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My heart has been coping in weird ways as my emotions has been up and down. Most of the day I'm doing good though I think about her at work, I'm not feeling as low. When I come home to an empty house, it just hits hard. No one to tell how my day went or ask how their day went. Can't call the person that I care about, the person that once cared about me. Just emptiness.....

 

I've been really good at NC as it's been a long time since I talked to her and it's a fight trying not to talk to her but I want to break it. Though, I know only a very slim chance would something good will come out of it but it's not worth more pain. This is what I took for granted, didn't call her enough after work on my way home. Didn't listen to her voice enough.

 

I take my flaws, my mistakes and improve to the stride to become a better me, a better man. I'm sorry I wasn't the best since she left me and I'm sorry I was so comfortable I took her and our relationship for granted. Even though I learned some valuable aspects of a relationship, it wasn't worth the loss of her.

 

I still love you 6 months later and I want to talk to you so bad because I miss you very much but I won't bother you.

 

Such an empty feeling....

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Feel the same way pretty much every day, I go the gym, gets my mind of things for an hour or two then boom, I'm home, it hits me like a ton of bricks.

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Feel the same way pretty much every day, I go the gym, gets my mind of things for an hour or two then boom, I'm home, it hits me like a ton of bricks.

 

Same here. Once my mind has nothing to do, it thinks and it thinks hard. Just reminds me everything I took for granted and wish I didn't. I mean I didn't do anything bad but I got complacent and it's my fault for that. I learned a lot though but it hurts

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You're allowing your negative thoughts to dwell.

 

At this point you should be trying to remove the negative associations to her and build new memories.

 

For example, on your way back from work, call a family member, or a good friend, start making that your routine so you stop associating 'coming home to an empty house' with your ex.

 

When the negative thoughts pop up into your head, let them be there, but DON'T DWELL ON THEM. Force them to the back of your mind instead of the forefront, occupy yourself with something else and then they will eventually pass.

 

I still think about my ex, heck, I see her almost everyday at work! But I don't allow myself to dwell on the negative, I end up saying 'oh well, that was a fun part of my life journey' and try move on to a more positive thought.

 

Please try it, it works, stay strong :)

 

@Xiomn - your breakup seems more fresh, your emotions are normal, but they will pass. Actively try what I have posted and it may help you too!

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It's okay to feel bad or sad. They are natural and positive feelings too. They help. happiness and optimism alone doesn't make up the human experience .. "negative" feelings create a rich emotional palate. Don't feel bad because you feel bad -that's a horrible punishment. let your mind play life guard in the vast ocean of feelings. The mind is a protector, a facilitator, a moderator , a mother to an emotional child. babies are free feeling. nobody judges them. nobody should judge you. when we hit our lowest point God is there to pick us up. He lets us be free until we self destruct and call on him. Call on him; he is the original matchmaker!! Trust!!!!

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I'm sure that you've heard this said many times:

 

 

You can't fill the emptiness from outside.

 

 

All efforts to do that ultimately fail.

 

You can fill it from the inside though, by cultivating loving and tender feelings for yourself, by celebrating your successes and achievements, by being grateful for what you have, and by spending time on your healing and growth.

 

 

 

Take care.

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