Chin Up Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 Hi Everyone! Thought I'd swing by with an update since I went from being here daily, to not at all. In 2 months it will have been a year since we broke up. I will confess that in April I sent him a text asking him how he's been. No agenda, just flat out curiosity since he never initiated contact after the split. We shot a couple texts back and forth that day, mostly joking around, then I wrapped it up cuz I'm still seeing the guy I mentioned in January, and felt it was inappropriate to be texting with my ex even though I was the one who initiated it lol He's alive and well, which is what i was wondering, so the playful jokey texts started to feel like a can of worms might get opened, and I'd rather that mess stay shut haha. I haven't contacted him since. Not sure if he's still seeing that girl he left me for. I suspect things may have gone south with them cuz i've seen her out a few times and she's always with guys..but not my ex. There was a day in June I was lounging on a patio chair out front. I heard a car slowly approaching but couldn't see since I was laying down. I sat up to see if it was my bf. Nope. The girl my ex left me for was driving and my ex's best friend was in the passenger seat. Not sure what they were expecting to see, but they looked pretty embarrassed that I spotted them and they drove off lol. I'm going to assume she was worried he was at my place. My ex is pretty good at making girls feel uneasy and insecure, so I wouldn't be surprised if that was the motive for their little recon mission haha. I also had a strange convo with an old mutual coworker at the beginning of July. She texted me after months of not talking (not a falling out, just hadn't kept in touch)asking me how I've been. We caught up a little then she asks "are you still with that guy?" I said I was and asked her how things are at work. She never did answer. So idk if she got bored of catching up, or was fishing for info on behalf of my ex, but whatever. So thats about that in the ex department lol. I remember the awful crushing hurt I used to feel because he never contacted me, but I'm so glad he didn't. On one hand, not hearing from him made me feel unlovable and forgettable. On the other, if we had been communicating after the split, I would have read into everything, gobbled up heaps of false hope, and been even more hurt and pissed off when it finally registered I was chasing the wind. Nothing good comes from keeping in touch with an ex!
Phoenixashes Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 Amen. Glad you're still with that guy and happy
Author Chin Up Posted August 13, 2015 Author Posted August 13, 2015 thanks! Thought I'd add the link to my backstory in case anyone is curious, or it helps someone in a similar situation. Heck, or if you even just want a good laugh at what a moron I was hahaha. *Cringe* Def felt weird to read that cuz I'm in such a different place now. It's like trying to recall an injury. You know it hurt, but you can't summon that pain to mind. I read it and thought "jeez, you were far more upset over this guy than you should have been. He really did a number on ya!" I had forgotten some of the jerky things he had done and for some reason they had me laughing, cuz if a guy tried to pull that crap with me now, he'd get his walking papers stapled to his forehead! I noticed a few times how I had proclaimed I wanted to be friends with him. Just honest to goodness friends. ......pfff! LOL what a crock. Idk if I was still in denial but the only reason I wanted to be "friends" was so I could keep a foot in the door and see if we got back together. I hate to even admit that now cuz even though he had great qualities, he was a real arse to me. I can do, and have, soooo much better.
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