LoveIsEvol Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 She said that she wanted to give this break up a try. It's only been a few hours. We continued for a few mins after the break up, and she was still calling me "babe" and "baby" for an hour or so. The last thing she said to me was: " don't get me wrong I deeply love you, kevin" and then she also said: " I'll block you in the morning, but I'll keep you on snapchat only" before she went to bed she said " goodnight I love you baby :*" before she went to bed (few mins after the break up) Will she come running back to me? Note that we've been dating for 7 months. I'd like to thing she's obsess cause she was very clingy. Like she had a teddy bear, and named it after me. And she kissed it goodnight every night before she went to bed. After she kissed the teddy bear she'd say "goodnight I love you kevin" and that's just the tip of the ice berg. But you got my point. If I ignored her for more than two hours she'd tell at me. I'm afraid that she's gonna come back to me... I don't want her too, but will she ? I mean I was her first love.
Zagan Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 She named a teddybear after you and kissed it? She yelled if you didn't talk to her for a couple of hours? Here's my advice if she does try to come back... Emigrate to Vietnam. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 She said that she wanted to give this break up a try. It's only been a few hours. We continued for a few mins after the break up, and she was still calling me "babe" and "baby" for an hour or so. The last thing she said to me was: " don't get me wrong I deeply love you, kevin" and then she also said: " I'll block you in the morning, but I'll keep you on snapchat only" before she went to bed she said " goodnight I love you baby :*" before she went to bed (few mins after the break up) Will she come running back to me? Note that we've been dating for 7 months. I'd like to thing she's obsess cause she was very clingy. Like she had a teddy bear, and named it after me. And she kissed it goodnight every night before she went to bed. After she kissed the teddy bear she'd say "goodnight I love you kevin" and that's just the tip of the ice berg. But you got my point. If I ignored her for more than two hours she'd tell at me. I'm afraid that she's gonna come back to me... I don't want her too, but will she ? I mean I was her first love. Your thread title and this sentence contradict each other. Do you want her to come back, or not? She sounds immature. She's going to block you on all social media, but she'll permit you to stay on Snapchat - really? How old is this girl? P.S. It's not a good thing to be obsessed and clingy. 1
theredpill Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Walk away and you'll find out if she comes back, if you chase her at all, you will lose her forever. You can't comprehend this right now, but women rarely leave people they're in love with, figure out what you're doing wrong and stop doing it. I'll say it again, if you chase, she will run - you're young, go have fun with your friends. She has blocked you an almost everything, do you think she wants to talk or needs space? Give her space or say goodbye to any reconciliation or friendship down the line. 2
Author LoveIsEvol Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 At the time I was angry! But now I know I want her back
Realitycol Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 From your post OP this reeks of you letting her be the man of the relationship. You just ate the break up like a breakfast cereal. If you don't agree with the break up should've said you weren't okay with that, leave the door open but turn around and walk away. She yelled at you because you didn't pick up yet you tolerated and let her walk all over you? Like I said, you let her be the man. You're not ok with the break up yet you went along with it...
Author LoveIsEvol Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 Hmm well we sent about two snaps to eachother, after that she pretty much ignored me though. I mean It's really hard for me to let her go, cause she was there for me when my parents got divorce, and she got me off drugs (was addicted to weed) and she was just there for me when I needed someone.
Author LoveIsEvol Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 (edited) See that's the thing I'm too much of a "nice guy" I wanted to break up with her but I didn't have the hearts to do it. Because Everytime I tried to, I'd just pictured her crying and it'll stop the whole process. But now that she's gone I want her more than ever. Edited August 10, 2015 by LoveIsEvol
Author LoveIsEvol Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 At the time I was angry! But now I know I want her back From your post OP this reeks of you letting her be the man of the relationship. You just ate the break up like a breakfast cereal. If you don't agree with the break up should've said you weren't okay with that, leave the door open but turn around and walk away. She yelled at you because you didn't pick up yet you tolerated and let her walk all over you? Like I said, you let her be the man. You're not ok with the break up yet you went along with it... I mean I've never really been the type to stop people from leaving. I felt like if I would of persuaded her to stay, our relationship would of been more miserable.
Author LoveIsEvol Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 I mean she said she was deeply in love with me. I was also her first love, she can't forget me just like that right ?
Realitycol Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 So basically you weren't happy in this relationship and the girl didn't really cut it for you in the interest department. She wasn't a LTR material. She did the right thing in ending it. You and her deserve someone that you can wake up next to that sparks fireworks. Nice guy excuse, c'mon man. Be assertive, not an ******* or a friend-zoned nice guy.
Realitycol Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 I mean she said she was deeply in love with me. I was also her first love, she can't forget me just like that right ? You are male, using logic. She is a female who feels and speaks emotionally. She meant it at that particular moment man. You are living in the past. She, on the other hand, is living in the present. Wake up! 1
Author LoveIsEvol Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 So basically you weren't happy in this relationship and the girl didn't really cut it for you in the interest department. She wasn't a LTR material. She did the right thing in ending it. You and her deserve someone that you can wake up next to that sparks fireworks. Nice guy excuse, c'mon man. Be assertive, not an ******* or a friend-zoned nice guy. No both of us were very happy. Her words "instant euphoria every time I see you" "babe I get so giddy when you message me" and yes she was ltr because we were suppose to be living together next month. It's just that her parents didn't accept me dating their daughter.
Author LoveIsEvol Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 You are male, using logic. She is a female who feels and speaks emotionally. She meant it at that particular moment man. You are living in the past. She, on the other hand, is living in the present. Wake up! No yea you're right. I need to accept hard facts, but she came to my life when I was at a very dark stage. She was my only source of light. I just don't get why she would fix me, and leave me to be broken again.
Author LoveIsEvol Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 What bothers me the most is I guess that she was also my best friend aside lover. We use to laugh at nothing, and we were symbiotic. I've never mistreated her once, never hit her, never swore at her etc. I was very patient, I guess the downside to me was I made a few false promises.
Author LoveIsEvol Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 I'll give it a weeks time. If she doesn't message me in a week I'll move on.
Realitycol Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Why do you keep asking why? You treated her like a princess, okay that's great. You could literally be the perfect guy, literally text-book perfect and she could STILL leave you. Why keep asking why? None of the answers will please you in anyways shape or form. That's why girls never say the real reason why, because when they do guys keep digging and nagging her about it. If you really care about the question of why, just entertain yourself with the logic that you are human being. We as human beings are limited by TIME. One life, yes? Some people are FICKLE. They think this isn't the right job for them. That this isn't the right man or woman for them. Who cares why, some people are FICKLE. Some are just never satisfied and think there's always better. Got one life and limited time so everybody is trying to make the best of it right? So why are you wasting your one life asking why? You want a woman who you can live with til you die right? If she's meant to be she'll come back. Not only that, you'd both be changed for the better to make it work right? You want to be perfect for this girl in your future? Or you want to be 1/2 a$$ed lazy dude who doesn't want to show and act his best? How about you love yourself with your ONE life? Why not change 1 negative thing in your life into something positive? Why not change your 12 inch arms to 20 inch guns? What's wrong with being able to lift your woman with one arm and ****ing her brains out? Aka get into top-notch shape your mom and dad's DNA that carried over is capable of. Why not control your neediness/fearfulness/emotions? So you don't spill your weak sauce all over your next love? I mean just try to be the best you, unless you're perfectly happy with being 10% of what you could potentially be. 1
Author LoveIsEvol Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 Why do you keep asking why? You treated her like a princess, okay that's great. You could literally be the perfect guy, literally text-book perfect and she could STILL leave you. Why keep asking why? None of the answers will please you in anyways shape or form. That's why girls never say the real reason why, because when they do guys keep digging and nagging her about it. If you really care about the question of why, just entertain yourself with the logic that you are human being. We as human beings are limited by TIME. One life, yes? Some people are FICKLE. They think this isn't the right job for them. That this isn't the right man or woman for them. Who cares why, some people are FICKLE. Some are just never satisfied and think there's always better. Got one life and limited time so everybody is trying to make the best of it right? So why are you wasting your one life asking why? You want a woman who you can live with til you die right? If she's meant to be she'll come back. Not only that, you'd both be changed for the better to make it work right? I You want to be perfect for this girl in your future? Or you want to be 1/2 a$$ed lazy dude who doesn't want to show and act his best? How about you love yourself with your ONE life? Why not change 1 negative thing in your life into something positive? Why not change your 12 inch arms to 20 inch guns? What's wrong with being able to lift your woman with one arm and ****ing her brains out? Aka get into top-notch shape your mom and dad's DNA that carried over is capable of. Why not control your neediness/fearfulness/emotions? So you don't spill your weak sauce all over your next love? I mean just try to be the best you, unless you're perfectly happy with being 10% of what you could potentially be. It's easier said the done though. I just can't forget her like that. She meant a lot to be, you're right if we're meant to be she'll come back. And I've got a feeling she will. Do you think she thinks about me?
Realitycol Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 It's easier said the done though. I just can't forget her like that. She meant a lot to be, you're right if we're meant to be she'll come back. And I've got a feeling she will. Do you think she thinks about me? Yes. My ex read my emails and visited past event photos. Good memories. Missing good times or someone doesn't necessarily equate to them coming back or coming back with all the right reasons. She is thinking of you here and there but that could be to redetermine her devotion and goal to move on. Yes it is easier said than done. Saying, "I love you," is easier said than done. Act upon it! My ex once gave me a pic of a quote, "The most attractive thing a man can do is do put into action and do what he said." You love yourself or love her or will love your next woman? If yes, get UP and make the best you. I can literally walk up to any woman and say I love them. A whoooole diff story to put my words into action. Nothing is easy. You don't like a challenge? Esp ones that change the outcome of who you are? How will you ever know what your boundaries and what you are capable of without embracing such hardship and challenges? Don't give up on your ONE life. 1
Satu Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 (edited) You don't have a girlfriend. Organise yourself around that reality. In this moment, you're a single guy, and your options are endless. Don't waste today by thinking about what tomorrow might be. Today will be great if you want it to be/if you make it so. Edited August 10, 2015 by Satu 1
Author LoveIsEvol Posted August 11, 2015 Author Posted August 11, 2015 Yes. My ex read my emails and visited past event photos. Good memories. Missing good times or someone doesn't necessarily equate to them coming back or coming back with all the right reasons. She is thinking of you here and there but that could be to redetermine her devotion and goal to move on. Yes it is easier said than done. Saying, "I love you," is easier said than done. Act upon it! My ex once gave me a pic of a quote, "The most attractive thing a man can do is do put into action and do what he said." You love yourself or love her or will love your next woman? If yes, get UP and make the best you. I can literally walk up to any woman and say I love them. A whoooole diff story to put my words into action. Nothing is easy. You don't like a challenge? Esp ones that change the outcome of who you are? How will you ever know what your boundaries and what you are capable of without embracing such hardship and challenges? Don't give up on your ONE life. She unblocked me this morning, messaged me at 6am. Saying random **** about her life, and how the relationship affected her. You think it was relevant ? Or was it just an excuse to message me?
Craftydre Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 What bothers me the most is I guess that she was also my best friend aside lover. We use to laugh at nothing, and we were symbiotic. I've never mistreated her once, never hit her, never swore at her etc. I was very patient, I guess the downside to me was I made a few false promises. She's more invested in this than you are based on your story. You only want her back because she dumped you. If you keep no contact and stop responding she will stop her games and come running back. In her mind you guys aren't even really over its just a game because she wants to see if she can gain some power by doing this, and make up for some of the neediness she displayed in the relationship you mentioned. She most likely picked up on the fact that she was too needy and you weren't happy and you suddenly wanting her now is her desired effect.
Craftydre Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 Do you know how many times I've been in a relationship with a girl I wanted to get rid of only for her to suddenly dump me and me suddenly wanting her back? It's because they dumped us. It creates this effect in our minds that makes us want them again because they went from being there too being a challenge again. Why do you think ltr where a girl breaks up with a guy and him being needy for months on end the girl ignores him and makes him suffer only to message him back three months after she's suddenly stopped hearing from him? Ppl want what they can't have.
mightycpa Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 What bothers me the most is I guess that she was also my best friend aside lover. We use to laugh at nothing, and we were symbiotic. I've never mistreated her once, never hit her, never swore at her etc. I was very patient, I guess the downside to me was I made a few false promises.well, ****, what girl would be stupid enough to walk away from that? C'mon man, you can do better.
Author LoveIsEvol Posted August 11, 2015 Author Posted August 11, 2015 well, ****, what girl would be stupid enough to walk away from that? C'mon man, you can do better. Honestly, if I don't get back with her, I hope her next bf treats her not as nice. So she could see how hard it is finding a really good man.
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