stanchain Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 Ok. gonna make this brief. but I am really tripping right now. me and my ex broke up a year and a half ago and have stayed friends. Saturday night I saw messages on her facebook where she was trying to hook up with a guy her daughter was dating for a few months. Since then I have been distressed. I mean I am so disgusted and I don't know. it is hard to explain. I mean all the guys in the world and she chooses the guy her daughter dated? what I am trying to figure out is 1. should I tell her daughter (who I raised the last 10 years), 2. why does it bother me so much, and 3. what kind of person does this? TALK TO ME
d0nnivain Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 You stay out of it. She's an EX for a reason & it sounds like you dodged a bullet. Only a nut -- like day time talk show guest type nut -- goes after a child's EX. Whatever social media you are on that gave you this info, block the whole family. You will be better off. 3
Author stanchain Posted August 12, 2015 Author Posted August 12, 2015 guess your right... it just irritates me that my ex talks about all the this and that I did wrong and here she is trying to sleep with my stepdaughters ex. not to mention the other 2-3 guys she is trying her best to sleep with
mystikmind2005 Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 whoooa, gee, my mid life crisis detector just went into overdrive!! lol (for the ex) 1
Author stanchain Posted August 20, 2015 Author Posted August 20, 2015 I find it sad and somewhat pathetic... I've never met a person so desperate that they need to sleep with their daughters ex. I mean i don't care if he is amazing in bed or hung like a horse.... I mean really there is a million men is this world. I'm disgusted that j ever was in a relationship with this person
mystikmind2005 Posted August 21, 2015 Posted August 21, 2015 I find it sad and somewhat pathetic... I've never met a person so desperate that they need to sleep with their daughters ex. I mean i don't care if he is amazing in bed or hung like a horse.... I mean really there is a million men is this world. I'm disgusted that j ever was in a relationship with this person Oh well, you do have a right to be angry, but for your own benefit you don't want to carry bitterness. That kind of thing will linger with you and make it much harder to move on to a new relationship - because women have super detector ability for that kind of thing! lol Just try to remind yourself that your ex is a mere mortal human, and that pedestal you used to place her on, that's the thing that isn't real. I know, because i have been there done that.
Author stanchain Posted October 12, 2015 Author Posted October 12, 2015 forget all of it I am gong to tell my stepdaughter... what is my ex going to do to me. she wants to try and play me and treat me like sh-t..... make me look bad and have her family think I am this horrible person... im tired of being the bad guy
gaius Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 You're probably just going to end up hurting your step daughter if she doesn't know. I doubt it will make a huge difference on whether or not those two get together. Maybe the fact he's younger than you is what irks you so much, like how women get wounded extra deeply if they're ever replaced by a younger one. But who she has sex with now is entirely outside your control and the sooner you find a way to get over that and stop trying to insert yourself the better off you'll be. 1
Author stanchain Posted October 31, 2015 Author Posted October 31, 2015 It isn't that at all. she tries to make me look like a piece of sh-t to her family and friends. like im this horrible person and did her so wrong. yet she is doing stuff like that. That is what bothers me. not me wanting her back or nothing of that nature
RedRobin Posted October 31, 2015 Posted October 31, 2015 I dunno about the morality of it. There is another thread out there somewhere about much older men trying to date the daughters of their friends... Or the friend of their daughters... For some reason, few people there found that offensive. Lots even got on my case for saying how wrong I thought that was. Funny how when it is reversed, people get peeved. For all we know, the guy the stepdaughter dated is actually closer in age to the mom than the daughter. Who knows? Seems like few people these days have any sense at all. I think your anger at the situation is more about grieving the loss of your relationship, and yes, I do see the concern for your stepdaughter. That's pretty crappy. I agree. I'm not sure what good it will do for you to broach that topic with her though. Perhaps just find a way to reassure her that you will be there for her no matter what challenges life throws at her... Just be the responsible older person she likely needs in her life... Without inserting yourself into the family dynamics or getting drawn into them.
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