sandy1234 Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 Hi..I and my bf have been together for a year now..we met online.The first month of our relationship was the best,but by the third month he cheated on me with some girl from church.The day he went to see her he told me he went to meet her for some job thing cause at the moment he lost his job.I was okay. I trusted him..he had been texting this girl for sometime and I approached him about it but he said they were just friends till he cheated on me with her saying I nagged him too much about her more like I dimt trust him so that's y he went ahead and cheated on me with her.I told him that is no excuse for cheating.I packed my bags and left him,went to my apartment. He begged me for weeks then I took him back since I loved him.That chapter was closed. Then after a month or so I saw h chatting up some girl on a site. I told him about my discovery and he said he was just trying to have fun and that it dint mean anything.I let that chapter go. Then now..I just keep seeing him texting these random girls and flirting with them all the time and he keeps saying it doesn't mean anything and that he loves me. O also saw some texts his been texting this other girl from church again,a different church now..the texts are too much..they text every night and he says they are just friends.. Its hard for me to trust him after all this.. He says our relationship is the first serious relationship his ever been in and he loves me,he also says that he is really trying to stop flirting with these girls.His been saying that for a year now and it hurts me every time hedoes it.I cry about it but he says he will stop.I fear this flirting will lead to a physical cheating scandal again,but now I have decided to leave him for good and I left his house.his been calling me but I have been ignoring him for 3days now..its hard.I miss him already.I keep hoping he will change and its been a year now with no change. Please help am I making the right decision? He wants me to try and fight for this and stay with him.his saying every relationship has ups and downs..I'm 21 and he just turned 25.
yxalitis Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 1. It's called the return or enter key, USE IT! 2. Why, WHY WHY, for the love of good chocolate WHY are you still with him?? 5
veggirl Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 Ups and downs doesn't mean CHEATING. If he was interested in making things right, he wouldn't be flirting with other girls. He's "TRYING" to stop flirting??? But what, he just can't? He has no self control? Not a trait you want in a partner. Please have some self respect and dump this guy. He is a cheater! Don't get in the habit of excusing behavior like this, you will be in miserable relationships all your life if you do. Make the right decision now, your future self will thank you. 1
No Limit Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 Stop buying his lies, dump him and find a real boyfriend. 2
PegNosePete Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 I only read the subject. Why are you still talking to someone who would do that? If anyone did that to me I would be too busy dumping his cheating ass to be posting on any internet forums! Get your self esteem out of the gutter and dump the douchebag. 2
Gaeta Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 Here's a secret. The planet is full of men. They're everywhere. Men are falling left and right. This moron you have dated is not the only man available for boyfriend. When you dump him for good the earth will continue spinning. The sun will continue rising up in the morning and other men, lots of them, will want to date you. Just in case your mom never told you this let me say: Good boyfriends don't cheat, good boyfriends don't flirt with other women, good boyfriends don't lie, good boyfriends don't manipulate your feelings. 3
katiegrl Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 (edited) Guys, she DID dump him. >>>"I have decided to leave him for good, and left his house."<<< Yes, sandy to answer your question, you absolutely made the right decision. Block him and delete him. Stay strong hon, you deserve better than this chump. Edited August 12, 2015 by katiegrl 3
kendahke Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 Hi..I and my bf have been together for a year now..we met online.The first month of our relationship was the best,but by the third month he cheated on me with some girl from church.The day he went to see her he told me he went to meet her for some job thing cause at the moment he lost his job.I was okay. I trusted him..he had been texting this girl for sometime and I approached him about it but he said they were just friends till he cheated on me with her saying I nagged him too much about her more like I dimt trust him so that's y he went ahead and cheated on me with her.I told him that is no excuse for cheating.I packed my bags and left him,went to my apartment. He begged me for weeks then I took him back since I loved him.That chapter was closed. Then after a month or so I saw h chatting up some girl on a site. I told him about my discovery and he said he was just trying to have fun and that it dint mean anything.I let that chapter go. Then now..I just keep seeing him texting these random girls and flirting with them all the time and he keeps saying it doesn't mean anything and that he loves me. O also saw some texts his been texting this other girl from church again,a different church now..the texts are too much..they text every night and he says they are just friends.. Its hard for me to trust him after all this.. He says our relationship is the first serious relationship his ever been in and he loves me,he also says that he is really trying to stop flirting with these girls.His been saying that for a year now and it hurts me every time hedoes it.I cry about it but he says he will stop.I fear this flirting will lead to a physical cheating scandal again,but now I have decided to leave him for good and I left his house.his been calling me but I have been ignoring him for 3days now..its hard.I miss him already.I keep hoping he will change and its been a year now with no change. Please help am I making the right decision? He wants me to try and fight for this and stay with him.his saying every relationship has ups and downs..I'm 21 and he just turned 25. Fight for what, exactly? (Gawd! I hate that term). To remain at his side while he chases skirt? There is nothing here for which summoning up the energy to "fight" is worth it. He lies like he draws breath and he intends upon doing exactly what he's doing, despite how you feel about it. He wants to emotionally cheat on you at will, whenever and with whomever he feels like. And you are to stay there, be quiet and let him do it because, what? It means nothing? What lamebrain keeps engaging in behavior that means nothing to him? He can't find some hobby to focus his attention on? Yes, you made the right decision. You cannot have a relationship with someone with whom you are constantly having to snoop their phone to find out that your gut was right all along about their cheating. No, relationships do not have ups and downs where one person is continually emotionally w#0ring themselves with strangers and the other is constantly snooping and crying and screaming about it when they find out and the other lies and says they'll stop doing it, but they never do. That is not how relationships work. Whatever/whoever you are to him, it's not enough for him to stop and respect you. He finds women who will go along in his debasement of you. Let him have them--they all deserve one another. Leave him be: block him on every communication device you have: cell phone, text, email, facebook, snapchat, instagram, twitter--everything. He will tell you anything you want to hear to lull you back into a stupor and he will pick up right where he left off and you will find yourself back in this. 1
Author sandy1234 Posted August 12, 2015 Author Posted August 12, 2015 (edited) Than you guys.That was really helpful. I will stay strong. And I also just wanted to add that most of his friends flirt with other girls alot..or maybe even cheat.I feel like being around such people makes cheating or flirting with other girls normal. He is trying to convince me that its a normal thing that all guys do.More like I need to understand that its a guy thing. I talked to his friends girlfriends one time when we had more of a girl talk and God! It seemed to me that their boyfriends where flirting and cheating and they still stayed.so i feel like he is trying to push me to be like his friends girlfriends where they know that the guy is cheating and seem okay with it,in the sense that he will always come home back to you no matter where he went to..and I can't live with that myself. That's why he keeps telling me not to give up on him and fight for the relationship because his friends girlfriends stay after the crooked behavior of their boyfriends.BUT am saying No For good! His trying to convince me so hard that all guys at some point cheat.More like trying to bring me down about moving on,saying I will find this in my next relationship. Edited August 12, 2015 by sandy1234
smackie9 Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 well as they say "You are the company you keep......." This guy is a prime example. Not sure if these GFs actually know what these friends of his are doing or they are just that stupid.
yxalitis Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 Guys, she DID dump him. >>>"I have decided to leave him for good, and left his house."<<< Yes, sandy to answer your question, you absolutely made the right decision. Block him and delete him. Stay strong hon, you deserve better than this chump. Weeeell of she had written an intelligible paragraph spaced out with correct punctuation and grammar, I might have seen that...
No Limit Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 Than you guys.That was really helpful. I will stay strong. And I also just wanted to add that most of his friends flirt with other girls alot..or maybe even cheat.I feel like being around such people makes cheating or flirting with other girls normal. He is trying to convince me that its a normal thing that all guys do.More like I need to understand that its a guy thing. I talked to his friends girlfriends one time when we had more of a girl talk and God! It seemed to me that their boyfriends where flirting and cheating and they still stayed.so i feel like he is trying to push me to be like his friends girlfriends where they know that the guy is cheating and seem okay with it,in the sense that he will always come home back to you no matter where he went to..and I can't live with that myself. That's why he keeps telling me not to give up on him and fight for the relationship because his friends girlfriends stay after the crooked behavior of their boyfriends.BUT am saying No For good! His trying to convince me so hard that all guys at some point cheat.More like trying to bring me down about moving on,saying I will find this in my next relationship. It's a boy thing. Tell him that you are looking for a glorious MAN.
ExpatInItaly Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 You absolutely did the right thing. This guy is full of crap and a cheater. That isn't love. Keep ignoring him. He isn't worth your time. There are much better candidates for boyfriends than this clown.
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