Is this normal?

[loveforever101]

Is it normal to think that you will get back together with your ex after a break up? I feel this way for some reason and I'm not sure why. Anyone else ever feel this way?

[PegNosePete]

Yeah, pretty typical for people in the "bargaining" stage.

[Realitycol]

Is it normal to think that you will get back together with your ex after a break up? I feel this way for some reason and I'm not sure why. Anyone else ever feel this way?

 

Dumpee or Dumper?

[loveforever101]

Dumpee, we broke up about 3 months ago if that matters at all.

[Realitycol]

Then yes it's normal.

[RocketQueen]

Totally normal. I think we all cling to wanting to keep things 'normal' and are very fearful of change. When I was dumped it was all I could think about- to the extent that I actually overlooked any issues I had with him and just concentrated on the stuff he told me I was doing wrong/my faults etc.

 

Reading through posts on this site will help to show that pretty much any stage you reach is totally normal and that someone has been there at some point.

 

Take Care xxx

[Gus Grimly]

I actually overlooked any issues I had with him and just concentrated on the stuff he told me I was doing wrong/my faults etc.

Same here. My Ex had a laundry list of things about me that were the cause of the breakup. Little things that are in every normal relationship, but she made them into major "deal breaker" issues. They'd been there for a while, all of a sudden now they're a big problem? She also neglected to take any responsibility for her part.

 

It's very normal to want to go back to a relationship you worked so hard to build. I wanted to get back together with my fiance, even after she treated me like dirt, but now that I can see the big picture. I realize I deserve far better, I don't need all that stress and drama in my life. It's already caused me to have health issues.