5 years together...but he is, getting colder and I am getting sadder

[dont_I_matter]

When he drinks he gets very verbally dismissive and rude to me. Last night he had physical therapy and told me he would be done in an hour. He came home three hours later after meeting friends out. I was flip to him because I was mad, I had gotten a weekly shot for my heart medicine and the dogs needed help to go out because we are having work done to the house. He didn't tell me he was out with his friends until he was on his way home. We had words about it and he said "**** you Krystal" and went to sleep. He stayed home today with the flu (aka hangover) and I tried to discuss it with him. I told him that either his behavior or our situation needs to change because its not good for either of us. He told me that I have an easy life, that I have an easy job and that I expect everyone to kiss my ass. He wouldn't even turn to tv off when I was speaking. Then I asked him if this is what he wants, and he said he just wants to be happy. I told him the this conversation makes me feel worthless and he said "I'm not even listening to you". I came upstairs and got in bed. I travel next week weds to monday. I asked if he'd be here for the dogs and he said he has, no plans yet.

 

Its the first time that I don't care if I lose him. I'm starting to hate him.

[mtnbiker3000]

Sounds like this one has run it's course and it's time to move on...

 

Sorry

[Satu]

He's not a nice person.

 

Thats the nature of the problem.

[Grumpybutfun]

Wow, this is just wrong on so many levels. Dismissive, angry, emotionally checked out people usually are negative and blame you for their issues. He said F you and you stayed so he thinks he can get by with it over and over. Time to take your dog and move on...why waste time on a drunk who misses work due to hangovers? That is college behavior so unless he is in a frat and you are his mom, you need to reject him.

Good luck,

Grumps

[HelloImAmy]

Hahaha wow he sounds like a dick

 

Try ignoring him for a week, and staying out the house late at night and see what happens promise he'll he t jealous ;p