JewelD Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 So to be fair, this girl I met on OKcupid listed on her bio that she's bad at returning texts. We were mid txt convo when she stopped outta nowhere. Didn't hear from her for about a day and a half. So she just text me (it's about 12:55am) talking about she meant to text earlier and how was my day. A younger me would just text her right back and start a convo. Older more experienced me is going to make her sweat it out til tomorrow evening maybe. Why do people play these texting games? If I like somebody, I'm on it, replying to texts, asking questions, letting them know I'm interested. If you're not that interested to respond in a decent time frame, why respond at all? I don't like playing games with people, but I also don't want them to think I'm more available or interested than they are, even if I am.
mrldii Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 ... A younger me would just text her right back and start a convo. Older more experienced me is going to make her sweat it out til tomorrow evening maybe. Why do people play these texting games?... I dunno. Why are you? 3
madjac74 Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 A younger me would just text her right back and start a convo. Older more experienced me is going to make her sweat it out til tomorrow evening maybe. haha but you don't play games right? 1
Author JewelD Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 haha but you don't play games right? Because I treat people the way they treat me. I had no problem having a normal conversation with someone, but if you go a couple days not texting back, why would I be thirsty to text them back? That sends a message that I don't want to send.
mrldii Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Wait. Now, I'm confused OP. She has done something you don't like and so now you're going to do it back to her to teach her a lesson. Why not stay committed to the fact that something you don't like she's proven she does, and simply move on to the next girl? You "thirsty"? 3
Lansing Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 I suggest you just don't text her again and move on for good. 2
kenmore Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 FWIW I agree with you, people should respond back somewhat promptly if they are going to. If it's the end of the convo, that's different. Could she have thought it was the end of the convo? Judging by what you said she said in her profile, she knows she isn't a high text priority person so if you like her, you have to start understanding that. Don't text her much, call her. Keep texts short and to the point. Maybe don't ask her anything unless it's all you're texting her. Don't give her the opportunity to drop out. As for responding, that's as up to you as it is up to her. This is a fault in her and she did admit it. You may have different faults (I don't know you but I have yet to meet someone who didn't.) She may find one of yours annoying. I'd say don't give back as she is giving to you in this situation, because then you may be two faults to her one. That said, if you don't want to get into a convo in the middle of the night, that seems fair. Contact her in the AM maybe. That's what I'd do, and of course I don't have any faults! Ken 1
joseb Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 So to be fair, this girl I met on OKcupid listed on her bio that she's bad at returning texts. We were mid txt convo when she stopped outta nowhere. Didn't hear from her for about a day and a half. So she just text me (it's about 12:55am) talking about she meant to text earlier and how was my day. A younger me would just text her right back and start a convo. Older more experienced me is going to make her sweat it out til tomorrow evening maybe. Why do people play these texting games? If I like somebody, I'm on it, replying to texts, asking questions, letting them know I'm interested. If you're not that interested to respond in a decent time frame, why respond at all? I don't like playing games with people, but I also don't want them to think I'm more available or interested than they are, even if I am. Maybe she got bored as it sounds like she is not big into texting. Maybe she fell asleep? Or maybe some other OKC match became more interesting. Have you met her in person? Until you have met someone there is no relationship or indeed anything to get emotionally invested in. For all you know, she might not be real. Personally I don't text too much as too much small talk makes me (and probably them) get bored and lose interest. After some basic messages to make sure they can at least converse, and that they seem interesting, ieither get a phone number and chat to arrange a date, or just arrange a meetup. Many will flake at this point, but at least you haven't wasted days of energy texting. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 So to be fair, this girl I met on OKcupid listed on her bio that she's bad at returning texts. We were mid txt convo when she stopped outta nowhere. Didn't hear from her for about a day and a half. So she just text me (it's about 12:55am) talking about she meant to text earlier and how was my day. A younger me would just text her right back and start a convo. Older more experienced me is going to make her sweat it out til tomorrow evening maybe. Why do people play these texting games? If I like somebody, I'm on it, replying to texts, asking questions, letting them know I'm interested. If you're not that interested to respond in a decent time frame, why respond at all? I don't like playing games with people, but I also don't want them to think I'm more available or interested than they are, even if I am. She's not interested. She doesn't want to be rude and not respond, but she's not that eager to text with you. I don't think she's playing games. I just think she doesn't know how to tell you that she's not into you. If I really like a guy, he hears from me long before a day-and-a-half has passed. Sorry, I know it sucks, but it's the truth. Why would you bother to respond after that?
yellowhibiscus Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Well I thought I would post a response as a woman who HATES texting, especially early in a relationship. I have told people before not to take it personally...I would much rather have a conversation in person or even a phone call. I'm not one of those people who is constantly glued to my phone either, so maybe she is the same way. I would talk to her about it! 1
wb1988 Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Don't text her much, call her. That'll probably freak her out.
Lois_Griffin Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Because I treat people the way they treat me. I had no problem having a normal conversation with someone, but if you go a couple days not texting back, why would I be thirsty to text them back? That sends a message that I don't want to send. Everyone gets ONE chance to disrespect me. Then I'm done with them. While I think texting is lame, impersonal and a lazy way to communicate, it's still unacceptable to just disappear in the middle of a conversation than show up again at midnight the next day. Unacceptable. It's really no different than talking on the phone when suddenly one of you simply hangs up in the middle of the conversation and calls you back a day and half later. I wouldn't respond. At all. 1
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