emerson21 Posted August 12, 2015 Share Posted August 12, 2015 I am pretty sure my husband is cheating on me. The sign are there and yet I choose to ignore them. He asked me for a separation a few months ago, we have been pretty disconnected the last couple of years, living our own lives, rarely hanging out. I shouldn’t have been surprise when he wanted to separate but I was. We decided to give our marriage a try; it’s been two months of us really giving it a go. It’s been great, it’s like we have fallen in love all over again. Except once a week he goes out until late, he won’t answer my texts or calls. He says he is out with the boys playing ball. Or he’s met a new friend and he’s out with them. Yesterday I found a couple notes in our car one that said “I Wuv you” and one that had a drawing of a heart. I am assuming they are from someone at work as it looks like they are on work post its. I confronted him and he denies knowing anything about them. He promises he would never ever cheat or hurt me. I gave him the chance to leave and said if he wants something else then to please go and find it and not to hurt me like this. I am not sure what I am asking. I think I know my answer. I just don’t know what to do. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 12, 2015 Share Posted August 12, 2015 The notes could have fallen out of a colleague's pocket during a trip to lunch (but if you if you believe that I have a bridge to sell you). I'd perhaps get a key logger or hire a private investigator. I wouldn't "confront" him just yet. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Iron Bubba Posted August 12, 2015 Share Posted August 12, 2015 Hire a private eye and find out for sure. Not joking in any capacity. It's what I would do. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
loveboid Posted August 12, 2015 Share Posted August 12, 2015 I think you need marriage counseling. He may stay if the other lady doesn't work out. He may then date another lady. He may make nice with you so that you don't harm him in divorce or in case he stays with you permanently. No matter what figure out what the elephant in the room is and talk about it. There usually is one. Link to post Share on other sites
Steen719 Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 Oh dear, having his cake and eating it too. Time to gather your facts and decide what you want to do once you have the truth. Sorry for your situation. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 I'd perhaps get a key logger or hire a private investigator. I wouldn't "confront" him just yet. Agree with this. You stuck your head in the sand once, don't do it again. I'd guess a PI could get you answers quickly and for minimal cost. Knowledge is power... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
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