Author Toodaloo Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 (edited) Fair enough ....if that is what your gut is screaming, you are probably right. I guess I thought it may have been an accident, cause I've done it, only my letter was "s." The guy responded "did you mean to send me a text? All I got was an *s*. I was mortified and told him it was an accident, which now that I think about it, he probably thought was BS! My friends proceeded to analyze it claiming there are no *accidents* re stuff like this. That subconsciously I was thinking about him and wanted him to respond. Maybe they're right (and you're right). This guy may have wanted it to *appear* like an accident .... when in fact it was intentional... to gauge your reaction. Perhaps you should feel flattered! :bunny: Katie - You are falling into the trap I was in. That is over analysing it all. I put my money on him being piddled as a fart after being down the pub with his mates (midnight kicking out time so it allows for a bit of time to stumble down the road, hug a few hedges, say hello to a few ditches, throw up in the front garden, find the key in your pocket, aim key at lock before getting in realising you have no food and you are once again bereft of company)... So piddled, get home, feel lonely, Oh I know lets see if we can track down that girl from a while ago. She was sweet and alright, not really all that bothered but would be nice to have some attention and affection... Cue text then passing out on sofa or kitchen floor while trying to aim shreddies and milk at a bowl... Preferably the same bowl. Wake up to find that you haven't wet yourself but have in fact poured the weeks supply of milk into your lap... It might now have gone down like that at all but you know what I don't care any more. He got his attention - I have wasted 2 days of my life going over and over it... I am more worried about yoga tonight because I haven't been practising the "half crow"... and I know T will have mastered it by now... Edited August 10, 2015 by Toodaloo
Gary S Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 I've seen this before......it's simply game playing for an ego boost. Change his name in your device to "telemarketer" and don't even read the messages, just delete them. 2
Author Toodaloo Posted August 11, 2015 Author Posted August 11, 2015 I've seen this before......it's simply game playing for an ego boost. Change his name in your device to "telemarketer" and don't even read the messages, just delete them. Will do - lesson learnt. As my mother says... "Where do I find these men???!!!"
gaius Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 I apparently dialed my mother by accident one time just by putting my phone in my pocket when I was out doing errands. I found the cops waiting when I got back, she called them thinking there was something wrong and I just wouldn't talk to her. There was another time some app on my phone sent a bunch of people an invite text while in my pocket. Unintentional stuff like that happens, don't bother replying unless they make certified effort next time. You being that nice and eager might have been the reason he faded on you in the first place. =/ 1
Author Toodaloo Posted August 11, 2015 Author Posted August 11, 2015 You being that nice and eager might have been the reason he faded on you in the first place. =/ Your probably right - however its just the way I am and come across. I am very bouncy and bubby, enthusiastic about life as they say... I am a bit more exceptional than "nice" as I do tend to be very positive upbeat and kind. Even when I have a strong dislike of people I am still kind to them and polite and generous. Either that or I just don't interact with them at all... If he doesn't want that, then that is fine. I think he made it clear several months ago. He sure as heck has made it now. Thing is gaius, I don't want to change who I am. I like that I am bubby, happy and outgoing. I like that I am enthusiastic and happy and always game for a laugh... So do my friends and family... Believe me it would be very easy for me to be a grumpy old baggage but I don't want to be that way so I work hard not to be. 2
Zippy2000 Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 Be wary. At 1.22am there is a possibilty he could be drunk texting. People who disappear and reappear in our lives to check weather you are still available and as long as you are you have the "push me, pull me" scenario where you will be back on here saying he`s disappeared.................AGAIN! 1
katiegrl Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 I apparently dialed my mother by accident one time just by putting my phone in my pocket when I was out doing errands. I found the cops waiting when I got back, she called them thinking there was something wrong and I just wouldn't talk to her. There was another time some app on my phone sent a bunch of people an invite text while in my pocket. Unintentional stuff like that happens, don't bother replying unless they make certified effort next time. You being that nice and eager might have been the reason he faded on you in the first place. =/ This was precisely my point earlier (which got shot down). Accidents like this happen. Happened to me, happened to gaius, happens to lots of folks. I have had it happen to me! I just ignore. 1
Weezy1973 Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 As my mother says... "Where do I find these men???!!!" Better question - why are you attracted to these men?
Author Toodaloo Posted August 11, 2015 Author Posted August 11, 2015 Better question - why are you attracted to these men? I am actually trying to avoid these men! As soon as I find out they are like this they are gone... out of my life...! Simples! I was *note the past tense* attracted to him moths ago when we went out. That attraction has gone to zilch and forgotten about him. I have not thought about him for ages. Until he sent that text it would not even have occurred to me to think about him at all. Next time I shall ignore and be done with. Even if he goes so far as to type 3 letters and say "Hey" I shall still ignore.
Justanaverageguy Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 I am actually trying to avoid these men! As soon as I find out they are like this they are gone... out of my life...! Simples! Stick to your guns toodles. I think like you said it would be a good thing after so many recent negative experiences to take a short time out. Get your head back in a good positive place and then storm the man castle again when your feeling refreshed and more positive. I know I am a harper who continues to give you the same message - but when you're back and ready to start dating again. Try to consciously stop yourself from focusing on "avoiding" crazies and time wasters and start focusing on "finding" Mr perfect. Its only a subtle difference .... but we already talked about what you focus on dictates what you will find. Don't be like the golfer on the tea who thinks about "avoiding" hitting it in the water. Be the one who focuses on landing it on the green 1
Author Toodaloo Posted August 11, 2015 Author Posted August 11, 2015 My horse is going to be the one who does a perfect halt at X... Actually he will probably skid up to the fence at supper time whinnying like mad and expect his ears scratched. But I am good with that... Its better than a square halt in my eyes I do just need time out. The stupid thing is that a few weeks ago had he sent that text I wouldn't have even worried about it. I would have just shrugged and ignored. If I were not so stressed then this thread would never have happened. That is where I am going back to. Shrug and move on. I am happier when I am like that. I feel more myself.
RebelWithoutACause Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 I think he was X-ing his large collection of women to whom he did the slow fade, or the fast fade, or whatever other forms of fade there are, to see how many reactions he got back. It's sad more than anything. Can't you block his number?
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