carina Posted May 9, 2005 Posted May 9, 2005 Of all the guys I've met in my life, I never met someone before whom I wanted to share anything and everything. I've known him for about a year, at work, and we always talked about work-related stuff, but I always felt so attracted to him, but I couldn't do anything cuz I didn't wanna risk being rejected or ruining a future friendship. One day he asked me for my phone number and email, I was so excited, he added me to MSN Messenger that same night and we talked for about 3 hours. We kept on talking at work and online and then he started talking about sex.. and I felt so attracted to him that I thought what the hell, he's not worth a relationship if he's only interested in that, but at least I can act on that physical attraction that we feel towards each other. So we kept talking about having an encounter but he'd say he didn't wanna have actual sex (penetration), that we'd just play a little and have fun, and we'd set dates and everything but he'd always bail out at the last minute, saying he didn't dare to do that, that he knew that we would end up having sex and then the problems would begin, and I always told him that I couldn't get involved with anyone like that, like being in love and stuff like that (to this day I tell him that even though it's NOT true but I don't want him to see me as a little girl, he's 11 years older than me), that if something happened I wouldn't be stalking him or anything, but he said that it wasn't because of me. He's been divorced for 2 years but he still talks about it, not about her but about how everything starts out perfect and then the problems begin. He's never said that he's "scared" (or is that bull****?), but it would seem that way. So.. 3 days ago when he cancelled our "date" again he said that we wouldn't do that but that next week we would go to the city and take pictures and have dinner and have a few drinks and then nothing, we would each go to our house. And I agreed, and since that day he's stopped talking about sex, and looks for me at work, and looks for excuses to be around me, it's very weird.. I don't know what to think. I mean we've had cybersex and **** like that, I doubt he'd take me seriously although it's not only because of that, but I'm the one who's told him repeatedly that I'm just looking for some fun with him, nothing else, even though it's not true. He's such a kind person (horny though lol), and I would like to get to know him better, taking all the sexual stuff out of the picture for now, but I don't know if I should let him know, or if I should just see what he does next, or what. It's very confusing. Today at work I went to Taco Bell and he's very into sugary stuff, so I bought him some Cinnamon Twists and gave it to him when I saw him and kept walking, and he was stunned, and said thanks after a while, and then I saw him a few times but I'd always look the other way, nervous or something, and he looked weird too. HELP! Thanks.
latida Posted May 9, 2005 Posted May 9, 2005 Seems like he wants to get laid, or play Bill Clinton. If that is what you want, (and you keep waffling on that one) then whoo-ho have fun. It won't be in the end, but nothing that ends is. Work related sex flings though...not if you want to hold your head high and if you intend to work there a long time it would be even more problematic. There are plenty of guys you could have a sexual encounter with that you won't have to work with and see every single day! It is taboo for a reason. Be honest, you like him, more than a **ck, so tell him. If he feels the same and can be adult enough to tell you...take it from there. Life is too short to play cat and mouse when you are the mouse and don't have 9 lives!
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