boopityy Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 Hello everyone. I am 26 years old and my girlfriend is 20 and we love each other very much and say all the time, we are in relationship but also like best friends, being together for 2 years. Relationship built on complete honesty, teasing each other and fighting sometimes and really happy emotionally. Now she has says she might not feel sexually attracted to me, and i am at vacation to my country for months so it doesn't help. We also have some problems on sex that might be caused by her not being that attracted or just needs doctor. She also says all the time that she loves more than anything and doesn't want to loose me, but i understand that its a period of her life that she is finding herself and i never let her be free. If we would have a break and do something with other person, we know that it would ruin us. I know very well how to do all these tricks and trigger her feelings to feel attracted to me, but i don't want to be fake to her and trick her with fake emotions manipulating her. We have a honest relationship so i would feel really bad doing these. How can we save our relationship and make her have strong attraction to me, but at the same time not use any tricks and feelings manipulation. I know girls want it but say they don't, but if honesty leaves our relationship then i will probably end it because it is really important to me. Sorry for the long post and thank you for reading
LoveRefreshed Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 Sorry man. Usually that is one of the last lines before you get dumped. Seems like she didn't have the heart to finish it. If you truly want to make it work, then you need to, with an open mind, ask her what it is about you that turns her off. If it is something fixable, then work on it. However, I don't necessarily condone trying to change yourself for another person- external motivation rarely works anyway. Best of luck. Start doing some sit ups.
Author boopityy Posted August 13, 2015 Author Posted August 13, 2015 But i have seen many times people having same problems and they just.. work on them together. As i said its not like she wants to breakup with me because we are good together emotionally, just feelings come and go as in every relationship. I just don't know how without doing fake tricks.
LoveRefreshed Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 What do you mean any tricks? Dude, she's going to leave you if she wants to leave you. I already told you what to do. The only way to *fix* anything, is to directly ask what it is she finds unattractive about, and then fix it. There's nothing else to it.
Author boopityy Posted August 13, 2015 Author Posted August 13, 2015 I see. Thank you i will do that.
ExpatInItaly Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 Speaking as a woman, if I lose sexual attraction to a guy, it's nearly impossible to get it back. It means my feelings have changed and I've probably outgrown the relationship. All you can do it ask her if it's something specific that can be worked on. What type of bedroom problems have you been having? Don't try to "trick" or manipulate her - she's not a toy. Communicate with her. 1
RoseVille Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 Speaking as a woman, if I lose sexual attraction to a guy, it's nearly impossible to get it back. It means my feelings have changed and I've probably outgrown the relationship. Me too. I've tried, but it's usually done.
usernametaken Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 She's 20. She's super young. People change; their attractions change. Not much to be done about that. Time to move on, as much as that sucks.
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