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Hi all first timer, I met this girl online four or five weeks ago and ill start by saying straight away i was into this girl, texted all afternoon the day we met online spoke on the phone for hours the next day we had so much in comm it wasnt funny, then as soon as it began it went cold, not only that, I started asking her out that weekend so thenvshe starts playing games. Never answers hardly texts, vaguely says yes but when i go to make plans goes on about the guy thats a friend whos dropped in out of the blue... anyway kept getting worse until she started becoming a bit smart ass & treating me like an idiot. The end result was me telling her to f off and calling her a piece of dogs**t i stepped on, wrote her off didnt think ive ever speak to her again....Two weeks later i get a text asking how i am, if ive found anyone, and she was even understanding why i snapped. My question is before i re attach myself do you think she just wants to keep f*****g with me, im too into this chick to make a rational decision.

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To me, it seems she wants the attention but doesn't actually want to meet up in real life.

 

Unless she asks you out, I say just ignore her. Even if she asks you out at this point I say ignore her.

 

What you have right now is just built up in your head. It isn't real anyway.

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She misses the attention. It honestly seems like that's all she wants from you anyhow since she never wanted to actually meet up in person.

 

I would next this girl.

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Hi all first timer, I met this girl online four or five weeks ago and ill start by saying straight away i was into this girl, texted all afternoon the day we met online spoke on the phone for hours the next day

 

Way too much too soon. Online means absolutely nothing until you meet them.

Nothing.

How can you be into an electronic representation that could be complete BS?

 

Block her and move on. And next time remember until you meet them, it's not real.

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She sounds like an immature game player who has nothing better to do than jerk guys around. Who knows if she is even local or even the girl in her pics?

 

A good rule of thumb in online dating is to meet within a week. Anyone who is local, serious about meeting will do it in a reasonable time frame. All she wants is the texting relationship and shes probably not who she says she is.

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Thanks for the replies... I definitely agree that she just wants attention, thats why i lost my s**t and cut communication for a couple of weeks, shes re initated contact i wanted to try something joseb SugarLips72 were friends on Facebook, its not the same as knowing someone personally but shes far from some bot on adult friend finder, ive been tentative since she texted again the other day and have already told her we'd be better as friends i might as well just ask her out once more, try and play the friend card, failing that i'll block her, if i ignore her she'll lose a penpal, ill regret it for ages, same result anyway. I think i know how this ends anyway

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Insist on chatting via webcam. If she refuses, block her and move on to the next one.

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She's an attention-seeking little bimbo. so big deal if you're 'friends' on Facebook. That means less than nothing.

 

 

Ignore her bimbo ass.

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I started asking her out that weekend so thenvshe starts playing games.

This is when you should have blocked and moved on.

She is a time vampire.

Yes she's playing with you like a dancing puppet. Block and move on.

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Thanks again, you've helped cleared my head. I asked her out again this weekend, shes busy, she'wont be hearing from me again

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Block. Delete. Forget her. Move on. Good move.

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Block. Delete. Forget her. Move on. Good move.

 

Agreed.......

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Did you ever actually meet her in person? and how long did you talk before she dropped off?

 

I think it's a mistake to get too attached when online dating before you've even met.. Those stages are still really just the stages of finding out IF you're interested, and there are things that you just can't tell about a person from behind a computer screen. I have talked to guys for a few days and then realized after a while that there's something not clicking and decided to move on.. she doesn't owe you anything. she doesn't know you. you haven't even been on a date. Just because you felt like you were clicking, doesn't mean you necessarily were.

 

She definitely could have been more upfront about it, and shouldn't have come back later if she knew she wasn't interested in you. But you are acting like you were betrayed when there was no relationship to betray.

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