Status Update: Tired of games...think I'll get a Restraining order against her.

[Mrlonelyone]

A person at the school I work at was a security guard at the school M and I attended. I always suspected that what went on between my ex and I was due in large part to outside interference.

 

This former security guard told me what they were told. A prof. at the school saw us arguing and reported it to a dean. That dean told us not to talk to eachother. That dean, I was told, was pushed out of that school. "In that part of town black people are seen as a threat."

 

We were having problems and to be honest I was starting to distance from the relationship emotionally. Had we been able to talk we would have likely made up or at least made peace. We didn't communicate even a bit for months later. She thought I reported her and vice versa. Now I have confirmation.

 

So the list of reasons for that a really decent relationship broke up:

 

1. I was about to graduate and move far away neither of us wanted an LDR.
   
2. Due to that mutual distancing we had fights and troubles.
   
3. Someone who had no context for the situation saw one of those and got involved and made it impossible for us to make up at the time.

[Mrlonelyone]

This is a quick one. After a summer of games including being stalked to my neighborhood, blank text, and other assorted BS I think I'm going to get a restraining order against them.

 

You see, the thing to understand about the ex I have written of here many times is that though they are female and ID as a woman they have a male mentality. I just realized after a few weeks of reflection that they are a stalker. They neither want to get too close nor get to far away. I just want them to bug the eff off.

 

Any advice? Should I or should I not take that kind of a step?

[Frogwife]

Why is this in Second Chances?

[William]

Good point. A member reported the thread as potentially misplaced so I've moved it to BBU and bumped it. I also merged in what was apparently background information. Please continue the discussion here. Thanks!

[ExpatInItaly]

This is a quick one. After a summer of games including being stalked to my neighborhood, blank text, and other assorted BS I think I'm going to get a restraining order against them.

 

You see, the thing to understand about the ex I have written of here many times is that though they are female and ID as a woman they have a male mentality. I just realized after a few weeks of reflection that they are a stalker. They neither want to get too close nor get to far away. I just want them to bug the eff off.

 

Any advice? Should I or should I not take that kind of a step?

 

What kind of games? Have you told this person (your ex?) that she needed to stop? Is it her that's been following you, or is it someone you suspect she'd asked to track you?

 

In any case, it sounds quite concerning. If you feel threatened, then yes, speak to authorities. I don't know if your situation is grounds for a restraining order but a police officer in your jurisdiction could tell you that. They might opt to start with a visit to her (by the police, I mean) to warn her that contact needs to stop. If she persists, they might then recommend you proceed with filing a restraining order. I'm only speculating here, but your best bet is to visit your local police station and talk to someone there.