Polo Posted May 9, 2005 Posted May 9, 2005 So, its been about four months. I started NC the last night we saw one another, and though it was rough, I kept a stiff upper lip and worked my way through it. So, stupid me, I ask a mutual friend how she's doing. I thought I could handle it, and I certainly didn't think she would have hooked-up so soon. Well, she has, and to make matters worse, its with a ex-highschool boyfriend (a boy friend she dated for three years and dumped because she was "never really that into him"). I'm a wreck. Had a match this Sunday and almost got killed, as I was distracted with the whole mess. I have no urge to contact her (Why? What good would it do?), but I'm left with so many questions. How could she move one so quickly? (Probably because she had done so months and months ago). Why did she go back to this loser (I don't mean that prejoritively; he hasn't had a girlfriend since she left him ten years ago, and he's been pining ever since). Did the last five years and our engagement mean nothing?
chris1063 Posted May 9, 2005 Posted May 9, 2005 Similar situation to you . My ex and I broke up about and a half months ago. I only moved out 3 weeks ago and she is seeing somebody else. I suspect that this had been going on while we were still together but I can't be sure. We were together for 6 years. I've had NC with her for 2 weeks now. It hurts like hell man I know. The weekends I find are the worst time but you have to get on with your life and try and forget her. She is still living in the house we shared until it sells so I won't get closure until that happens. I try and fill my nights and free time with things to do but it's take it day by day. I go to the gym every night and see friends a few times a week. I still cry sometimes when I think of her with somebody else but I know that i'll find somebody eventually too although i'm not ready at the moment. Just go one day at a time. You can get through this. The people on here will help too. It takes a long time but stay strong and look after you now.
Polo Posted May 9, 2005 Posted May 9, 2005 Chris, thanks so much. The best advice I can get out of family and friends are "move on". Sometimes I think they don't really know just how hard that is. I take comfort in knowing that the folks on here know how I'm feeling, and I cherish their advice because of it. Thanks again.
NTB Posted May 9, 2005 Posted May 9, 2005 well at least she didn't call you in her drunken mess after her date with the new guy to tell you she was dating somebody new like my ex gf did me. this is tearing me up. but anyway best thing is to just try and keep yourself busy and try not to think about her and the new guy..........things will get better just takes some time
DCPolo Posted May 9, 2005 Posted May 9, 2005 What's really bugging me is this: I deserve her happiness. Not that I deserve to be as happy as she is, but rather, if she is going to destroy our relationship, then she better damn-well get out there and find bliss. I me, find everything I was and more, me plus all the things I didn't give her. But what does she do? Goes running back to the sucker that has worshiped her since highschool. He's not what she wants, he's just easy. She was too scared to REALLY look for what she wanted. That was a cope-out, and not worth trashing out relationship for. Its very selfish all the way around. She's going to dump this poor sucker, and he'll be right where he was a decade ago. Meanwhile, I'm heartbroken, and she just keeps on going, leaving a wake of destruction.
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