Louisechloe Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Honestly, things do get better. My boyfriend broke up with me 3 months ago exactly, from the moment he walked out that door and humiliated me the way he did, i never contacted him again. i unfollowed him from everything - so i could no longer see what he was doing however i kept i didnt block him, so he can see me living my life without him. i booked a holiday, festivals and nights with my friends. i can honestly say i have never felt so happy/content. i unfollowed his friends, so i wasnt faced with having to see him with anyone. I have been living my life. NO CONTACT IS THE WAY FORWARD. i cannot stress this enough. why chase someone that clearly doesnt want you? why little yourself more. at the end of the day, theyre gonna have to live with the regret arent they? NOT US. He has had to watch me move on and live my life without him, something he never expected me to be able to do. but here i am, back to my old self, stronger that ever. never ever let someone ruin your self worth or confidence. Just rest easy knowing that if they treated you badly, they WILL regret it, when they realise they messed up the best possible thing that will ever happen to them. 14
Pancake Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 You go girl!!! Really proud of you SHE IS TELLING THE TRUTH! 1
Author Louisechloe Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 THANK YOU! i cant stress this enough, why let anyone treat us less than we deserve and then chase after it? no, we need to keep our self-respect and act like adults. this will shock the dumper completely and they will not expect it! 1
Realitycol Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 (edited) When life has cut too deep and left you hurting The future you had hoped for is now burning And the dreams you held so tight have lost their meaning And you don't know if you will ever find the healing You're going to make it and the night can only LAST so long You're going to make it There's a promise for the ones who just hold on You're going to make it Lift up your eyes and see The sun, the sun is rising The Sun is Rising Horizon Remix Edited August 10, 2015 by Realitycol 1
aloneinaz Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 THANK YOU! i cant stress this enough, why let anyone treat us less than we deserve and then chase after it? no, we need to keep our self-respect and act like adults. this will shock the dumper completely and they will not expect it! What a great post! Congrats on getting back on your feet! NC is the only way to move forward when a R/S ends. Now.. CUT ALL YOUR EMOTIONAL ties to this ex. What do I mean? BLOCK him on all social media. You shouldn't care nor want him to see what you're up to. It's NONE of his business as is you keeping up on him is none of yours. A year or two later, when you're fully over him and that R/S, then you can unblock him. 1
pillowpuffs Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 (edited) Honestly, things do get better. My boyfriend broke up with me 3 months ago exactly, from the moment he walked out that door and humiliated me the way he did, i never contacted him again. i unfollowed him from everything - so i could no longer see what he was doing however i kept i didnt block him, so he can see me living my life without him. i booked a holiday, festivals and nights with my friends. i can honestly say i have never felt so happy/content. i unfollowed his friends, so i wasnt faced with having to see him with anyone. I have been living my life. NO CONTACT IS THE WAY FORWARD. i cannot stress this enough. why chase someone that clearly doesnt want you? why little yourself more. at the end of the day, theyre gonna have to live with the regret arent they? NOT US. He has had to watch me move on and live my life without him, something he never expected me to be able to do. but here i am, back to my old self, stronger that ever. never ever let someone ruin your self worth or confidence. Just rest easy knowing that if they treated you badly, they WILL regret it, when they realise they messed up the best possible thing that will ever happen to them. I needed to hear this! Your positivity is contagious and I am happy you've come out of your break up the right way. You sound like a very strong individual and your words represent what most of us know we should think/feel but are too weak (or vulnerable)/too much in denial to realise/actualise. I've been struggling with my break up and with keeping NC so to hear there is a light at the end of the tunnel gives me a little bit of hope. Thank you for that. Edited August 10, 2015 by pillowpuffs
Pink Lotus Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Yes I agree, well done for coming out the other side ok but I'm not there yet unfortunately. It's been over 6 months since my break up and just over 3 weeks since my last contact - yes I know! But it was a very messy break up after an intense 18 month relationship that just wasn't working out. It's not been easy but I still try and function every day, not once have I just stayed in bed etc but still I'm not out of the woods yet and it's horrible to be aware of that and some days it's really raw. I do wish I had of gone NC from the beginning but I can't change that now unfortunately. He seemed to have moved on quite well, even told me he met someone new. Plus he said some rubbish things to me that shocked me tbh but hey ho..... Admittedly since going NC I have felt a bit better, although the last couple of days have been rough for some reason. I don't have the proper urge to contact him anymore because I honestly don't want to know what he's been up to etc as it would set me back I know that. My best mate tells me I'm just going through another phase and it's going to take time but crikey I should have been over him by now I think. Anyways good luck to those who have conquered it and to those who are still stuck, you are not alone just try and remain strong.
Pastmen Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 So true, it does get better. It's now for me almost 3 months past break up and I thought let's have a look at this forum again. After our break up I was devastated and felt so lost, I didn't know what to do but now that's all gone. You have to realize that you don't really need that person and you gotta start living your own life again even if you don't want to. I've gone out with friends, went to a vacation in Spain and I realized this is my life and even if she's never coming back I can live forward. I also met a girl on my vacation, she was great and helped me also with forgetting her. It's too bad she lives far away but you know, it gave me some confidence back that I had lost. This is just my story, your story will be different but remember it will work out for everyone of us. You can live without that person and you know it.
Author Louisechloe Posted August 11, 2015 Author Posted August 11, 2015 Honestly guys, you WILL be fine, you will its a fact believe me. i promise with all my heart you will get through this. I was so emotionally attached to this guy after loosing my mum just before we begun a relationship. but he was an emotional bully used to threaten me with 'i don't want a miserable girlfriend, if you're going to be upset all the time i don't want you' all the rubbish. so i was attached deeply. but here i am stronger than ever. i do not need him, you guys do not need your ex either just like they don't need us. It upsets me that we rely on someone else so heavily to make our future and happiness. When in reality all we need is some good friends and make some good memories. that is it. to get to this point has been no easy journey believe me, i cried, screamed, got angry, felt numb, i felt it all, but you have to go through to come out the other side. i was on holiday with my friend last week, we met loads of different boys and i realised 'this is what being 20 is all about' meeting different people who make me happy, not some bitter individual who never made me smile.
Author Louisechloe Posted August 11, 2015 Author Posted August 11, 2015 What a great post! Congrats on getting back on your feet! NC is the only way to move forward when a R/S ends. Now.. CUT ALL YOUR EMOTIONAL ties to this ex. What do I mean? BLOCK him on all social media. You shouldn't care nor want him to see what you're up to. It's NONE of his business as is you keeping up on him is none of yours. A year or two later, when you're fully over him and that R/S, then you can unblock him. You're totally right, i got back from holiday last friday and as soon as i got back i chucked all his old stuff out, deleted all the pictures of us on facebook and blocked him for good, i dont need his stuff in my house, it doesnt mean anything to me. going through and deleting all his stuff didnt make me feel sad, but happy for the future. the future is so exciting who knows what it holds.
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