS, is it some personal issues.. ? Did you do anything to make her mad? Did you talk about it? Right? It could be a lot of things pms add/adhd I'm sure plenty of other things. I get moody around the time of my period. I guess no guy should ever date me. 2
Art_Critic Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 How to date a girl with mood swingsCarefully, or you will be creating a thread about marrying one... You don't really...If you don't mesh then get out.. don't try and diagnose her with BPD.. that is just crazy and she deserves more respect from you than that. The most you could do is sit her down and discuss them, let her tell you where they come from and go from there. 1
carhill Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 OP, the beauty of being an autonomous human being is having free will and choices. As one choice, you certainly can explore dating a girl with mood swings. Given your first respondent mentioned walking on eggshells, you might gain some insight into that choice, and mood swings, by reading a book of similar title, 'Stop walking on eggshells'. I read it as part of the therapy process caregiving for a psychotic and dealing with some similar issues as the ones you describe with a couple male friend's spouses. The combination of the psychological work and reading helped a lot. You're in a different situation. You can walk away today with no guilt, remorse or substantial consequences. Even if you do, I still think the information is valuable. Good luck. 1
Gary S Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 - First of all, it has to be a sick person's own idea to get help.....you can a lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink. - Secondly, what guarantee is there that the person will not change their mind later and stop taking the medication? Many do quit! - Finally, sometimes the medication is not enough And it's not necessary to diagnose the disease....... at the end of the day, it's enough to know that whatever she's got is a dealbreaker. 1
deadelvis Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 My partner is BiPolar and has BPD. It's not as bad as you folks are making it sound. She gets grumpy sometimes and needs alone time, but sometimes she's manic and that makes up for it. It's not always as black and white as it sounds. I would never walk away just because a person has BPD or BiPolar. So far she's been less of a bitch than my last girlfriend who was "normal". 2
Satu Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 With or without a diagnosis, she's unstable, and that's definitely a problem. Examine your own ability to cope with it and make your decisions accordingly.
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