Ex gf afraid of me loves me but broke up

[Craftydre]

Long story short. My ex still loves me but said I'm too controlling and bad tempered. She said she still loves me but sees no future with me. She said if I could change over night she would give me a chance but that's not possible. How can I convince her to see me and give me another chance? I've tried begging for s long time now but it's not working. She still talks to me everyday but if I don't txt her she won't txt me either. She is still sexually turned on by me and has said I'm the best sex she has ever had, and that she won't see other guys as she has o recover from this break up for at least s month or two. How can I get her back?

 

She also says I'm very persuasive and does not want to be sucked back in. I want her to be sucked back in but this time without the bad stuff. Not having her has made me deal more with no having control and seeing it's not that bad to butt out and my temper has gone away too as I've realized there's no point.

[darkbloom]

You can't persuade anyone to do anything.

 

You should seek counseling for your temper and improve yourself. Why would you want to be in a relationship with someone who is physically scared of you? You're the problem, not her. She has every right to not want to be sucked back in. You are asking for our help in manipulating her.

 

Your real question should be "how do I help myself?"

[darkbloom]

Long story short. My ex still loves me but said I'm too controlling and bad tempered. She said she still loves me but sees no future with me. She said if I could change over night she would give me a chance but that's not possible. How can I convince her to see me and give me another chance?I've tried begging for s long time now but it's not working.She still talks to me everyday but if I don't txt her she won't txt me either. She is still sexually turned on by me and has said I'm the best sex she has ever had, and that she won't see other guys as she has o recover from this break up for at least s month or two. How can I get her back?

 

She also says I'm very persuasive and does not want to be sucked back in.I want her to be sucked back in but this time without the bad stuff. Not having her has made me deal more with no having control and seeing it's not that bad to butt out and my temper has gone away too as I've realized there's no point.

 

1. She broke up with you because you're controlling and you have a bad temper.

2. You tried begging and that didn't work. So now you're here to ask our best advice on how to manipulate her to come back to you.

3. She is asking for space from you to recover.

4. Persuasive (read manipulative. )

5. You want her to be sucked back in so you can further manipulate her. She doesn't want to be manipulated anymore. You can't just will your temper togo away. That's not how your anger works.

 

See your bolded statements above. Everything you've said is all about what YOU want. You didn't once consider that she gets to have a say. That maybe she doesn't want to be your girlfriend anymore. You can't control her into being with you. You should seek counseling for this as they will better be able to help you see the issues and what steps you can take to fix them.

Edited August 12, 2015 by darkbloom

[casey.lives]

what u are trying to do ...this.. is part of the controlling they are complaining about. It's also obvious that u have communication problems with this person because u are resorting to extremes ie bad temper. Personally, the person who blames me for driving me to a place of control or bad temper (that nobody wants to be in, because im sure u prefer being trusted and trusting them; you prefer talking sweetly with the one you love and having a mutual and equal ability to be communicate. im sure anyone in love chooses the later in both cases.) But ur ex blames u ... and u can't fight this false perception they assigned u .. and u definitely can't fight it by pushing .. Just let go and try to have faith

[La.Primavera]

You said you’re your ex

claims to be in love with me and won't do anything with anyone else for a while but sees no future in me and is afraid of me

 

she says if I change she will be with me.

 

This makes it very clear that your temper is the reason she won’t take you back, so if you change ie: get help for your anger management then she will take you back. It is a fixable situation if you are willing to make the effort. Right now she isn’t going to take you back (no matter how good the sex was) because she hasn’t seen you take action to improve things.

 

No one is perfect, but if your ex is afraid of you then there is a really big problem. She obviously cares about you very deeply but the trust is broken and that takes time to repair. You can begin to fix things by dealing with the issues that made her afraid of you. If you think she is worth the effort then you will do whatever it takes.

[goldway90]

"Ex gf afraid of me" Well that a big red banner. Sounds like your had a toxic relationship with some abuse in the mix. She said she doesn't see a future with you, it's time to move on and work on your issues.