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Jay13094 Established Member

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havent talked to him in a couple months now. I ended it with him b/c he was seeing someone while we were together and they didn't even date until NOW about 8 months after we ended. Im actually not bothered at all that they're dating. I wanted them to b/c i went through WAY too much crap w/ him for it to of been for NOTHING. Or it also shows that I'm over him which is so relieving b/c i was depressed about this guy for like 5 months.

 

Anyways, they're dating and he still follows me instagram and have been liking my posts a LOT more frequently. He actually stopped liking any of my stuff for a while until they started to date and now all of a sudden he does. like why.

 

Another thing ill add this girl he's dating knew about me and him and basically she didn't care and still talked to him aka she's a home wrecker. Its such a mess and theres this whole love square low-key going on b/c her i met her ex a couple months ago and we became friends and he's been trying to chill but I'm not getting myself in that situation lol

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Hi there,

 

 

I don't want to sound to blunt but, I think you're in a bit of denial here, hon. If you were over him, you wouldn't be posting about him on this forum and what he's doing or discussing his now GF. Why is he not blocked on all your social media? If I was you, I'd block him everywhere. He doesn't need to see what you're up to and you don't need to be aware of what he's doing or who he's with.

 

 

It appears that he's moved on and is enjoying his new gal. How about you?

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Stop giving him access to your life.

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I don't think this is denial. Op probably wants to hear either

A) He's an *******

B) He's unhappy with the new girl.

I can guarantee A. About B there's no way to tell. Stop dwelling on him and find someone worth spending your time on :)

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Stop giving him access to your life.

 

 

Yeah.. this is where the trouble lies, block/unfriend him

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Hi there,

 

 

I don't want to sound to blunt but, I think you're in a bit of denial here, hon. If you were over him, you wouldn't be posting about him on this forum and what he's doing or discussing his now GF. Why is he not blocked on all your social media? If I was you, I'd block him everywhere. He doesn't need to see what you're up to and you don't need to be aware of what he's doing or who he's with.

 

 

It appears that he's moved on and is enjoying his new gal. How about you?

 

Ok maybe you're right on that part, but i do i know I've been doing a whole lot better. I unfollowed him on everything so i do not see what he's doing- i just have mutual friends with him so i hear about him time-to-time but not a lot cz i don't care / want to know. I didn't block him b/c i thought he should just unfollow me, and if he wants to still see what I'm up to and is liking my stuff he cares in a sense and it also shows that i still care.. which is why i get hung up cz of my pride.

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Stop giving him access to your life.

 

My only question is towards why he cares about my life, and why he continues to want to see.. it hurts my pride to go out and block him cz it shows him i still care. I mean eff what he thinks right....

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I don't think this is denial. Op probably wants to hear either

A) He's an *******

B) He's unhappy with the new girl.

I can guarantee A. About B there's no way to tell. Stop dwelling on him and find someone worth spending your time on :)

 

haha you're right, the way i worded it definitely showed denial but i know that him and i are done but i just end up getting thrown off when he likes my social media stuff while dating the girl he left me for you know. Like why do you care when he knows i want nothing to do with him. Either way, he has access to contact other ways which I would not respond to anyways so gotta make it less complicated for myself. But for SURE he's 100% douche

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Yeah.. this is where the trouble lies, block/unfriend him

 

he's been unfriended everywhere on my social media, he just choses not to unfriend me and its some what satisfying but its not worth it. IF anything he prob has bad intentions and does it to make his current girl jealous cz he's that type of guy

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My only question is towards why he cares about my life, and why he continues to want to see.. it hurts my pride to go out and block him cz it shows him i still care. I mean eff what he thinks right....

 

It's an irrelevant question. You need to stop being concerned about what he's thinking and not blocking because you're worried about how it looks to him is you having your priorities out of whack. You block so you aren't obsessing about ridiculous questions like this.

 

In trying to show that you are strong by not blocking you're actually showing the opposite.

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It's an irrelevant question.

Exactly. What are you doing still even thinking about the guy after 8 months? He in no way should be occupying your thoughts like this.

 

Block him everywhere. Double block him if you can. Tell any mutual friends to NEVER bring him up. Vanish from his life, move on and focus on yourself not him.

 

Remove your Ex's "Blip" off your radar!

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he's been unfriended everywhere on my social media, he just choses not to unfriend me and its some what satisfying but its not worth it. IF anything he prob has bad intentions and does it to make his current girl jealous cz he's that type of guy
You said in your original post that this girl doesn't bother you. Either the situation bothers you, or it doesn't. If he enjoys your posts and throws you a LIKE every now and again, do you even care?

 

Your solution is very easy. If you do care what he sees and what he thinks, then block him. Your pride will be hurt only once, and who cares what he thinks? You'll never know anyway.

 

If you don't care one way or the other, then I'm not sure what the fuss is all about.

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I think most people can get curious as to what their last ex is up too, especially if they haven't heard from or spoken to them in months. Humans are curious creatures, especially if we just laying around, bored and surfing the internet.

 

 

You're allowing him to view your social media as a last gasp to hold onto him. Most people struggle with blocking their ex because they know its a sign to ACCEPT that it's truly over and they need to move on. The last thing you should be concerned with is his potential reaction to it. You'll never know anyway, so who cares. This person is from your past and is not in your life anymore.

 

 

If you can force yourself to block him on everything, you will feel better and should help you really move on from that failed R/S.

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It's an irrelevant question. You need to stop being concerned about what he's thinking and not blocking because you're worried about how it looks to him is you having your priorities out of whack. You block so you aren't obsessing about ridiculous questions like this.

 

In trying to show that you are strong by not blocking you're actually showing the opposite.

 

everything you said was right-i did it this morning and do feel better i regretted it at first but why should i have. The only other thing he has of mine is snapchat but theres no way i can block him w/o re-adding him since my profile is public :mad:

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