Fuerza Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 I couldn't find a topic that was similar to my situation, so new thread. I broke up with my boyfriend 2 days ago and I had blocked him through Whatsapp, we only communicated through email because he didn't understand why I broke up with him. He said in one of these mails that I was treating him as a criminal by blocking him so I unblocked him on Whatsapp. However, since I did this, he keeps sending me messages that he's sorry that he wishes he did better, that he regrets that I got so desperate and that he wants to win my heart over again. He also keeps calling me sweety even after asking him not do so, he just refuses. Before the break up he would barely call me, now he's been calling me daily trying to speak to me. Honestly, what do I do? I want us still to be friends in some level but he just refuses to realize that we are done. He makes the break up so much harder, because he makes it sound as if he can change himself and I should give him another chance.
Yummm Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 If you've read other topics then you know that your ex is clearly going through the begging/pleading stage as he's shocked about the breakup. He wants what he can't have and will do anything to try get you back. If you're 100% set on not hearing him out then being friends with him will only give him false hope and that's not fair. The best thing you can do for him is go NC and cut him out completely. He will suffer much less in the long run. In the future if he is completely over you, he may decide to reach out for friendship but for both of you cutting him out for now is best.
candie13 Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 man, you're going through a tough time. I think deep down inside you know what you need to do. In these situations, there's only one decision to take: think about yourself and don't let yourself get persuaded to get back into a RS with a man who was unable to appreciate you when he had you fully. All these being said, running away is not a solution either. I actually think it's quite coward to hide and go directly NC. Did you guys talk after you decided to break up? I think having a cup of coffee, face to face and explaining him why you are out and how you feel in that RS and why it's not working out for you may give him closure. If you've already done that and he is still being difficult, yeah, block him. Cut him off. I'm high in giving people closure and on being kind, if you find it in your heart to. I was really hurt and very upset when I broke up with my ex. I've disappeared on him and cut all contact all of a sudden. It was the right thing to do, but I was really tough. I was in a lot of pain. I've carried a huge guilt burden on me, after that, but what can I say, it's where emotionally, I was at the time. Do things properly. Aim for a clean break up. It will help both you and him to recover faster. Cheers
Author Fuerza Posted August 13, 2015 Author Posted August 13, 2015 ^ Pf yeah. It's just annoying how he promises me it's going to get better and stuff if I give him yet again another chance. I love him so much, gave up so much for him and then it's just done after 5 years almost because he couldn't be a better person to me. That just hurts urgh. But thanks for your advice I definitely don't just want to hide and cut off every contact, I want a clean break up because 5 years together isn't something you just forget. We'll talk soon hopefully, he's been busy with work and I have school so we'll see. But I'm pretty sure he's just going to act like nothing happened. We'll see I guess.
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