maddiewilson Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 (edited) I've been friends with this guy for about a year now, and we've been FWB for around 2 months. I'm a 20 year old undergrad and he's a 29 year old grad student at my university. He told me he has feelings for me, but does not want a relationship because of the age difference. Shortly after he told me this, I found out from somebody that he has actually been in an LDR with a girl in China for 3 years. I had met her one time when she came to visit, before we started hooking up, but he introduced her as his friend. Why would he lie to me about her? And do I have the right to confront him about this? Edited August 11, 2015 by maddiewilson
mrldii Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 I'm not getting where he lied to you about - or cheated on you with - his LDR. He may have lied to - and cheated on - his LDR about/with you, but you said you're just friends with benefits and that he told you he doesn't want a relationship with you, because of the age difference. If you were just FWBg him because you thought in time he'd change his mind and the two of you would be in an exclusive relationship, then on top of the host of other reasons you should, you should stop seeing him...you now know for a fact he lies and cheats while in a relationship. Best of luck to you...
craw Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 You're a little bambi in the dating world - hop along away from this loser. 1
Author maddiewilson Posted August 11, 2015 Author Posted August 11, 2015 He lied to me because he said the reason he doesnt want a relationship is because of the age difference. But the real reason is that he already is in one.
mrldii Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 He lied to me because he said the reason he doesnt want a relationship is because of the age difference. But the real reason is that he already is in one. Well, he may not be lying...maybe even if he was completely available, he would not want a relationship with you because of the age difference. But, I do agree, even withstanding THAT, he IS a proven liar...that you now know. 2
bachdude Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 He lied to me because he said the reason he doesnt want a relationship is because of the age difference. But the real reason is that he already is in one. But you don't know this for sure. How do you know this story is true? Who is this "someone" who told you he was in a long distance relationship for three years with a girl from China?
Author maddiewilson Posted August 11, 2015 Author Posted August 11, 2015 But you don't know this for sure. How do you know this story is true? Who is this "someone" who told you he was in a long distance relationship for three years with a girl from China? One of our mutual friends, told me that the guy was going to China this summer to visit his girlfriend. He didn't know that I was unaware that he was in a relationship with her, and he also didn't know we've been hooking up.
No Limit Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 The girl in China is naive to believe a guy would stay celibate while she's away, and you are naive for believing his feelings-speech. He's looking for girls he can play for extra-sex, I'd stay away from that type if I were you.
Fleur de cactus Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 You are FWB , I don't see your concern. If you don't like that he has a gf end the relationship. 2
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