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I have been Divorced for 3 years...my story how the tide turned

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I was married for 12 years to my ex wife. As any hard working husband would tell you I worked 2 jobs did my art on the side and always made my little one my #1.

 

Alot changed when she want control of the marriage she had a deadbeat thug brother never worked inseminated girls and never took any if that resposiblity. My ex went to college graduated and just totally changed. She hated my jobs and my art and made me feel like my feedback never mattered.

 

Through the advent of facebook I met my now GF in Sept 2011 I had know here many years back and she lived in the Dallas area...I was based here in San Antonio...where we had met back in 1986 but as through time just lost touch

 

the bitterness I had towards my ex was that bad I didn't feel like I was #1....so on Dec 28, 2011 I left.

 

I jumped through from 3 households paid my child support till she moved down in Aug of 2012 we got a place.

 

For a while I broke up with my GF that summer of 2012 to work things out with my ex but the emotion with her was gone i didn't feel loved by her I knew irregarless if it worked out it was doom.....where my GF pleaded me to go back .....and so I did

 

with that I had seperation anxiety from my daughter which was tough....

My GF lost her daughter to Luekima in Nov 2012 she was diagnosed in Sept she was 17 on top of that

 

we almost became homeless...her stupid niece stole money from her luckly we found a apartment and have been at our current residence since

I think any other couple would have broken up by now but she never gave up on me and I didn't on her.

 

My ex claimed she gave me a year (2012) to work out things but she never tried I was WAY too involed with my GF.

 

fact is my ex didn't even try to put up a fight no phones calls only phone calls to bitch about my visit...ect

 

 

In 2013 my divorce was final she wanted to ream me close to 9 grand but I used the property of OUR house aganist her with that she backed off and as like the bitch she was she tried so much to sabotage. she lived glamorous with her new BF like she was untouchable....

 

Last fall (2014) she got very ill she came down with with MS bad that it scared my little one I called CPS on her and they didn't do anything...she had a ripped boot at school, dirty underwear, her thug brother was living there smoking and drinking using her car (my worry was my daughter being inside the car with this *********), she contacted lice.

 

And my ex never communicated

 

now shes possibly lost her house and lives with her BF that treats her like crap always cussing at her and has to abide by his rules now tells her how much of a loser her brother is...lol!!!

 

Karma......my friends nsome people will never change.....

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Karma......my friends nsome people will never change.....

 

I'm just going to say I took a different approach when my wife's infidelity led to our divorce. Despite my anger, I never wished for anything other than the best for her as she's the mother of my son and was (he's grown now) equal custodial parent. Not only didn't I bad mouth her, I went out of my way to be supportive of her co-parenting. The approach paid off, our son is now a fine young man with a family of his own.

 

Given your ex-wife's obvious influence on your daughter, why would you take delight in her misfortune :confused: ???

 

Mr. Lucky

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I'm not taking delight in her life trust me I was 100 Percent behind her but then she was trying to turn my little girl aganist me....telling her your dad is a cheater he left you witch is bs Mr. Lucky because she has done alot of thing to use my little girl as a pawn. I have always been there for her after the separation, and she tells me Dad you have always taken care of me you take me to the doctor ect ect ect. All mom doses is talk bad about you.

So in a sense karma has a way to work in.....especially when you dont have a parent that never wants to comminicate as such when it's in regards to our daughter. My daughter hates going back home to moms house....that tells me theres more going on there at her house.

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Dude,

 

Am I missing something? You cheated and left your wife. Now you are gloating over her misfortune. I suspect you may have some "Karma" coming your way.

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I don't know why the negative vibe towards me yes I cheated on her... I had my reasons... A lot of married people or non married people don't understand. This woman was mentality abusive as well... Would you want to live like that?

 

I went through my karma already bro.

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Artstar,

 

I understand you were in a difficult place. I am of the school that there is never a good reason to cheat.

 

That is where my negative vibe comes from. That being said I wish you the best in moving on from a difficult situation.

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Chew 123

 

I'm not justifying my infidelity, the problem was that she wanted things on her own terms

 

One problem was her dead beat brother living with us drank and smoked pot in my house and that cunt did nothing to agree with me that he had to go.

 

2nd it was always about her family she never geled with my side and she was analising them

 

Our summer vacations were always in Ohio and always want to Included her ****ing dad in our vacations I told her let's plan something else your dad always comes down in the winter anyway the less vacation I took with my cousins wedding back in 2008 in Chicago and she still uninvited her dad to my cousins wedding that was the straw that broke the camels back for me.

 

It was always things in our terms she even wanted me to get my own apartment during the separation I said **** that and I moved on but I'm in a very happier place I know that she told her other brother that she drove me away my sister-in-law ( his wife) couldn't agree more .

 

Outside family needs to be kept out....period

 

 

If you're unhappy just get out on the ****ing marriage that's all I got to say!

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Chew 123

 

I'm not justifying my infidelity, the problem was that she wanted things on her own terms

 

One problem was her dead beat brother living with us drank and smoked pot in my house and that cunt did nothing to agree with me that he had to go.

 

2nd it was always about her family she never geled with my side and she was analising them

 

Our summer vacations were always in Ohio and always want to Included her ****ing dad in our vacations I told her let's plan something else your dad always comes down in the winter anyway the less vacation I took with my cousins wedding back in 2008 in Chicago and she still uninvited her dad to my cousins wedding that was the straw that broke the camels back for me.

 

It was always things in our terms she even wanted me to get my own apartment during the separation I said **** that and I moved on but I'm in a very happier place I know that she told her other brother that she drove me away my sister-in-law ( his wife) couldn't agree more .

 

Outside family needs to be kept out....period

 

If you're unhappy just get out on the ****ing marriage that's all I got to say!

absolutely. But before you decide to cheat. Not after.

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