broken25 Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 I never understood this concept. Whenever my ex-fiance got upset about something, he needed to feel 'worthy' by ME begging, pleading, or chasing him. It was only, and only when I showed desperateness for him and our relationship would he feel 'loved'. He always stressed this 'you NEED to show me you WANT this relationship.' I started to feel like something was wrong with me for not feeling like begging, or being desperate. It didn't mean I didn't want this relationship as bad, but I just couldn't get myself to do it every time he was upset - and this is ultimately why our relationship ended. He also participated in this form of showing desperateness but... I couldn't reciprocate it?
NoMoreJerks Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 Ego? / narcissist? Or maybe he felt unappreciated, and wanted you to show him that you appreciated him and the relationship more than you did. Maybe your needs were not compatible? Maybe he felt that if you had shown him more attention, appreciation, etc., on a daily basis, he wouldn't have felt that you had to feel "desperate" in order for him to feel like you wanted the relationship?
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