Deia Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 (edited) I got married 3 weeks ago after 2 years dating. I am 46 years old. He is 52. My husband is licensed as a tile contractor in the State we live now. He doesn't make a lot of money and me either. We are moving to another State and he has to get his new license for this another State. The problem is that for he gets this license he had to have a certain amount of money in his savings account and He doenst have the total of the amount that the contractor's border is requiring. Actually He just has 10 percent of this money. The contractor's border requires that the contractor has this money as a warranty that the contractor will finish his job. We still have separated banking accounts. We didn't have time to change it yet. All money that I have in my own saving account it is this amount he needs. The contractor's border told to my husband if I transfer my money to his account for only one day for the contractor's border does an account verification he can get the license as he needs and he can transfer the money back to my account. I took 7 years to save this money in a hard job (as a housekeeper) and I will have zero Dollar in my savings after I transfer this money to his account. He is honest and I believe that after he get his license he will return the money to my savings but I don't know if it is right or fair I do it. Otherwise, if I don't do it I know he will be upset with me and he will think I don't trust him. How could I manager it in a nice way? We just got married. I would love to know your opinion about that guys. Thank you. Edited August 12, 2015 by Deia
Gloria25 Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 (edited) I say give him a kiss, big hug, and look him in the eye and let him know that you have confidence in him that he'll make it happen... Oh, and hold onto your money. This guy is 52 and IMO had no business marrying if he doesn't have his life together. Yeah, I got the whole "In sickness and in health" thing, but you don't enter a marriage with debt, drama, and/or your SO coming to your "rescue" 3 weeks after the wedding. I was reading your other posts about this guy and he sounds like a train wreck. Not sure why you married him. If you wanna rescue people maybe looking into volunteering and/or social work would be more appropriate. Oh, and for me, the issue isn't about him being honest...it's about him being a "man", pulling up his bootstraps and figuring out how to resolve his issues - not with his hand out begging a woman for cash. People should be allowed to have pride in working hard and resolving their problems in life. If they keep on getting "rescued", when/how are they gonna gain self-esteem and/or pride in themselves? Edited August 12, 2015 by Gloria25 2
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