Ex came back, but left again

[michael-9]

Hi there,

It's been a while since I've visited this forum, especially since I lost my username and password. I had a bad break up in June 2014 with a girl I basically loved for 10 years (not that old, Im 23). She went back to her ex, and lied about it for months. She blamed me and I kind of got it stuck in my head that it maybe was my fault: She was on a holiday (where her ex also lives) I blew up her phone when she didnt respond one night, I panicked and texted a lot, was worried that something happened to her as she suddenly stopped responding after midnight.

 

She blamed me for that and didnt respond for weeks only to break up with me, when she finally did respond. So fastforward June 2015, I saw she was single and she never gave me a chance to talk about why and what happened. She convinced me that is was because of me and she wanted to try again. So I told her that if she came back from her holiday she must be 100% single. No bull****, and no exes anymore. She promised me a million times that it was definitely over.. All of a sudden she stopped responding and answering my phone calls 2 weeks ago, shes acting weird and always says she has no ''time''.. When I ask about boys she says im being crazy..and I found out today through social media that she is back with her ex, in a hotel (the ex lives there, and that place where she goes on holiday happens to be her birthplace).. When I confronted her, she blocked my number on her phone..We actually had plans to move in together and all that..

 

So kind of sucks a lot. I actually was a virgin last year, and so was she. I kind of saved it for her for more or less 5/7 years, which was stupid. Lost it last year to a girl, and had another girlfriend after that. But I also found out that she lost her virginity to this guy and she gave me a lot of information I wish I didnt hear. Last year I begged and cried, and all that pathetic stuff you shouldnt do (was my first real break up). Now Ive kind of accepted it, since it is familiar.

 

Point to this is, what Im trying to say. Eventually we will all get over the heartbreak. I loved this girl for 10/ 11 years, sacrificed a lot of things for her. But when she left I was heartbroken for months. After about 7 months I was totally healed (as far as I was concerned). I was very hesitant to contact her when it was over with her ex this year, but I wanted to know since I really loved her.. Big mistake.

 

That is what Im trying to say. Some things are better left broken. I was doing amazing, exercised 5 times a week, worked a lot and got my bachelor of science diploma at my university, also no problems in the girls department when I finally stopped ''saving'' me for this girl.. And now that I contacted her again, I got my hopes up again, figuring it was my fault last year (which it obviously wasnt), so what Im trying to say is, if you finally get there (and you will since I loved this girl for 10 years and I got over it), dont go back. Let it be broken, no matter how tempting it is. Youll only set yourself back and you cheat yourself out of happiness.. As for myself, Ill just close the door completely this time and try to move on from this. Hope it wont take 7 months again, but I highly doubt that since Im not nowhere near devastated as when she first broke up with me , last year..

 

Wish you all lots of love and I hope this shows a few people that sometimes, with some exes.. its just better to let it go

[ByMyself01]

Great story. I can't wait until I get over my hill!