Lol.l Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Hey all I'm really emotional right now. I really love my ex. It's been 6 days. I constantly text her and she gave me cold replies. We were tgt for a year . I'm her second bf. And I treated her really good. I always care for her. I never cheat on her. And we made plans about getting married and all the plans about our future. She said before of one day she gives up, please don't give up on her. Fight for her. But I always say harsh words and hurt her during the break up. I always say she didn't make any effort but after I cool down then I realised she actually made alot of effort. I was blinded by anger. 6 days ago I blame her for not making efforts to meet me. I blamed her for not wanting to quarrel with me. I said alot of harsh words that I'm really sorry about. I know this wasn't the first time. I tried to control my temper. I went to her house to find her and tell her how much I love her and how I will change. She just told me 'it's okay' ' don't need' ' I'm tired of being in this relationship'. I know she still loves me but why she doesn't wanna give me a chance? I promised her I can change and all but she just didn't want me to. I stop talking to her for 2 days and Im really miserable. She didn't contact me at all. But during this few days I constantly text her in the couple app. An app that couple register and talk through the app. I texted her everyday, good morning message and night messages. Telling her how much I love her and miss her. Idk if she had deleted the app. I just constantly send it. I'm stuck. I really dk how to continue smiling and all. I want her back desperately. Can some one please give me some advice. I don't want to lose her.
loveforever101 Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 I think the best thing to do is just stop contacting her. She's ignoring you for a reason so just give her space. If you don't contact her for awhile she will have the chance to miss you and she won't be so upset at you. Just give it time and space.
Author Lol.l Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 I didn't expect her to reply. I just keep sending to let her know I still care for her. Plus it's not by text messages. It's by the couple app. Idk if she still keeps the app. But I know if she deleted then nvm But if she still keeps it, does that mean I still have a chance? What should I do? I'm so troubled now
dental Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 ... And I treated her really good. I always care for her. ... But I always say harsh words and hurt her during the break up. I always say she didn't make any effort but after I cool down then I realised she actually made alot of effort. I was blinded by anger .... I blame her for not making efforts to meet me. I blamed her for not wanting to quarrel with me. I said alot of harsh words that I'm really sorry about. I know this wasn't the first time. I tried to control my temper. Gently, You sound very immature and insecure. You sound like you have no control over your emotions and you haven't got a clue what caring for a person means. You have a fragile ego, I suspect that this reply can trigger said ego. That ok. Perhaps it can be a starting point to do some growing. Your relationship, however, is over. 3
Realitycol Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 (edited) You already lost her. She gets the point. She knows you care. You care TOO much. She knows she can have you whenever. She doesn't NEED to try, you're all over her... she knows when she's got NOTHING better to do and even then she knows she can call you up and you'll be going nuts for her and do whatever she wants from you. You LOST her. All you're doing is pushing her away and reaffirming her every time you reach out she did the right thing. You're making it easy for her for all she knows she left a weak man who has no self-respect or self-control over his emotions, aka unstable dude =/= marriage/LTR material. If someone walked up to you and punched the living **** out of your nose and broke it and you're in so much pain and bleeding everywhere, would you go back to that person and say, "thank you so much!" Would you reward such ill treatment? So why are you rewarding someone who is treating you worse than the trash sitting outside? If you rewarded a dog for ****ting on your face every morning what do you think the dog is going to do every morning? Stop rewarding people who hurt you with your time and effort. Reward people that earned and deserve you and your time. Edited August 10, 2015 by Realitycol
Author Lol.l Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 But I don't want her to leave. What can I do now? Stop talking to her? Stop caring about her?
Realitycol Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 She LEFT. Past tense. Your words and what you've wrote turned off people who doesn't even know you. How do you think the same actions and words you are spilling to your ex-gf is sounding to her? It takes two in a relationship. You don't want her to leave, hell I'm sure everybody can say that when they lost someone they truly loved. Doesn't mean she wants the same thing as you dude. Truth is you have no control over your emotions. You are hurting her, because you don't have CONTROL over your emotions. You go from being loving to angry and that's just not healthy for you or her to deal with. What you need to do is stop hurting her and yourself. You're emotional, insecure, fearful to say the least. You need to stop being that cause it's not attractive and it's bound to end all relationships 100% guaranteed.
Realitycol Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 (edited) Hey all I'm really emotional right now. I really love my ex. It's been 6 days. I constantly text her and she gave me cold replies dude that's a sign that she wants you to gtfo of her life. We were tgt for a year . I'm her second bf. And I treated her really good. I always care for her. I never cheat on her. And we made plans about getting married and all the plans about our future she only meant it AT that particular moment. She said before of one day she gives up, please don't give up on her. Fight for heryou ****ed up way too much that she no longer cares. But I always say harsh words and hurt her during the break up. I always say she didn't make any effort but after I cool down then I realised she actually made alot of effort. I was blinded by anger.so you never changed. Men who knows how to communicate with their women don't get angry all the time 6 days ago I blame her for not making efforts to meet me. I blamed her for not wanting to quarrel with me. I said alot of harsh words that I'm really sorry about. I know this wasn't the first time. I tried to control my temper. again you're emotional and fearing she'll forget you I went to her house you did what girls fear and hate the most, become THAT guy who's a creeper that goes to their house omfg worst mistake to find her and tell her how much I love her and how I will change. She just told me 'it's okay' ' don't need' ' I'm tired of being in this relationship' she's seen enough, you haven't learned or changed. You need a lot of time to do so. I know she still loves me if she loves you she'd be with youbut why she doesn't wanna give me a chance? I promised her I can change and all but she just didn't want me to. she's tired of your WORDS, you got no actions to prove otherwise and tbh it's too late by now. I stop talking to her for 2 days and Im really miserable. She didn't contact me at all. But during this few days I constantly text her wait what? You said you stopped contacting her yet BLEW up her phone with texts? Any girl would've blocked you by now and be begging you to drop off the face of the earth you're really hurting your chances man in the couple app. An app that couple register and talk through the app. I texted her everyday, good morning message and night messages. Telling her how much I love her and miss her. SHE KNOWS, you're easy to get. Idk if she had deleted the app. I just constantly send it. I'm stuck. I really dk how to continue smiling and all. I want her back desperately. Can some one please give me some advice. I don't want to lose her. There, I wrote some deadly mistakes you made with underlines. Just leave this girl alone. Let this just go and learn from it. If down the road she's ever interested she'll come to you. In the meantime learn to be a real man. You want to keep blowing up her phone and get a restraining order, which goes under permanent record, keep right on. How about you stop speaking of change and actually dig real deep and find out why you treat women this way and spend months/years working on it so you don't hurt and CHASE AWAY your next "love of your life." Edited August 10, 2015 by Realitycol
Author Lol.l Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 I admit I can't control my emotions. I hurt her through the process. I became really needy and it's unhealthy for me. Btw I text her through another app. If she deleted that couple app, she wouldn't have seen what I send. But if she hasn't deleted? I'm sure it doesn't mean I have a chance but I mean she still loves me. I will learn and try to change what I had done. Maybe someday she will come back but now I need to let go like man
ExpatInItaly Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 I admit I can't control my emotions. I hurt her through the process. I became really needy and it's unhealthy for me. Btw I text her through another app. If she deleted that couple app, she wouldn't have seen what I send. But if she hasn't deleted? I'm sure it doesn't mean I have a chance but I mean she still loves me. I will learn and try to change what I had done. Maybe someday she will come back but now I need to let go like man This is by far the most reasonable thing you have posted in this thread. Come back and re-read this when you feel your resolve slipping. I am speaking from experience when I say that harsh words hurt, a bad temper is draining and problems with self-control are utterly exhausting. I dated a man similar to this. I finally had enough too. You can't understand the full impact these things had on your ex-girlfriend. It's incredibly hurtful and builds so much resentment. Your continued contact is only proving that you aren't respecting her wishes and that you haven't changed at all. She's made it abundantly clear she doesn't want to talk to you right now. Leave her alone completely. She already left and you cannot change that. All you can do is focus on your own well-being. If your temper is as bad as you described, you need to get to the bottom of that first before you attempt any relationships in the future. 1
dclan Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 Actually the OP hasn't even mentioned "why" they broke up. Honestly, for what I've read it seems like they had an argument and the OP just behaved like an idiot to her, and she just wanted out because of this. To be honest and not trying to give the op hope here, but maybe it is a fixable thing. We can't really know without details. What exactly happened...? Why was the argument? how have things been between the 2 of you..? You said you told her she does not make an effort to meet you, do you guys live far from each other? How old are you guys?
mightycpa Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 I admit I can't control my emotions. I hurt her through the process. I became really needy and it's unhealthy for me. Btw I text her through another app. If she deleted that couple app, she wouldn't have seen what I send. But if she hasn't deleted? I'm sure it doesn't mean I have a chance but I mean she still loves me. I will learn and try to change what I had done. Maybe someday she will come back but now I need to let go like manLetting go like a man means admitting to yourself that she will never come back.
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