DatingDirection Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 What do you do when you're heart broken, and at a loss of real friends?
LoveRefreshed Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 I've never been lonely. I've always had my pals Jack, Jim, Johnny, and Jose... We're a strange group. Johnny acts all classy more than the rest of us. Jim and Jack are pretty trashy though, but nothing is as bad as what Jose smells like. We go out as a group and I always meet new people. 4
menyou Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 Be your own best friend. Too many people are afraid to be alone, but you honestly can't be with another person if you can't be by yourself first. Cheer up. Life is good! 2
Versacehottie Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 What do you do when you're heart broken, and at a loss of real friends? Aww, this makes me sad. I'm sorry. Ok, first of all vow to yourself not to get into this situation again, i.e make an active friend life and do not drop them next time you have a boyfriend. A good life has both. And as was said above, get comfortable liking yourself and fill your day. Having alone time is a luxury some who are part of a couple wish they had. So make the best of it now. What could you do to improve your life? How are you going to make new friends? The obvious answer is a hobby or reconnecting with old friends or network for new ones and grow friendships you have with acquaintances. Even through work? You will most likely have to step out of your comfort zone to make this happen but you can do it. Use your heart break and strength to fuel you. Be careful not to try to bond with people over negative things. Like you won't want to make your heartbreak the focus with new friends. Lower your expectations for a little while. New friendships take time to build and sometimes feel a little hollow at the beginning. Make sure looking for new guys or dating isn't the only thing that you focus on with the new friends or you will find yourself in a similar position. Friendships should be more well-rounded--not only about guys! That said, as soon as you are able, start dating again. For a duel purpose: you can make friends with some of your new guys friends' girlfriends. Even some of these new dates could not work out as boyfriend material but can turn into good guy friends--not usually the most straightforward but it can happen. You can do it. Good luck! 2
fitnessfan365 Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 Be your own best friend. Too many people are afraid to be alone, but you honestly can't be with another person if you can't be by yourself first. Cheer up. Life is good! Good post! I've always said the same thing myself. My advice OP? Focus on getting in better shape. Not only will it give you something to do, but regular exercise makes you feel better physically and mentally. Plus, all of us can always look better than we do. So you'll also feel even more confident in yourself as your body changes too. Whenever I break up w-a woman, exercise therapy has always been the best for taking my mind off it. Plus, it works as a great motivator to push harder. There are plenty of exercise groups out there you can join to where you'll meet people as well. Kills two birds w-one stone. 4
HereNorThere Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 Dust yourself off and do what you have to do. If you have meet up with online communities like reddit, meetup.com, etc to make friends, do it. You have to be proactive and change what you want to change. Don't just sit there spinning the wheels. 4
Gloria25 Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 Hate to break it to ya, but most of our "friends" aren't really "friends"...they are people who we know and do stuff with. "True" friends are like on a deeper level, like "Beaches" movie stuff. Someone who has been through some stuff with you, shared deepest stuff with - you know, not just "anybody". It's all about attitude babe, Take this opportunity to open a new chapter on your life - like Madonna creating another life/character/persona...an "adventure" if you will. Walking in the park? Chat up peeps...ask them things about themselves. Go online and find a meet-up group and jump right in. At your gym? Sign up for up for Zumba classes and ask other chicks there about their hair, moves, etc. Volunteer...I bet ya right now there's an old lady just wishing she could have someone just to sit and talk to, take her on a walk, run some errands for her. Same thing for people in hospitals, with kids, etc...Shoot, there's probably some kids in a youth group just waiting on someone to do crafts with. So, you have no reason to be alone...get out there and make connections, get busy, and do something for your fellow man. 2
Versacehottie Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 My advice OP? Focus on getting in better shape. Not only will it give you something to do, but regular exercise makes you feel better physically and mentally. Plus, all of us can always look better than we do. So you'll also feel even more confident in yourself as your body changes too. Whenever I break up w-a woman, exercise therapy has always been the best for taking my mind off it. Plus, it works as a great motivator to push harder. There are plenty of exercise groups out there you can join to where you'll meet people as well. Kills two birds w-one stone. I agree 100%. You reconnect to your body. And exercise makes us feel good. You will be preparing your look and confidence for everything ahead of you. You can be around a lot of people but be somewhat solitary and get comfortable before you start to make friends through fitness. It my very best suggestion to start things spinning in right direction. And actually it's a big thing you can stay connected to with your new friends with or without a boyfriend. It's huge. And fun! Find what you like to do. Experiment with different classes, etc. 2
Author DatingDirection Posted August 14, 2015 Author Posted August 14, 2015 Good post! I've always said the same thing myself. My advice OP? Focus on getting in better shape. Not only will it give you something to do, but regular exercise makes you feel better physically and mentally. Plus, all of us can always look better than we do. So you'll also feel even more confident in yourself as your body changes too. Whenever I break up w-a woman, exercise therapy has always been the best for taking my mind off it. Plus, it works as a great motivator to push harder. There are plenty of exercise groups out there you can join to where you'll meet people as well. Kills two birds w-one stone. Thank you, this is what i am doing at the moment!!! I'm going to push hard and focus on getting fit and healthy at my BEST!
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