Vbernardoo Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 If you read my last post you'd know the background of my relationship and how things are. I am new to this website, so forgive me if I didn't type correctly or separate paragraphs. But on a different note more has happened. I have no idea how old most of you are but please try to think from the point of a teenager. So since my friend tweeted "hate seeing my bff cry over a guy who doesn't deserve her" my boyfriend got extremely mad. He told me he was going to break up with me and that I'll always choose her over him and that I "defended her." Which I don't understand whatsoever. How could I defend her... I didn't reply or fav the tweet? I also didn't tell her to take it down or didn't stop her from tweeting it but I can't tell people what to tweet or delete. And If I'm completely honest I would never listen to her advice or take sides with her over my boyfriend. So once we stopped arguing about that he gave me this guilt trip about how he can never please me and how he can't give me the world and how he ****ed up. Yes, he did **** up because he was talking to his ex. But he does please me and I feel like he gives me the world. And I am in love with him. And he's told me the same. At this point we weren't fighting we were calmly talking. (Btw this is all over text because he's "not ready to see me" ) I asked him where do we go from here because I was going to break up with him the other day but now talkin to him I couldn't. So he asked me what I thought and I told him "I think we should try again but if something or someone interferes with us we should definitely have this talk again" and he said "I'm not sure what I want. I feel like with college and the stress that comes with a girl are a lot." I replied to that saying "if that's what you're worried about I don't want to get in the way. So I guess at this point it's all up to you." He said "idk. i hate to just end it but i feel like everything is turned on me. nobody wants us together i feel. it sucks. I wanna stay with you. I don't wanna let go." I replied with "It's up to you. Other people shouldn't tell you what to do. It's your relationship. If you're happy who cares. Idk if you are. But if not then idk. Just feel like you care so much about what others think and then forget to think about you." Then he said "it's not others on my side. Just trying to think about the future and all." I said "and you don't see a future with me. That's perfectly fine. I get it. I don't want to get in the way." Then he said "ugh. ****in hate decisions." And I said "I'm sorry. I don't want to be an option and I'd rather this not be over text." Then he said " I know. That's why it's awkward. But I'm also not going to drive to you house to maybe say two words. I feel like a piece of ****." And I said "alright so it's done. Is that what you're saying ?" And he said "idk" and I said "alright well I'm going to sleep. You can break up with me tomorrow I you'd like. Love you" and he said "love you too baby." I have never been so confused in my life. If he was sure on what he wanted to do maybe this would be easier. But the fact he keeps going back and forth. I'm okay if we break up. I know I love him and it was amazing while it lasted. They say "if you love something set it free." So maybe that's the best thing. But if he does want to stay together I'm 100% okay with that. I'm over the fact he was talking to his ex and I already forgave him. But now the only thing holding him back is my friends (because of that tweet) and the future. He still has another month of college and I feel like he should spend it with me. But that's up to him. NEED ADVICE PLEASE. And if your advice is "you're 15, you have your whole life ahead of you. This is how high school dating is" I really don't want to hear that. It's irrelevant. I'm asking for advice on the situation im in NOW. Not the bigger picture.
d0nnivain Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 Your BF is being a bit ridiculous. To break up with you because of what someone else did is not fair. If he thinks that little of you, then you need to think long & hard if he's worth this. When you are in HS & your SO is away at college there are a lot of pitfalls. You haven't experienced it yet, but college opens whole new worlds changes people. It's natural to want to explore & gets harder & harder to hang on to the HS BF/GF back home. You can't fix your relationship over text. At the very least use the voice feature & talk. Is your BFF the only one who doesn't care for your BF? If so then it's a personality conflict but if everyone has issues with him, you need to think about what they see that you are overlooking. 1
QueenDafine Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 Well.. that sounds to me, how he's reacting to the tweet, that the tweet might not be the only things that's intiating him to think about a breakup.as he explained he's having a lot of stress with college and school (which is normal), but it's strange to be so angry over such a little thing. Unless that little thing has turned into something big, but I'm sure if your friends were continually sabotaging your relationship you'd have already talked to them about it by now? Anyway, you're right to leave it up to him to make the decision. If you'really looking to keep your relationship it's really important you have a talk in PERSON, or even at the very least on the phone. Physically seeing you SO in person makes them think a little harder because it's real. Other than that you seem pretty mature to handle this despite your age. And your doing a good job of not pressing him, staying calm about the situation. Good luck with your decisions.
mystikmind2005 Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 Ever heard the saying "hit/struck a nerve"? That is what that tweet is all about! I think the BF believes that tweet - it put the reality of what his conscience is telling him, right in his face. And because he loves you, he does not want to hurt you. I could be wrong but that is my feeling with this situation.
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