My GF dumped me after 11 months of our relationship. Confusion/Dilemma

August 10, 2015

I will keep it short as possible. Please bear my long post

Met this girl last year in August. Its a LDR. We both were madly in love with each other. Planned Future together. Could not live without each other for a day. Both were crazily in love. Planned future together and were ready to get married.

We had 100s of arguments, over silly things, both were possessive, jealous. But all arguments were not that major. We patched up in a day or so, max in a week.

Then on July 1st, I did something which pissed her off so badly that she dumped me and said it's final. I was mad at her for not giving me enough time. she got angry and hurled abuses at me (F U, etc). She told me, I am clingy, moody and emotionally manipulative (trust me she was same too, she cud not leave me for a day). We both enjoyed each others' company.

I thought its just another argument we have had like before. I got panicked as she said "it's final". I got agitated next day and hounded her with msgs on twitter (Private Msg). She ignored. I started begging and pleading. This is where i messed up really bad. I msgd her on twitter, her phone, etc. 2 days later, she changed her number. This was 1st time she did something like this. I got more panicked and started chasing her and begging nonstop. At a point, even got suicidal. She was stubborn and ignored me. Then made a new profile on twitter to avoid me. I chased her there too. I requested at least to have a closure, lets end it on good terms. She started abusing and humiliating me. I got mental breakdown after this, stopped working, eating, sleeping, had traumatic panic attacks..

Despite she dumping me, she used to check my mails (we had a joint account), she was not knowing that gmail logs in IP location of ur device. She did this for 15 days and when i asked her why wud she be interested to check mails if she does not want me, she stopped logging into mail.

She accused me of harassing her and asked me to get lost (its true it was harrassment for nonstop msgs , begging, pleading, but i was very scared). So after 25 days of chasing and all this mess, i went no contact. This is 13th day. I have not contacted her by any means. But i logged into twitter daily to see she is okay, 3 days ago i got hurt again when i saw she blocked me on twitter despite me not contacting her, after 25 days. I still dont get why would she do that now..

She comes online, talks to her friends (but she is not active like before).. She has ignored my existence. I find it hurtful and shocking coz she loved me so madly.

Is it possible a person would lose feelings so instantly? I agree what i did after breakup was immature, i shud have given her space.. But since 13 days i have not tried to contact her. I am not even active on twitter..

I want her back (though i know i might be too late).. But its hard to accept since she was crazy for me. Now she acts as if i never existed.

I am not sure if she misses me or she is trying to forget me and move on.

I also wonder how she spends her time now since she used to be with me most of her day and never got bored of me.

What should I do now? I have really messed up so badly or i still stand a chance? Do u guys think she still has feelings for me?

Should i go back to twitter and be my normal self or should I stay inactive..

Or is it really over? I am very depressed since last 45 days. If i ever contact her, when should it be or should i only wait for her to contact? I think she wont coz she changed her nos and i fear she might have deleted my nos too and blocked me on twitter 3 days ago.. I am in such dilemma. Please guide me.

August 10, 2015

You need to leave her alone now. Have you met her in person? It wasn't clear from your post. How old are you both?

I think you are both not ready for a relationship. Being that dependent and attached to someone is never healthy, and neither is having "100s" of small arguments. You became codependent, which is very toxic. What you're describing isn't healthy or loving at all.

If you truly felt suicidal, you need to seek help. I mean that sincerely. Feeling so distraught that you'd consider ending your life over this is very alarming, and I hope you have someone offline you can talk to about this. You need to focus on getting yourself into a healthy place now.

Respect her wishes and stay away. Harassment isn't ok, and it could cause much more serious problems for you if you don't stop. Any contact at this point could be interpreted as such.

I would say that she didn't lose feelings as fast as it seemed. She probably just got the courage to finally end it when she had a reason, whatever that final straw was that broke the camel's back. What did you do that made her so angry that day?

August 10, 2015

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I got agitated next day and *hounded her with msgs on twitter (Private Msg). She ignored. I started begging and pleading. This is where i messed up really bad. *I msgd her on twitter, her phone, etc. 2 days later, she changed her number. This was 1st time she did something like this. *I got more panicked and started chasing her and begging nonstop. At a point, even got suicidal. *She was stubborn and ignored me. Then made a new profile on twitter to avoid me. I chased her there too. I requested at least to have a closure, lets end it on good terms. She started abusing and humiliating me. I got mental breakdown after this, stopped working, eating, sleeping, had traumatic panic attacks.

*she changed her nos and i fear she might have deleted my nos too and blocked me on twitter 3 days ago.. I am in such dilemma. Please guide me.

There is no dilemma.

She has given you the strongest signs possible that the relationship is permanently over. She doesn't want you in her life.

I understand that this is very painful for you, but you have to respect her wishes, or you could end up in trouble with the law.

Make no more attempts to contact her.

August 10, 2015

I will keep it short as possible. Please bear my long post

Met this girl last year in August. Its a LDR. We both were madly in love with each other. Planned Future together. Could not live without each other for a day. Both were crazily in love. Planned future together and were ready to get married. Honeymoon phase

We had 100s of arguments, over silly things, both were possessive, jealous. But all arguments were not that major. We patched up in a day or so, max in a week. Honeymoon phase ended and come to reality phase where she starts seeing all the negative things about you.

Then on July 1st, I did something which pissed her off so badly that she dumped me and said it's final. I was mad at her for not giving me enough time. she got angry and hurled abuses at me (F U, etc). She told me, I am clingy, moody and emotionally manipulative (trust me she was same too, she cud not leave me for a day). We both enjoyed each others' company. Sounds unhealthy with trust/insecurity issues.

I thought its just another argument we have had like before. I got panicked as she said "it's final". I got agitated next day and hounded her with msgs on twitter (Private Msg). She ignored. I started begging and pleading. This is where i messed up really bad. I msgd her on twitter, her phone, etc. 2 days later, she changed her number. This was 1st time she did something like this. I got more panicked and started chasing her and begging nonstop. At a point, even got suicidal. She was stubborn and ignored me. Then made a new profile on twitter to avoid me. I chased her there too. I requested at least to have a closure, lets end it on good terms. She started abusing and humiliating me. I got mental breakdown after this, stopped working, eating, sleeping, had traumatic panic attacks.. So you bashed her with logic when women are emotional beings. You guilt tripped her. Begged/pleaded. She CHANGED her number, wow that's a huge sign and a new twitter account cause you keep stalking and chasing.

Despite she dumping me, she used to check my mails (we had a joint account), she was not knowing that gmail logs in IP location of ur device. She did this for 15 days and when i asked her why wud she be interested to check mails if she does not want me, she stopped logging into mail .So you let her know you're still stalking her instead of letting her feelings grow towards you, you just pushed her away some more.

She accused me of harassing her and asked me to get lost (its true it was harrassment for nonstop msgs , begging, pleading, but i was very scared). So after 25 days of chasing and all this mess, i went no contact. This is 13th day. I have not contacted her by any means. But i logged into twitter daily to see she is okay, 3 days ago i got hurt again when i saw she blocked me on twitter despite me not contacting her, after 25 days. I still dont get why would she do that now.. she did that because she's doing the ACTUAL NC which means not stalking or checking up on social media like you are doing. Your NC isn't NC. You're still fearing she's forgotten you and being weak.

She comes online, talks to her friends (but she is not active like before).. She has ignored my existence. I find it hurtful and shocking coz she loved me so madly.

Is it possible a person would lose feelings so instantly? I agree what i did after breakup was immature, i shud have given her space.. But since 13 days i have not tried to contact her. I am not even active on twitter.. How is it instant? Every time you act neurotic and you argue with a woman you are lowering her interest/respect level of you.

I want her back (though i know i might be too late).. But its hard to accept since she was crazy for me. Now she acts as if i never existed. You keep saying she loved you, you're living in the past. The past isn't the present or future.

I am not sure if she misses me or she is trying to forget me and move on. She changed her phone number, that speaks volumes.

I also wonder how she spends her time now since she used to be with me most of her day and never got bored of me.

What should I do now? I have really messed up so badly or i still stand a chance? Do u guys think she still has feelings for me? She changed her number and blocked you, I personally never pissed off a woman to get her to change her number or make a new social media account. All you can do is accept it's over and learn from your mistakes FORREAL not just go through the emotions of change but actually fix all your weaknesses.

Should i go back to twitter and be my normal self or should I stay inactive.. Do what you want without trying to do it for her or because "she may be snooping," you play that game and you'll come out as the loser. Just be you, but fix all the beta crap.

Or is it really over? I am very depressed since last 45 days. If i ever contact her, when should it be or should i only wait for her to contact? I think she wont coz she changed her nos and i fear she might have deleted my nos too and blocked me on twitter 3 days ago.. I am in such dilemma. Please guide me.

Don't ever contact her. It's over, it's done. You begged and chased and threw 100000000s of I'm sorry, I changed, I'll be better. She's heard it all to a point she blocked and changed everything down to her number. That means she's done hearing it.

Instead of talking about change, because talking is so easy. Just ask yourself, how easy is to say the words, "I love you." It's so damn easy right?

How easy is it to maintain and ACT those words though? You clearly didn't do a good job in showing it right? It's LOT harder than muttering, "I love you" all day.

Fix your weaknesses, be a better man. Learn from mistakes. Let past go. Be a better you and enjoy life. Meet a new woman and don't **** it up with your insecurities and neediness again.

August 10, 2015

You need to leave her alone now. Have you met her in person? It wasn't clear from your post. How old are you both?

I think you are both not ready for a relationship. Being that dependent and attached to someone is never healthy, and neither is having "100s" of small arguments. You became codependent, which is very toxic. What you're describing isn't healthy or loving at all.

If you truly felt suicidal, you need to seek help. I mean that sincerely. Feeling so distraught that you'd consider ending your life over this is very alarming, and I hope you have someone offline you can talk to about this. You need to focus on getting yourself into a healthy place now.

Respect her wishes and stay away. Harassment isn't ok, and it could cause much more serious problems for you if you don't stop. Any contact at this point could be interpreted as such.

I would say that she didn't lose feelings as fast as it seemed. She probably just got the courage to finally end it when she had a reason, whatever that final straw was that broke the camel's back. What did you do that made her so angry that day?

No. I was about to meet her in mid 2016 and she was very happy about it. She was very excited. We met online but we used to talk everyday on phone, skype, etc. Whatever we shared was mutual, love, care, jealousy, etc.

One of the reason why she got mad so much was because she was stressed with the things going on with her at home, her dad had anger issues and used to be rude to her. She has an ailing mom and she is the only sibling and does all the work at home, cooking, cleaning, etc.

She said instead of giving her comfort, I was being mean to her. This is where I really forced her to end it with me. This guilt is really haunting me

August 10, 2015

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There is no dilemma.

She has given you the strongest signs possible that the relationship is permanently over. She doesn't want you in her life.

I understand that this is very painful for you, but you have to respect her wishes, or you could end up in trouble with the law.

Make no more attempts to contact her.

I am not even active where she is now. I have not contacted her.

There were 2 instances where she ignored me like this before. I did not contact her and gave her space, she then told me I don't care for her and dont even make efforts to get her back.

Now when I made such efforts, she called it harassment. Just 2 hours before we actually got mad at me , she was writing nonstop messages of how much she loves me. Then, she got cold and I said, "ok i m going now, wont come back ever.." She got pissed off "what the hell is wrong with u? u r so moody, u r so clingy, I am done with u....."

She is 20 and I am 26

August 10, 2015

No. I was about to meet her in mid 2016 and she was very happy about it. She was very excited. We met online but we used to talk everyday on phone, skype, etc. Whatever we shared was mutual, love, care, jealousy, etc.

One of the reason why she got mad so much was because she was stressed with the things going on with her at home, her dad had anger issues and used to be rude to her. She has an ailing mom and she is the only sibling and does all the work at home, cooking, cleaning, etc.

She said instead of giving her comfort, I was being mean to her. This is where I really forced her to end it with me. This guilt is really haunting me

Okay. We need to back the truck up here. I think you both got incredibly carried away. You have never met and won't meet for quite some time, and yet you were planning to marry - on what basis? You have no idea if you're compatible in person, whether there is chemistry..heck, you haven't even had a first date yet! You both put the cart way before the horse, which should have been a red flag to you.

For your own sake,I think you would be wise to ask yourself why you got so attached to someone you have never laid eyes on in person. There's an awful lot of fantasizing going on, and I think reality probably hit her. She is likely wanting a real relationship with a boyfriend who is in her physical presence.It's not reasonable to plan a life together and chat for more than a year with a person you don't really know. Ask you self why you allowed that to happen. Have you dated much locally? (ie offline)

August 10, 2015

Don't ever contact her. It's over, it's done. You begged and chased and threw 100000000s of I'm sorry, I changed, I'll be better. She's heard it all to a point she blocked and changed everything down to her number. That means she's done hearing it.

Instead of talking about change, because talking is so easy. Just ask yourself, how easy is to say the words, "I love you." It's so damn easy right?

How easy is it to maintain and ACT those words though? You clearly didn't do a good job in showing it right? It's LOT harder than muttering, "I love you" all day.

Fix your weaknesses, be a better man. Learn from mistakes. Let past go. Be a better you and enjoy life. Meet a new woman and don't **** it up with your insecurities and neediness again.

Not 1st time, I have done this to get her back before too and she would feel happy how much i put efforts to win her back and when I had given her space, she would get mad why I never put efforts to patch up with her.

Also, why would she check mails secretly if she was done with me for 15 days after break up? This is 1st time she changed her numbers.

I told her at least to be a little kind and not so insulting. From showering me with so much love to hurling insults and abuses in no time. This was unfair. I was never rude to her and I always done what she asked me to. She was very fond of me and would not leave me a day off even to go somewhere. She would say , come back soon, i cant live without you. She loved long mails from me and then suddenly call it harassment when she was mad at me..

Then she accuses me of being clingy when she was very dependent on me and used to get upset if i needed break.

So just when she had to breakup, she blamed me for everything. That's not fair. But she has choice to leave me but she crushed my dignity and self-respect, if i was not alone enough to have screwed it up completely

Now she does not look cheerful as she was. It's confusing. Though I will never contact her. But i will hope at least some day she will give a closure. It will help a great deal for me to move on.

August 10, 2015

.... Have you met her in person? It wasn't clear from your post. How old are you both?

No. I was about to meet her in mid 2016 and she was very happy about it. She was very excited. We met online but we used to talk everyday on phone, skype, etc. Whatever we shared was mutual, love, care, jealousy, etc. ......

Then forgive me, but this -

"No. I was about to meet her in mid 2016

makes a mockery of this:

Met this girl last year in August. Its a LDR. We both were madly in love with each other. Planned Future together. Could not live without each other for a day. Both were crazily in love. Planned future together and were ready to get married.

There is absolutely no way such plans could ever have come to fruition...

People in standard, everyday, face-to-face relationships take months - even years - to come to that level.

To say you both felt such intensity, dedication and commitment, in such a short space of time - WITHOUT ACTUALLY HAVING MET IN PERSON - is unrealistic and frankly, feeding a fantasy rather than being rooted in reality.

you both flew, crashed and burned.

I'm sorry, but I can see why she is so hostile towards you.

Your insistence, persistence and refusal to accept this is over, is doing you no favours whatsoever.

Please understand: I think this is over - because in all honesty, there was nothing concrete or physical to begin with.

You both fell headlong recklessly in love with the IDEA of being in love.

You haven't said yet how old you are, but I would suspect quite young, and quite inexperienced in the ways of relationship dynamics.

You would be your own best friend if you just dropped all, every and any contact with her, closed your laptop and went out socialising and meeting young ladies closer to home, with a view to merely seeing and learning how they interact with you on a face-to-face level, and improving your life, and chances of dating, that way.

August 10, 2015

Okay. We need to back the truck up here. I think you both got incredibly carried away. You have never met and won't meet for quite some time, and yet you were planning to marry - on what basis? You have no idea if you're compatible in person, whether there is chemistry..heck, you haven't even had a first date yet! You both put the cart way before the horse, which should have been a red flag to you.

For your own sake,I think you would be wise to ask yourself why you got so attached to someone you have never laid eyes on in person. There's an awful lot of fantasizing going on, and I think reality probably hit her. She is likely wanting a real relationship with a boyfriend who is in her physical presence.It's not reasonable to plan a life together and chat for more than a year with a person you don't really know. Ask you self why you allowed that to happen. Have you dated much locally? (ie offline)

We were about to meet and live together before getting married. We did not plan to marry as soon as we meet. We both have seen each other and know each other well. She used to keep me updated whatever she does..11 months of intense relationship. We both had mutual respect and admiration.

I have dated before but i was never involved with anyone as much this girl, because she impacted me so much positively. It's shocking to see a change in her. She was not like this.

August 10, 2015

This all sounds very unhealthy to me.

August 10, 2015

Okay. We need to back the truck up here. I think you both got incredibly carried away. You have never met and won't meet for quite some time, and yet you were planning to marry - on what basis? You have no idea if you're compatible in person, whether there is chemistry..heck, you haven't even had a first date yet! You both put the cart way before the horse, which should have been a red flag to you.

For your own sake,I think you would be wise to ask yourself why you got so attached to someone you have never laid eyes on in person. There's an awful lot of fantasizing going on, and I think reality probably hit her. She is likely wanting a real relationship with a boyfriend who is in her physical presence.It's not reasonable to plan a life together and chat for more than a year with a person you don't really know. Ask you self why you allowed that to happen. Have you dated much locally? (ie offline)

We planned our 1st date June 2016. I was moving to her country. We used to talk on phone, on skype.. We liked each other and both were loyal and honest and she told me distance frustrates her but she will wait until we meet and is not interested to date anyone. She considers herself unattractive. She was even helping me get a job in her city. Everything was planned and going smoothly. We chose June 2016 as date to meet, it was her bday too. She was excited and happy. I was very loyal and committed to her because she had high hopes on me and I religiously worked hard to make it happen.

August 10, 2015

We were about to meet and live together before getting married. We did not plan to marry as soon as we meet. We both have seen each other and know each other well. She used to keep me updated whatever she does..11 months of intense relationship. We both had mutual respect and admiration.

I have dated before but i was never involved with anyone as much this girl, because she impacted me so much positively. It's shocking to see a change in her. She was not like this.

OP, as a serious question, what do you define as a relationship?

This may help us understand your mindset. To me, a relationship is based on trust, and respect and mutual admiration of course. But that needs to be done at least in part in person. Without that, you have a chat buddy. You've never been on a date with her. To me, this qualities as a friendship but not a romantic relationship, as there's been zero romantic interaction and you wouldn't have had any for several more months. She is young, and probably got bored with this strictly-online arrangement. I'm much older than her and even I would've gotten bored a long time ago. It's very difficult to maintain interest in a situation like this.

As another poster said, this is all very unhealthy.

August 10, 2015

This all sounds very unhealthy to me.

She blocked me on twitter when I was not contacting her. She never blocked me when I was "harassing" her and apologizing..

Was she in anyway trying to get a reaction from me by blocking? Coz i never contacted her since say like 15 days and she blocks me when I am not even active. She is less active there than before and not as cheerful as before but talks with friends normally. I feel happy she is normal. I will let her go but I am confused if she still feels threatened by my presence there? I dont go there now and i am not contacting her.

August 10, 2015

OP, as a serious question, what do you define as a relationship?

This may help us understand your mindset. To me, a relationship is based on trust, and respect and mutual admiration of course. But that needs to be done at least in part in person. Without that, you have a chat buddy. You've never been on a date with her. To me, this qualities as a friendship but not a romantic relationship, as there's been zero romantic interaction and you wouldn't have had any for several more months. She is young, and probably got bored with this strictly-online arrangement. I'm much older than her and even I would've gotten bored a long time ago. It's very difficult to maintain interest in a situation like this.

As another poster said, this is all very unhealthy.

We fell in love after some time, it was not instant. We used to have video calls and pretty much know everything about each other.

She wanted me to talk to my parents about her and she wanted me to talk to her parents too. Then, meet. Date, live together, get to know each other before getting married. I made it clear to her, if she does not like me, she has to be honest. I said to her since its online LDR, if she feels bored ever of me, she should tell me. She used to say "you always think negatively, i just love you and never bored of you, i just want you"

I even jokingly said, u will have classes in September in a new university, maybe you will find a good guy who is local and not far like me.. She got upset and said "I don't care about any other guy, I already have a husband (referring to me)"

August 10, 2015

She blocked me on twitter when I was not contacting her. She never blocked me when I was "harassing" her and apologizing..

Was she in anyway trying to get a reaction from me by blocking? Coz i never contacted her since say like 15 days and she blocks me when I am not even active. She is less active there than before and not as cheerful as before but talks with friends normally. I feel happy she is normal. I will let her go but I am confused if she still feels threatened by my presence there? I dont go there now and i am not contacting her.

Maybe, but it's impossible to say. It could also be her way of trying to move on. I'm not sure if she feels threatened as much as she doesn't want any reminder of you. Maybe she knows she will be interacting with someone else on there and doesn't want you to see it.

The bottom line remains the same. She doesn't wish to continue this. Delete her from your social media so you remove the reminders of her, too.

August 10, 2015

In addition to all this, she is stressed at home. Her father has rage issues and is always rude to her and she has ailing mother and has to do all kind of work.

I feel this is one of the reason why our relationship got too much to bear for her, she needed to free herself..

Can it be true? I would respect her decision if she had just been honest and not been mean, rude or abusive toward me

August 10, 2015

Sounds like there was a lot of pressure put on the relationship before you ever met her in real life. That's important. I've had a LDR for a very long time and the physical chemistry can kill what you thought was a perfect relationship.

What would happen when you finally meet and she has horrible breath or has a bad habit that you can't stand or does things that annoy you or gives you grief about something that you do? How can you even bring up the topic of marriage before you even had a chance to live with this person to see if you are compatible?

August 10, 2015

We fell in love after some time, it was not instant. We used to have video calls and pretty much know everything about each other.

She wanted me to talk to my parents about her and she wanted me to talk to her parents too. Then, meet. Date, live together, get to know each other before getting married. I made it clear to her, if she does not like me, she has to be honest. I said to her since its online LDR, if she feels bored ever of me, she should tell me. She used to say "you always think negatively, i just love you and never bored of you, i just want you"

I even jokingly said, u will have classes in September in a new university, maybe you will find a good guy who is local and not far like me.. She got upset and said "I don't care about any other guy, I already have a husband (referring to me)"

This tells me she isn't very mature. At all. She was playing house in her head, these feelings aren't based on reality but a fantasy. I would run in the other direction if some guy I had never met made a comment like that to me. It's juvenile, in my opinion. You didn't see that as a red flag?

August 10, 2015

Maybe, but it's impossible to say. It could also be her way of trying to move on. I'm not sure if she feels threatened as much as she doesn't want any reminder of you. Maybe she knows she will be interacting with someone else on there and doesn't want you to see it.

The bottom line remains the same. She doesn't wish to continue this. Delete her from your social media so you remove the reminders of her, too.

I don't even go there much. I just went 3 days ago to see if she is fine. I should not have since i got hurt again to see she blocked me. I got her point that she does not want me anymore. I feel worthless because she ended it in most bitter way despite me giving her choice to end it, she had my consent. i never forced her until when I begged her to reconsider her decision. I gave her total control and she exploited my weakness there.

I will never contact her though.

August 10, 2015

This tells me she isn't very mature. At all. She was playing house in her head, these feelings aren't based on reality but a fantasy. I would run in the other direction if some guy I had never met made a comment like that to me. It's juvenile, in my opinion. You didn't see that as a red flag?

I told her that we still did not meet and her opinions and feelings might change once we meet. She was very loving and caring and as i told u before, she changed me a lot, made me a better person. She is moody and stubborn and has ego issues, but she is mature. I had many dreams and I don't think it was wrong to make it happen. We both were loyal to each other.

I had given her every right to end this relationship WHENEVER SHE WANTS TO and I was being very selfless and gave her total control and I know this is where I went wrong, giving her total control over me and my emotions.

But instead, she called me clingy while breaking up.

August 10, 2015

This tells me she isn't very mature. At all. She was playing house in her head, these feelings aren't based on reality but a fantasy. I would run in the other direction if some guy I had never met made a comment like that to me. It's juvenile, in my opinion. You didn't see that as a red flag?

Well, she's 20 years old. Like you said in a previous post, there's a lot of fantasizing (playing house) going on. I agree, both of them have enjoyed this nice little on-line romance, but it's just a delusion. She probably got a reality check and was like "Oh Sh**, this is real!" and backed way off.

August 10, 2015

Sounds like there was a lot of pressure put on the relationship before you ever met her in real life. That's important. I've had a LDR for a very long time and the physical chemistry can kill what you thought was a perfect relationship.

What would happen when you finally meet and she has horrible breath or has a bad habit that you can't stand or does things that annoy you or gives you grief about something that you do? How can you even bring up the topic of marriage before you even had a chance to live with this person to see if you are compatible?

WE both were compatible. We hardly ever fought over any topic or opinion. All our arguments were too juvenile and silly. Like if i did not leave her msgs.

Once she asked me to watch a movie as she liked it. I did not , so she got mad at me and did not speak for a day. She felt i dont take her seriously. Then, she would apologize for being very stupid and blame her behavior on stress she has at home.

Condition for marriage was living together first. If we clicked together, we would go ahead with it. She was even helping me find a job in her city.

August 10, 2015

Well, she's 20 years old. Like you said in a previous post, there's a lot of fantasizing (playing house) going on. I agree, both of them have enjoyed this nice little on-line romance, but it's just a delusion. She probably got a reality check and was like "Oh Sh**, this is real!" and backed way off.

Reasons she gave to break up:

You are clingy. (True, even she was)

You are moody. (True, even she was)

You don't appreciate me. (False)

I am already stressed and you don't support me emotionally. (True she was stressed, but false that I never supported her, I always encouraged her to be strong and make her laugh).

You emotionally manipulate me. (She said this when I asked her to reconsider her decision)

Then whatever happened was disaster, I got panicked and chased her like a madman. If she was a bit sensible at that point while breaking up or at least at some point, I would have moved on and never went into mental breakdown

August 10, 2015

Sounds like you were her emotional tampon and when she needed you and you weren't there to be her lil' bitch she made a fuss about it. When used you for whatever baggage she has from home, which is still an excuse on her end. Turned you into a weak beta-male that had to play her way or the highway aka she's the man of the relationship and doesn't respect you.

Edited August 10, 2015 by Realitycol

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