Toodaloo Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Hey guys. Do you remember the guy with the car? The one I had the great date with who then did the slow fade months ago? The one I agonised over and tried to ask out and who ignored me? Remember how I took that as a "not interested", moved on and forgot about him... Now after all this time. At stupid o clock on Saturday night/ Sunday morning He sent a message. 1.22am to be accurate... Please ensure you are seated as its a long one... He sent... X Yup. Inspiring isn't it. He also sent via Whatsapp which is how I knew it was him as my phone has added him as a contact on there and it has a little bubble with his picture... So as I am sitting in bed. Book at the ready thinking what??? I sent back at 3.33am because that is the time I usually wake up anyway... "Bit strange to have an x from you after all this time... I am going to guess that your having a really great night and that it was a drunk accident... hope your well anyway. Take care." Now this is how I know I need the break I am taking. 1. My brain is going over time on this and I am going a bit stir crazy. I really liked this guy despite the wonky teeth, the bald head and the really bad choice in sports car... I was gutted when he did the "slow fade" on me but didn't think much to it and moved on as you do. 2. Why oh why is he doing that? Surely he would have forgotten about me by now? Trainman says I should take it as a compliment as blokes only ever think of the "one that got away" when they are drunk and send random texts... Gah. I need to get my head back into the right place...
Author Toodaloo Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 All he sent you was "X" and you still responded. That's why he didn't bother to send you more than the X...he doesn't have to. Humph. Righto no more responding when he gets drunk again in 6 months time. Why bother at all though? Just to see? What does he want? Some sort of validation or something?
Snakechammah Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 You know... if there was a phone button that resembles the middle finger, you should have responded with that. But sweetie... chalk it up to lesson learnt! Never give a moron the time of day... even if it's 3.33am. Ignore him from now on and find other yummy men with wonky teeth!
lgspot Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 (edited) Hey guys. Do you remember the guy with the car? The one I had the great date with who then did the slow fade months ago? The one I agonised over and tried to ask out and who ignored me? Remember how I took that as a "not interested", moved on and forgot about him... Now after all this time. At stupid o clock on Saturday night/ Sunday morning He sent a message. 1.22am to be accurate... Please ensure you are seated as its a long one... He sent... X Yup. Inspiring isn't it. He also sent via Whatsapp which is how I knew it was him as my phone has added him as a contact on there and it has a little bubble with his picture... So as I am sitting in bed. Book at the ready thinking what??? I sent back at 3.33am because that is the time I usually wake up anyway... "Bit strange to have an x from you after all this time... I am going to guess that your having a really great night and that it was a drunk accident... hope your well anyway. Take care." Now this is how I know I need the break I am taking. 1. My brain is going over time on this and I am going a bit stir crazy. I really liked this guy despite the wonky teeth, the bald head and the really bad choice in sports car... I was gutted when he did the "slow fade" on me but didn't think much to it and moved on as you do. 2. Why oh why is he doing that? Surely he would have forgotten about me by now? Trainman says I should take it as a compliment as blokes only ever think of the "one that got away" when they are drunk and send random texts... Gah. I need to get my head back into the right place... I wrote two long posts that disappeared. So Starting again!!! Toodaloo, TRAINMAN couldn't be more wrong. This is a classic manipulator if ive ever seen one. His are the actions of a bottom feeder not worth yor time. He nor his car are in your league. Your class transcends him in every way!!! You deserve sooooooooo much better!!! He's trying yo catch you in week moments cause one on one you have him bested. Don't settle!!! Compared to your dad and brother, this type guy doesn't measure well. There's much better men looking for you without the childish manipulations. Hang in for the good ones. It's worth your wait. Put a big smile on your pretty face and let these slugs have a glimpse of what they're missing DON'T SETTLE!!! Edited August 10, 2015 by lgspot 3
Author Toodaloo Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 LG Honey catch me with what though? What does he want? Some sort of confirmation that I fancied him 6 months ago? I know I shouldn't apply my own standards to others but when I call or text someone its because I actually want to talk to them. Not so I can get a response and ignore them all over again. Even when I am drunk - its for no reason other than I actually want to talk to them. What a tool. Turns out you can tell a lot about a man by his car... Give me the guy with the old reliable truck any time. I also have to question myself as to why this has un-nerved me quite so much. My head is all over the place over one stupid blinkin' X. From a bloke that has basically ignored me for months on end. Mind you I didn't go overboard... But why bother after all this time? My brain is all over the place today. My left ear is burning up like you wouldn't believe... Pathetic I know and I am hoping in a couple of days I will just delete the messages and ignore any future ones. Work - I need to concentrate on work. This is why I hid my account. I can't be doing with all the does he doesn't he back and forth emotional rubbish.
Lois_Griffin Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 I really liked this guy despite the wonky teeth, the bald head .... Blech. I can't believe this guy is getting women to date him - he sounds like Uncle Fester. Ugh. If you were getting a lame "X" in the wee hours of the morning, maybe it was a mistake or he was going through his contacts trying to find someone for a booty call and he sent out a bunch of X's to different women. From your description of him, I can't imagine he got any takers. 2
Author Toodaloo Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 He isn't the best of lookers but I found him attractive... If I can I am pretty sure others would and he lives an hour away... He knows I am never going to be a booty call. I just wish (like others) that if people are not interested that they just leave you alone.
wb1988 Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 If he just wrote x then I'd say forget him but at least he bothered to make it a capital X. That shows class, he's a real keeper . 6
Author Toodaloo Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 If he just wrote x then I'd say forget him but at least he bothered to make it a capital X. That shows class, he's a real keeper . He put it in capitals... My life is complete... I really need to stop procrastinating over this don't I... I really need to let this go and just ignore. Its like a little bread crumb... Oh look little birdy I thought of you while I was drunk... yep... I need to pull myself together and just get back to thinking about work and important stuff. 1
scorpiogirl Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 I have an ex boyfriend who does this. He didn't want me 6 years ago. He made every excuse in the book. At first when I was trying to get over him ( we talked future plans, me moving with him) he would call me regularly. With each call, I hoped we'd make a go of it. That is, until I realised it was merely an ego boost for him when I took his call or replied to an email. I also noticed a pattern. He would disappear for months. Then I figured out he would come sniffing around because he'd been rejected by a woman and wanted to know that somebody out there actually did want him. It took me three years to fully recover ( it was a really bad relationship/ break-up). I blocked every avenue that he used to contact me until I was ready to unblock him. He still does it. But the difference is now I can see his message and ignore it. Or if I'm in the mood we chat on FaceTime. I actually see the changes for the good in him now but it's too late for me. He still proposes every time we talk. But he doesn't mean it. He thinks he means it. It's all about trying to boost his ego. The fact that you even replied gave him exactly that boost. Oh good, she's still there. The best thing you can do is see the message, delete, and go about your day. 3
Author Toodaloo Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 I have an ex boyfriend who does this. He didn't want me 6 years ago. He made every excuse in the book. At first when I was trying to get over him ( we talked future plans, me moving with him) he would call me regularly. With each call, I hoped we'd make a go of it. That is, until I realised it was merely an ego boost for him when I took his call or replied to an email. I also noticed a pattern. He would disappear for months. Then I figured out he would come sniffing around because he'd been rejected by a woman and wanted to know that somebody out there actually did want him. It took me three years to fully recover ( it was a really bad relationship/ break-up). I blocked every avenue that he used to contact me until I was ready to unblock him. It's all about trying to boost his ego. The fact that you even replied gave him exactly that boost. Oh good, she's still there. The best thing you can do is see the message, delete, and go about your day. At least you have the excuse of actually dating your guy... This bloke was one date! Perhaps your right. He has just been dumped. Either way I have learnt my lesson and will just ignore.
Gaeta Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 I don't want to come across as insensitive but is it possible he just sent you that by accident and it was meant for someone else? We've all text the wrong person by accident. 2
wb1988 Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 I don't want to come across as insensitive but is it possible he just sent you that by accident and it was meant for someone else? We've all text the wrong person by accident. Nah it's whatsapp and it's sorted by the last time you messaged the person. If he hasn't messaged in a while then he'd have to scroll down and pick. Most likely he want's to contact the OP again (probably for a hookup) but doesn't know what to say, or couldn't be bothered to think of something hoping that she'll respond back eagerly anyway. 1
guest569 Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Soooo lazy attention seeking twit. Is that it? I cant think why else. "X" what the hell is that.
Author Toodaloo Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 Nah it's whatsapp and it's sorted by the last time you messaged the person. If he hasn't messaged in a while then he'd have to scroll down and pick. Most likely he want's to contact the OP again (probably for a hookup) but doesn't know what to say, or couldn't be bothered to think of something hoping that she'll respond back eagerly anyway. We didn't use whatsapp last time we were in contact. So he had to add me... After a couple of weeks not hearing from him I deleted his number etc from my phone... It was phone call and bog standard text last time... Oh crap... I had a really weird text conversation a while ago when a random number sent one saying "Miss you". I thought it was my stalker playing silly buggars again so pretended to be a bloke and basically told him to p off... Oh well. Just keep telling me his is a pillock and eventually it will sink in and I will ignore the next one.
katiegrl Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 (edited) Blech. I can't believe this guy is getting women to date him - he sounds like Uncle Fester. Ugh. If you were getting a lame "X" in the wee hours of the morning, maybe it was a mistake or he was going through his contacts trying to find someone for a booty call and he sent out a bunch of X's to different women. From your description of him, I can't imagine he got any takers. I agree. Howver, my guess is he was simply cleaning out his address book and/or old messages and meant to delete. Since it was late and he was probably tired (may not have been drunk), he inadvertently typed a random letter "x" and it sent...by accident. I have actually done that! And was mortified! Why on earth would you respond to that? You are right to be questioning your reason for that. Edited August 10, 2015 by katiegrl
wb1988 Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 I thought it was my stalker playing silly buggars again so pretended to be a bloke and basically told him to p off... Suddenly your writing got super British haha I think the part thats actually sad is that this whole thread is all about an "X". 1
jen1447 Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 It's impossible to know the mind of a drunk, Toodles. It could be any ridiculous thing - from feeling drunk-sad about you to unresolved mommy issues unconsciously manifested in the neckline of your cleavage.
katiegrl Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Suddenly your writing got super British haha I think the part thats actually sad is that this whole thread is all about an "X". Even the lamest, biggest tool in the shed would have typed more than an X. "Hey" is the typical lame text after weeks or months of silence. It was a mistake, an accident. Many have done it, including myself. It's actually pretty common. Some refer to it as butt-dialing.... not sure if that's what happened here ...bottom line shyt happens when deleting stuff from one's phone...and accidents like this happen. It was an X!
katiegrl Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 It's impossible to know the mind of a drunk, Toodles. It could be any ridiculous thing - from feeling drunk-sad about you to unresolved mommy issues unconsciously manifested in the neckline of your cleavage. How does she know he was drunk?
Author Toodaloo Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 Suddenly your writing got super British haha I think the part thats actually sad is that this whole thread is all about an "X". Thats because I am British... Always have been always will be... I speak with what is known as a "plum" accent! And yes you are absolutely right and I admit I am a sad sod sometimes... It's impossible to know the mind of a drunk, Toodles. It could be any ridiculous thing - from feeling drunk-sad about you to unresolved mommy issues unconsciously manifested in the neckline of your cleavage. The whole mystery is resolved! he ran out of brie!!!! I can sleep tonight!
Author Toodaloo Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 I agree. Howver, my guess is he was simply cleaning out his address book and/or old messages and meant to delete. Since it was late and he was probably tired (may not have been drunk), he inadvertently typed a random letter "x" and it sent...by accident. I have actually done that! And was mortified! Why on earth would you respond to that? You are right to be questioning your reason for that. So you have added a new contact and sent them a message while deleting them... That seems a bit far fetched to be a mistake. Sorry Kate but your theory just doesn't fit... I don't think he was deleting me. I think he was as other have said just trying to see if he could get a reaction. Why did I respond? I guess it was an automatic reaction. I hold the guy no bad feelings. Yes I wanted to see him again at the time, yes he said he wanted to see me again at the time, no that didn't happen. In my mind it was "how nice to hear from him hope he is well but how freaky weird to send an x when he has never done that before..." Congratulations to him. He got a reaction - he won. I lost, but in the grand scheme of things I would rather lose this than pistols at dawn... I needed to get my brain sorted and have a load of random strangers basically tell me what I already knew and help me actually put this, in my mind, into the perspective it needs to be in... I got that and I am not ashamed to say thank you to everyone for that. 1
BluEyeL Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 The question is why do YOU bother? Such a message would have elicited a shrug and delete from me. 1
jen1447 Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 How does she know he was drunk? Guess I'm just going with Toodles' assumption that he was. 1
katiegrl Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 So you have added a new contact and sent them a message while deleting them... That seems a bit far fetched to be a mistake. Sorry Kate but your theory just doesn't fit... I don't think he was deleting me. I think he was as other have said just trying to see if he could get a reaction. Why did I respond? I guess it was an automatic reaction. I hold the guy no bad feelings. Yes I wanted to see him again at the time, yes he said he wanted to see me again at the time, no that didn't happen. In my mind it was "how nice to hear from him hope he is well but how freaky weird to send an x when he has never done that before..." Congratulations to him. He got a reaction - he won. I lost, but in the grand scheme of things I would rather lose this than pistols at dawn... I needed to get my brain sorted and have a load of random strangers basically tell me what I already knew and help me actually put this, in my mind, into the perspective it needs to be in... I got that and I am not ashamed to say thank you to everyone for that. Fair enough ....if that is what your gut is screaming, you are probably right. I guess I thought it may have been an accident, cause I've done it, only my letter was "s." The guy responded "did you mean to send me a text? All I got was an *s*. I was mortified and told him it was an accident, which now that I think about it, he probably thought was BS! My friends proceeded to analyze it claiming there are no *accidents* re stuff like this. That subconsciously I was thinking about him and wanted him to respond. Maybe they're right (and you're right). This guy may have wanted it to *appear* like an accident .... when in fact it was intentional... to gauge your reaction. Perhaps you should feel flattered! :bunny:
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