JewelD Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 So I've mostly dated men my entire life with the exception of one female. Now I'm more interested in dating women but idk if the usual go-to dating tips and rules apply the same way to women. For example, for a femme dating a stud, do the same "he'll call if he's interested" or "They like to be the ones to approach you" etc, rules apply here? I like this girl (a stud), but I don't understand her actions. She's a terrible texter, with 8-9hr interruptions in txt conversation. But then she asked if I wanted to hang out. I couldn't (not in the area right now), but I suggested skype instead. She told me she'd text me when she got home that night, never did. So today I text her and was honest about how she was sending mixed signals and I wasn't sure if she was interested or not. She said "why would i ask to hang out if I'm not interested?" I didn't say this, but in my head I was like, well if you're interested, why does it take 3 days to have a basic conversation via text? So again, haven't heard from her since that conversation. I'm guessing she's either a catfish, or talking to a lot of other women or just clueless. I'm really just curious to see if she's a legit person and I'm a little bored as well.
La.Primavera Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 The only rules that should matter is treating each other with dignity and respect, regardless of your gender. She doesn't treat you with respect so she doesn't deserve your attention at all. Forget her and move on. 1
jen1447 Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 I've found that most women behave themselves better than men in general as far as this stuff goes, tho that doesn't mean some women won't exhibit traits that are more commonly associated with men. As to 'studs,' really not sure about that. I date feminine women, but their attitudes vary widely within that subset, with some acting more aggressive/passive/neutral sometimes and others not. No real indicators, just natural human variety. A lot of my GFs consider me very aggressive, but I don't play mind games forex. Bottom line is if you just treat everybody like human beings, with respect and consideration, and expect the same for yourself, things will be good and take care of themselves. 2
kendahke Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 A catfish wouldn't ask you to hang out in person. They'd do the exact opposite--make sure to never hang out. She did ask you to hang out, so she's not averse to seeing you in person. 1
mystikmind2005 Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 Usually this kind of behavior means that they are not really all that into you, but you'll do since they don't have anything better going on. Also it can often mean that they have been disappointed so many times that they are not able to allow themselves to get any hopes up and so the lack of enthusiasm comes from this situation as well. 1
Author JewelD Posted August 13, 2015 Author Posted August 13, 2015 Usually this kind of behavior means that they are not really all that into you, but you'll do since they don't have anything better going on. Also it can often mean that they have been disappointed so many times that they are not able to allow themselves to get any hopes up and so the lack of enthusiasm comes from this situation as well. well she did mention she had a bad breakup a few years ago and no luck with dating since. Or she could just not be that interested. I wish people could just be upfront and honest about what they want.
mystikmind2005 Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 well she did mention she had a bad breakup a few years ago and no luck with dating since. Or she could just not be that interested. I wish people could just be upfront and honest about what they want. Goodness, well there you go, if she has gone a number of years with no luck dating, well, that has gotta tell you she is not good at it before you came along. This is definitely about her, not you. looks like you will have to do the chasing, but be gentle, good luck!
Author JewelD Posted August 13, 2015 Author Posted August 13, 2015 Goodness, well there you go, if she has gone a number of years with no luck dating, well, that has gotta tell you she is not good at it before you came along. This is definitely about her, not you. looks like you will have to do the chasing, but be gentle, good luck! She still hasn't texted me back so I deleted her number. I don't think she liked the fact that I called her out on sending mixed signals. I'm sure it's for the best though. I've never met her and she was already irking me. It would have just driven me crazy if we'd ended up dating. Plus she 'claimed' to be a basketball player overseas. She tore her ACL but planned on going back once it healed. That would definitely not have worked out. ::sigh:: I'm going to take a long break from talking/dating. This was an ordeal.
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