guild11 Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 Hey guys, I'm really torn between few things and cant make up my mind, I'm 25 and I live with my parents, I have a GF(26) been together 3 month so far. The whole part of bringing my gf to my house gets a bit annoying, no actual privacy or freedom. Obviously I should move out and get my own space but there are few problems, Half of my salary goes to parents to pay off the house loan, other part goes on my student's loan (software engineer), with all that I manage to save some and allow myself not to be cheap. If I move out I wont be able both support myself and my parents and pay for education on top of that, I still have 2 years to go until I get my degree. I talked to my gf and hinted on moving together, she said its too early and if she moves in that will be with the person she marries. I asked some of my close friends but they dont seem to be serious about it or just drag it for too long. How I deal with this situation ?
joseb Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 I would advise against moving in with your GF. Too early in the relationship. It sounds like financially it makes more sense to stay put till you finish your degree. May not be what you want to hear? You could always do thinks like go away to a hotel for the weekend as a way to have some time alone. 1
CarrieT Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 Way too early to move in with girlfriend. You should know each other at least a year - beyond the honeymoon stage - before considering living together.
Gloria25 Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 (edited) Wow, it's threads like me that dread being single now a days... So, you're gonna move out from your parents providing support for you to your gf doing it for you? I, am a woman in a man's world approaching 40...I NEVER, EVER had anyone support me. And, believe it or not, I was thinking about that today...how it gets so lonely and stressful to be on my own - knowing if something ever happen to me, no one can help me cuz I'm a rock for my family and all the poop they have going on; and, how I need to get some sort of life insurance to cover my bills and stuff in case I have an accident or something. Quite frankly, from when we were old enough, or dad put us to sell food on his catering truck under the guise of it being the "family business" (yea, where he sits on his butt and gives orders to everyone). When I got into my teens/tweens, didn't even get to save money for myself cuz had to help with the family bills. My family drained me to the point were I couldn't afford to go the techie college I busted my arse for to pass that math/entrance exam and ended up joining the military and here I am. I take pride in me somehow figuring out how to put food on my table w/o depending on others and I don't feel empathy for a "man" who cannot do that for himself. So, while some women get horny for paying half on dates and/or shacking up and/or marring some guy who needs their income, it makes my Lady J quite dry...but I guess these are the sad times we live in - where a "male" is no longer encouraged to be a "man" and handle his own business. I say moving out for vagina when you don't even have your own stuff is a mix-up of priorities and embarrassment to reach out to a woman to help where your parents will leave off. I say finish school, be thankful and grateful for your parent's support and then once you got your own stuff - then focus on vagina... But that's just me... Edited August 11, 2015 by Gloria25
Author guild11 Posted August 11, 2015 Author Posted August 11, 2015 Wow, it's threads like me that dread being single now a days... So, you're gonna move out from your parents providing support for you to your gf doing it for you? I, am a woman in a man's world approaching 40...I NEVER, EVER had anyone support me. And, believe it or not, I was thinking about that today...how it gets so lonely and stressful to be on my own - knowing if something ever happen to me, no one can help me cuz I'm a rock for my family and all the poop they have going on; and, how I need to get some sort of life insurance to cover my bills and stuff in case I have an accident or something. Quite frankly, from when we were old enough, or dad put us to sell food on his catering truck under the guise of it being the "family business" (yea, where he sits on his butt and gives orders to everyone). When I got into my teens/tweens, didn't even get to save money for myself cuz had to help with the family bills. My family drained me to the point were I couldn't afford to go the techie college I busted my arse for to pass that math/entrance exam and ended up joining the military and here I am. I take pride in me somehow figuring out how to put food on my table w/o depending on others and I don't feel empathy for a "man" who cannot do that for himself. So, while some women get horny for paying half on dates and/or shacking up and/or marring some guy who needs their income, it makes my Lady J quite dry...but I guess these are the sad times we live in - where a "male" is no longer encouraged to be a "man" and handle his own business. I say moving out for vagina when you don't even have your own stuff is a mix-up of priorities and embarrassment to reach out to a woman to help where your parents will leave off. I say finish school, be thankful and grateful for your parent's support and then once you got your own stuff - then focus on vagina... But that's just me... I guess you didnt understand me correctly, I provide support to my parents and not the other way around. I wasnt planning to move with GF so she would support me, if I stop supporting my parents I can live very well in my own apartment
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