Diezel Posted August 17, 2015 Posted August 17, 2015 It's now noonish the day after I responded to the text, I have not had a reply. I now put him in the "forget about it" pile. Done. Isn't that what you wanted? I don't get it. You don't want him in your life that way, but are wondering why you haven't gotten a reply? Is this for real? 3
Author mortensorchid Posted August 17, 2015 Author Posted August 17, 2015 I apologize, I think I started off on the wrong foot with this thread to begin with. To clarify: I met him, he told me he had three kids (by two different women) but has never been married to either of them. This gave me pause, thinking this was odd. Then he sent a text barely an hour after we had parted ways. But I had to go see my hacker buddy who was doing some emergency surgery on my laptop and desktop. We (the hacker and I) were up late and I did not respond to his texts as we were working on the computer. He texted "I hope everything is ok", the next morning I responded with everything was I was working on a project. He said he was relieved he thought I was a dine and dash type. I said no I was busy. And I posted about it here because I thought I should be wary of him being about his past, but then thought "No, give this guy a chance." He said he had plans for the weekend, I said I did as well. I responded to his text about what it is that I am looking for on Sunday, that I was looking for a human connection. He did not / has not responded and it's now Monday evening. I won't hear from him again, this I know from experience. If you have not heard from him within the first 24-48 hours of the first get together or they have not responded to a phone call/text, you will not hear from him again. He's not all that excited about me even though he seemed to be initially. Ah well, done.
Jj66 Posted August 17, 2015 Posted August 17, 2015 funny post, ff. I think that is exactly the difference between men and women. Men know where they are with a chick from the beginning - and rather rarely change their mind. Women's thinking about men evolves, it can easily go any direction. And one thing's for sure - the more she thinks / talks about him, the higher the chances she'll give the bloke a chance. Even though, initially he was a no no. That's what I see that sometimes happens to me, anyway . I have noticed this in some women: the type who go for "bad boys". She "doesn't want him" because she knows better but deep down she does want him. She lets him into her mind and then if he's persistent but not too persistent he gets another notch on his belt. 1
candie13 Posted August 17, 2015 Posted August 17, 2015 I have noticed this in some women: the type who go for "bad boys". She "doesn't want him" because she knows better but deep down she does want him. She lets him into her mind and then if he's persistent but not too persistent he gets another notch on his belt. precisely. that's why women must know since the very beginning what it is that they want. And stick to it, however attractive "trouble" boy may be and however lonely they may get and however flattering the newly found attention feels. In the end, that's exactly what he's gonna end up bringing... trouble !
Author mortensorchid Posted August 18, 2015 Author Posted August 18, 2015 precisely. that's why women must know since the very beginning what it is that they want. And stick to it, however attractive "trouble" boy may be and however lonely they may get and however flattering the newly found attention feels. In the end, that's exactly what he's gonna end up bringing... trouble ! That very well may be, but this is now a done deal. He has yet to respond to my text from Sunday and that's that.
Cupid's Puppet Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 Just to review ... He texted me the next morning that he hoped everything was ok as I had not responded to his texts he had sent the same night as the meeting. I responded the next day that I hit the ground running and still running today, chat soon (which was the truth, I had to take my laptop over to my hacker buddy to do some emergency surgery on it and he was also attempting to fix my desktop). He texted back glad to hear, he was thinking I was one of those dine and dash girls. I said we were trying to work on getting rid of this trojan, then that night (Thursday) I had a plan. The next day (Friday) I sent a good morning text, he responded with a good morning. I asked what his weekend plan was - he said he was helping a friend move and going to a birthday dinner for one of his two kids. Sounded like he was busy so I said I also had plans as well (which was the truth, I did do things), and he said he never did ask me, what is it that you're (meaning me) hoping to find with the Tinder app (which is how we met) with us swiping liking each other's pictures? That was on Friday, on Sunday I responded "I am looking for a human connection". That was, quite honestly, what I thought was the best answer. I mean, I don't know this guy, and isn't that why we do most of the things that we do with others? I have not heard from him since. Maybe this is the end of it. If so, no harm no foul. LOL but why did you wait 2 days later to respond? You yourself think that if a person doesn't respond within 24-48 hours he is not all that excited. Maybe he applied the same logic.
Author mortensorchid Posted August 18, 2015 Author Posted August 18, 2015 He said he had a plan on Saturday and I figured he was off doing the things that he was doing (the move, the party, etc.), and I was off doing other things as well. Sunday you catch up. But there has been no response. I will not see/hear from him again.
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