unbeknown Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Hey all So I met this girl back in June and we had a great first date. Loads of things in common. Didn't exactly kiss at the end properly but did on the lips briefly. The only problem was she is at University and after that date she went back home for the summer. We've stayed in touch messaging maybe once a day and last month I was visiting a friend near where she lives. She suggested meeting up before I left for home. Whilst it was brief it was a fun day. Had her laughing. She seemed interested. I've noticed the messaging has seemed to slow down now. I always seem to mess things up through what I feel is over texting someone in the early stages so I was wondering - is it best to not message her now until she's back at University in September? Or should I continue to message in the meantime? I don't want the conversation to fizzle out by only having "so how was your day" to say to her which is how I feel it's going. Cheers for any advice
madjac74 Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Just keep trying is all you can do. I know your situation and if you run out of things to text about then maybe you should move along.
Author unbeknown Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 Thing is, I've never been a huge fan of texting. Whilst I'm a good texter you can't build a connection through text so I like if possible to keep it to a minimum unless I'm going to be seeing them regularly and just use it as a tool to confirm plans etc. I'm sort of in a catch 22 where if I stop replying she might think I'm not interested and not want to meet up when I get back in touch in a month or so's time. Or she could get bored of texting me every other day. Any thoughts?
xcupid Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 Reply to her if she texts you. I'd suggest sending her a text once in a while (maybe a couple of times a week) until university starts but space it out - just to keep in touch with her. You don't have to just ask her how her day is going - tell her how things are going with you and what you're up to as well. Keep enough contact with her so she knows you're interested and then resume personal contact when she's back at uni. Good luck.
PogoStick Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 First, tell her directly that you are interested in her and that you would like to maintain a little contact until you can see each other again. If she agrees, suggest either a phone call or skype roughly once a week. Keep it to about 20 minutes (30 max), don't over-do it; and cut the texting way down. Text mostly to just setup the conversation. You want substance, and to not burn out the communication. If she's interested this gives her something to look forward to, a special ritual for you both. Report back with your results!
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