Girlfriend slept over guy friends house

[RyanBeynolds]

People are gonna need to finish reading the thread before replying.

 

SHE ADMIT SHE CHEATED!!!

 

Now she's begging for another chance HA

[Amalyn]

People are gonna need to finish reading the thread before replying.

 

SHE ADMIT SHE CHEATED!!!

 

Now she's begging for another chance HA

 

 

Do not give this one another chance.

 

I bet she cheated before this.

 

What happened when she was watching those movies with multiple guys late at night?

[phineas]

Then what do you do if you don't date?

 

Hang

drink

bend her over the couch arm & splooge on her back like some of her other guy friends did / are going to.

 

seriously, this girl is bang buddy material & nothing more.

[lino]

To be used as a piece of a#s and nothing more.

 

Biggest red flag I saw you mention was that she has mainly male friends.

 

Nothing wrong with a woman having guy friends but when they male:female friends ratio is heavily biased towards the male side, it isn't a good thing and your story proves it.

 

I bet she also says 'girls are so catty/bitchy ' as a reason for why she has few female friends

[RyanBeynolds]

Do not give this one another chance.

 

I bet she cheated before this.

 

What happened when she was watching those movies with multiple guys late at night?

 

Apparently nothing, LOL!

 

She keeps messaging me saying she doesn't remember any of it so she should be forgiven because she didn't choose to do it.

 

So I told her to fIle a rape charge and if she wins it then MAYBE ill talk to her

[RyanBeynolds]

Hey guys, just an update.

 

She keeps messaging me and since I'm a caring dude, I told her to seek counseling because she keeps saying all this bad stuff. No, I am NOT taking her back, whatsoever. If anything, I'll have her on the side so I won't be on a dry spell, because I'm very sexually active. I'm a strong user of condoms and told her not to expect any kissing either. Yeah, I know I said I'm kind, but now she's back to where she started, just someone I'd ****.

 

Anyhow, the reason I posted is because she keeps sating she would do anything to help the situation. I know she chose to **** this dude, but I needed her to realize this without her just saying I'm insulting her.

 

So i told her to post on a forum. If you guys would like to see it, here it is:

 

Redd.it/3gqftb

[DKT3]

Hey guys, just an update.

 

She keeps messaging me and since I'm a caring dude, I told her to seek counseling because she keeps saying all this bad stuff. No, I am NOT taking her back, whatsoever. If anything, I'll have her on the side so I won't be on a dry spell, because I'm very sexually active. I'm a strong user of condoms and told her not to expect any kissing either. Yeah, I know I said I'm kind, but now she's back to where she started, just someone I'd ****.

 

Anyhow, the reason I posted is because she keeps sating she would do anything to help the situation. I know she chose to **** this dude, but I needed her to realize this without her just saying I'm insulting her.

 

So i told her to post on a forum. If you guys would like to see it, here it is:

 

Redd.it/3gqftb

 

If the stuff there was true, WOW. She cheated twice and still hangs out with ex BF'S. Why are you even questioning this. Ever heard the K-Camp song "it ain't nothing to cut that B off"?

[RyanBeynolds]

If the stuff there was true, WOW. She cheated twice and still hangs out with ex BF'S. Why are you even questioning this. Ever heard the K-Camp song "it ain't nothing to cut that B off"?

 

I'm not questioning it, what I initially questioned was how she ended up sleeping over there. It all changed when I heard she cheated. Yes, I've heard the song lol.

 

I never really had a problem with her ex's. She never hung with them 1 on 1 and I would see my girl I used to talk to from time to time.

 

The "1st cheat" was when we first started talking. We weren't exclusive yet, not that it gives her a reason. She lied for so long about that until she finally came clean. Said she didn't want to tell me because it wasn't my business because it was before the relationship. It clearly still affected me, however.

 

Yeah guys, I know... I picked a real winner! Thats just how it is sometimes, I liked her and went for a snake and ended up getting bit.

[RyanBeynolds]

If the stuff there was true, WOW. She cheated twice and still hangs out with ex BF'S. Why are you even questioning this. Ever heard the K-Camp song "it ain't nothing to cut that B off"?

 

And wait, do you think I was in the wrong for calling her a whore now? Ha!

[Ruby Slippers]

Anybody who drinks to the point that they don't remember CHEATING ON YOU is not relationship material - they're a train wreck.

 

Hopefully she's learned a lesson here. But the sad thing is, probably not. People who let their drinking get so out of hand like this usually have a problem with binge drinking and won't get it under control for many years, if ever.

[Chi townD]

So many holes in her story as compared to you, it's not even funny.

 

 

Her version, she was black out drunk and didn't even know she had sex. Her friends had to tell her that she hooked up. She felt a need to come clean to you.

 

 

Yet, she tells YOU that she slept over there because she was too drunk to drive (meaning that she made a conscious decision to stay where she was at. Thus, REMEMBERS making that decision). Then, tells you that she slept on the couch. That's not coming clean. That's lying.

 

 

Then, two days later she comes clean and tells you that she slept with this dude. BUT! She was blacked out and doesn't remember any of it. You advise her to go to the cops, but she doesn't want to do that! Why? Because she knows that she would be sending an innocent man to jail. Sure, those two might have been drinking, but this is more likely a case of drunken consensual sex from both involved. Therefore, not rape. And she knows it. Because she's MORE concerned about getting her boyfriend back and her actually being raped is secondary if you read her story. So, I'm not buying it.

 

 

Dude, just move on. Sure, she might have made a drunken mistake, but that's a mistake she knew she was making.

[RyanBeynolds]

So many holes in her story as compared to you, it's not even funny.

 

 

Her version, she was black out drunk and didn't even know she had sex. Her friends had to tell her that she hooked up. She felt a need to come clean to you.

 

 

Yet, she tells YOU that she slept over there because she was too drunk to drive (meaning that she made a conscious decision to stay where she was at. Thus, REMEMBERS making that decision). Then, tells you that she slept on the couch. That's not coming clean. That's lying.

 

 

Then, two days later she comes clean and tells you that she slept with this dude. BUT! She was blacked out and doesn't remember any of it. You advise her to go to the cops, but she doesn't want to do that! Why? Because she knows that she would be sending an innocent man to jail. Sure, those two might have been drinking, but this is more likely a case of drunken consensual sex from both involved. Therefore, not rape. And she knows it. Because she's MORE concerned about getting her boyfriend back and her actually being raped is secondary if you read her story. So, I'm not buying it.

 

 

Dude, just move on. Sure, she might have made a drunken mistake, but that's a mistake she knew she was making.

 

Not defending her, whatsoever, just clarifying the story. She messaged me at about 3am and everyone was still up. Texts me at 5am mad I didn't say I love you back and said that she keeps waking up. I assume this is where the sex occurred. She texted me the next morning like nothing happened and that's when I asked if she stayed over there and she said yes on the couch because she was too drunk. That's when we started arguing.

 

As I said, I don't believe her so I think she chose this. But from her story and what others told me (mutual friends) that she was in bed already and this kid walks in there and she starts grabbing him and she enjoyed it. The sick thing is all of her "guy friends" were watching this happen through the blinds. WTF?! Then after it happened she slapped one of her friends that egged her on to do it and went to the couch.

 

But yeah, I kept saying if it wasnt consensual then file a rape charge. She kept avoiding that decision, which is how I knew. I'm still shocked she can't own up to it.

[DKT3]

And wait, do you think I was in the wrong for calling her a whore now? Ha!

 

My comments was never about her, it was about you understanding the difference between a whore, which is someone that uses sex in a unhealthy manner, and a healthy well adjusted woman who has sex because she enjoys it. Maybe they slept with the exact samd number of men, but how they got there is totally different. A healthy sexually active woman can adjust accordingly when in a relationship IE not cheat. A whore normally can't because there are deep seeded issues that have to be dealt with. Your ex has issues, drinking, lack of respect for relationship, entitlement, a need for male attention, boundaries and that's just what we can tell from the little bit of the story you both have told.

[h0000]

Can I ask OP what was it about her that attracted you at the beginning and made her your gf?

[RyanBeynolds]

Can I ask OP what was it about her that attracted you at the beginning and made her your gf?

 

She is very attractive, some say out of my league. Everywhere we go she turns heads. Although at times it didn't seem like it, she had smarts. At first she was planning to be an engineer, but switched due to physics and now is studying actuarial science. She was fun to be with. Although she stated I was all of the fun in the relationship, no matter what I wanted to do, she was down to do it. If I wanted to take a 2 hour trip to the beach, she would go. If I wanted to go to the pool, she would go. She seemingly cared about me and would do my laundry, clean my apartment, etc. We really did have a very happy relationship, and this girl I talked to prior to dating my ex was shocked we broke up because of how happy we were.

 

The only thing I would complain about her is her explosive attitude. I'm a very funny guy, and she was more serious. I would also always get mad because she would never listen to me (as I'm sure you could probably infer from my previous posts). If I told her to bring my key, she would forget it. If I told her that I was running to the store so she can start boiling noodles, she would forget to. This would make me very frustrated to not feel listened to.

 

Also, the sex was lacking, moreso for my end. I like morning sex, afternoon sex, and night sex. Sex in the car. A quickie. Going for an hour.

 

Honestly, even though she was very attractive to me, she could not satisfy me sexually. Many times I wouldn't finish and kept going and she would get dry and we would have to stop. She never gave morning sex. Would only give fellatio for about 2 minutes. If there was something we butted heads about most, it was the sex.

Edited August 13, 2015 by RyanBeynolds

[h0000]

She is very attractive, some say out of my league. Everywhere we go she turns heads. Although at times it didn't seem like it, she had smarts. At first she was planning to be an engineer, but switched due to physics and now is studying actuarial science. She was fun to be with. Although she stated I was all of the fun in the relationship, no matter what I wanted to do, she was down to do it. If I wanted to take a 2 hour trip to the beach, she would go. If I wanted to go to the pool, she would go. She seemingly cared about me and would do my laundry, clean my apartment, etc. We really did have a very happy relationship, and this girl I talked to prior to dating my ex was shocked we broke up because of how happy we were.

 

The only thing I would complain about her is her explosive attitude. I'm a very funny guy, and she was more serious. I would also always get mad because she would never listen to me (as I'm sure you could probably infer from my previous posts). If I told her to bring my key, she would forget it. If I told her that I was running to the store so she can start boiling noodles, she would forget to. This would make me very frustrated to not feel listened to.

 

Also, the sex was lacking, moreso for my end. I like morning sex, afternoon sex, and night sex. Sex in the car. A quickie. Going for an hour.

 

Honestly, even though she was very attractive to me, she could not satisfy me sexually. Many times I wouldn't finish and kept going and she would get dry and we would have to stop. She never gave morning sex. Would only give fellatio for about 2 minutes. If there was something we butted heads about most, it was the sex.

Would you say it was mostly the look that previously made you willing to put up with her history?

[RyanBeynolds]

Would you say it was mostly the look that previously made you willing to put up with her history?

 

Well initially. I have known her since high school. I thought she was very attractive. We would hook up a lot in high school. We both had a history. I thought it was cool she could look past mine and I could look past hers.

 

I randomly saw her at the bar in our college town and we were so happy to see each other. After that, we started hanging out, going out together, and eventually going on dates. We did long distance for a while because I was studying for the dental test and she had an internship at an engineering company.

 

She got back to our college town and was very distant. It was her sorority rush week, but it was unnecessary how much she was ignoring me. Maybe I was asking for too much attention, but she could have made an effort. I ended up breaking up with her and we took a 6 month break. Random times during this she would message me saying she missed me. One time she even said she misses my sex....

 

During our first break up, I thought about her so much. We both hooked up with many people in our break but still thought about each other a lot. Apparently she would annoy her friends about me. She became very sad when she saw me start talking to another girl and was sending me crying photos on snapchat.

 

So then it's winter break. There was a party and everyone was there back from college so we saw a lot of high school friends. I saw her car and said aw ****, but went anyways because I was the one telling all my friends we should go to the party. I'm just drinking enjoying my time, girls are over me and having fun. Then she comes over to me and is just standing there. I ask "can I help you" and she tells me how much she missed me and we needed to hang again.

 

So this is in december. We start hooking up again and she sees me talking to multiple girls because we weren't exclusive. She says how unfair this is and starts crying that I'm not her only one. So I don't really start giving her a chance until mid january, where she was the only girl I was seeing. I was still talking to another girl I was attracted to, but she wasnt giving me a chance and is much older than me so I'm not sure if I have a shot. (I'm trying to talk to her now that im single again, though). So I end up asking her out on valentine's day and she built up my trust very much. There were a few bumps in the road but she really did work on it and improved herself. We had a lot of fun, traveled to many places together, met each others families. Everyone liked us together.

 

Then here i am now, posting on these forums.

Edited August 13, 2015 by RyanBeynolds

[HereNorThere]

I have a lot of respect for you and the way you handled this, but a couple things stick out-

 

A) Please, never ever encourage a crazy girl to file a rape charge. Too many men have had their lives ruined because of things like that. A girl this crazy doesn't care who she hurts to get her way.

 

B) Don't keep sleeping with her. Spending any time with her gives her the chance to get her hooks back in you.

 

I saw the picture of you guys and I was a little underwhelmed. I mean, she's aight, but nothing to obsess over. You're a tall, handsome guy (no homo) and I'm sure you can get laid by someone who doesn't demand that you hand over your dignity when you're doing it. I get it, I get.. No kissing, b*tch, I ain't even taking my jewelery off. Then I'm gonna wash it off in the sink and send you home in a dollar cab..I get it. Even if you live out your fantasy of degrading her, it won't make you feel any better. She disrespected you and that's never going away. You have to wear that scar.

 

The best revenge is living well. Go out with your boys and take a million pictures of kissing girls, taking shots and living the life. Post me up and make her eat her heart out. That's the best revenge. Keeping her around just seems desperate.

 

Go NO CONTACT. Quit validating her inner crazy girl by listening to her.

[DKT3]

I have a lot of respect for you and the way you handled this, but a couple things stick out-

 

A) Please, never ever encourage a crazy girl to file a rape charge. Too many men have had their lives ruined because of things like that. A girl this crazy doesn't care who she hurts to get her way.

 

B) Don't keep sleeping with her. Spending any time with her gives her the chance to get her hooks back in you.

NJ

I saw the picture of you guys and I was a little underwhelmed. I mean, she's aight, but nothing to obsess over. You're a tall, handsome guy (no homo) and I'm sure you can get laid by someone who doesn't demand that you hand over your dignity when you're doing it. I get it, I get.. No kissing, b*tch, I ain't even taking my jewelery off. Then I'm gonna wash it off in the sink and send you home in a dollar cab..I get it. Even if you live out your fantasy of degrading her, it won't make you feel any better. She disrespected you and that's never going away. You have to wear that scar.

 

The best revenge is living well. Go out with your boys and take a million pictures of kissing girls, taking shots and living the life. Post me up and make her eat her heart out. That's the best revenge. Keeping her around just seems desperate.

 

Go NO CONTACT. Quit validating her inner crazy girl by listening to her.

 

 

Yeah she is no way out of his league as he mentioned.

 

Ryan, your not much older then my son and I'm going to tell you what I would tell him. Your far too young to be dealing with this, moving on is easy at this stage. Tell her to kick rocks and don't look back.

[RyanBeynolds]

I have a lot of respect for you and the way you handled this, but a couple things stick out-

 

A) Please, never ever encourage a crazy girl to file a rape charge. Too many men have had their lives ruined because of things like that. A girl this crazy doesn't care who she hurts to get her way.

 

B) Don't keep sleeping with her. Spending any time with her gives her the chance to get her hooks back in you.

 

I saw the picture of you guys and I was a little underwhelmed. I mean, she's aight, but nothing to obsess over. You're a tall, handsome guy (no homo) and I'm sure you can get laid by someone who doesn't demand that you hand over your dignity when you're doing it. I get it, I get.. No kissing, b*tch, I ain't even taking my jewelery off. Then I'm gonna wash it off in the sink and send you home in a dollar cab..I get it. Even if you live out your fantasy of degrading her, it won't make you feel any better. She disrespected you and that's never going away. You have to wear that scar.

 

The best revenge is living well. Go out with your boys and take a million pictures of kissing girls, taking shots and living the life. Post me up and make her eat her heart out. That's the best revenge. Keeping her around just seems desperate.

 

Go NO CONTACT. Quit validating her inner crazy girl by listening to her.

 

Thanks man. That's exactly what I did the first time but we still ended up getting back. I can't go no contact for now because she did this to me on vacation and I have to get some stuff when I get back to where we live.

 

I'll try for this older girl. Shes 26 and I'm 22, and she is for real very attractive. My friends didn't think much of my ex, but wanted to try to steal this older girl from me, ha. At least she will keep me preoccupied and give me someone to talk to I guess

[RyanBeynolds]

Yeah she is no way out of his league as he mentioned.

 

Ryan, your not much older then my son and I'm going to tell you what I would tell him. Your far too young to be dealing with this, moving on is easy at this stage. Tell her to kick rocks and don't look back.

 

 

Thanks. I spoke with my mom about it and she seems to be more angry than me. I guess I'm infatuated and living in a fantasy

[bubbaganoosh]

I wonder if someone cut the top of your head off a bunch of boobs would fall out. Honestly the way you sound you would wrap your pepperoni and screw the bullet hole on a girl if she got shot.

 

If your going to sew your wild oats then do it without a commitment and spare yourself the grief.

[RyanBeynolds]

I wonder if someone cut the top of your head off a bunch of boobs would fall out. Honestly the way you sound you would wrap your pepperoni and screw the bullet hole on a girl if she got shot.

 

If your going to sew your wild oats then do it without a commitment and spare yourself the grief.

 

What's up your butt