Adametokillfor Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 I have been with my boyfriend for 11 months. I have always had a feeling that he was not showing me the real him to the point that I thought he was cheating on me. I have had bad breakups in the past and my most recent I was cheated on multiple times so I chalked my uneasiness to insecurities that I need to solve. Every time I would tell my BF I felt something wasn't right. He would tell me not to let my past beat me twice. I had trust issues which I knew and I felt like I could work it out with him since he was so understanding. Whenever I would try to break up with him, he would accuse me of trying to ruin a good thing. We have had a couple of hiccups in the past but I brought myself to give him the benefit of the doubt. Fast forward to this morning, I go through his Google Voice account. While we were in a relationship, he put up an ad for a cleaning woman who would clean naked. He admitted to the person that he would jerk off while they were cleaning. When confronted he said he was bored and would not go through with it. We role play and I dress up for him for free. We have great, awesome, creamy sex so I'm like WTF. Two months before we were in a relationship he solicited prostitutes a lot. Not just talking dirty, discussing prices and locations. One correspondence had "I'm at the LaQuinta right now." I also found that he corresponded with men and watched a man jack off. He requested another to go down on him. I don't know if he went through with it. Am I overreacting? Obviously, I don't trust him hence the violation of privacy but he has never mentioned being bi or bi curious and we discuss everything. I've told him things no one else knows. While snooping found out my bf solicits prostitutes prior to us and some of those prostitutes were men. I don't think many condoms were used.
quattrob Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 This guy has some sort of mental sexual addiction that is not healthy at all. It's disturbing and downright disgusting. He will not give these up that easily so if you can't accept him for this addiction then it's best you found someone else. I personally wouldn't trust someone like him if I were a you and I definitely don't see a good future being with a person like him.
Author Adametokillfor Posted August 12, 2015 Author Posted August 12, 2015 The maid thing threw me. The prostitution was before us and part of me is like the past is the past but I don't want to be with someone like that. It was not a one time thing. There were at least 10-20 pieces of correspondence between him and the hookers. I feel hurt because I looked but I know this is for the best. He even asked one guy if he was a bottom.
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