andyg99 Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 So I have been divorced for 20 years, had a few relationships but nothing clicked. I honestly haven't had any feelings of love for anyone in a long time, maybe since my ex. I'm 51. I still do date on occasion and I keep myself open to possibilities of something permanent So I have a coworker who I have known pretty well for 8 years, she's 40, we are good friends. I have been her friend throughout her marriage and her breakup. She has been broken up with her ex for 3 years and the divorce is final in a few months. For just about all the time I have known her we have only been friends. A few months ago we started to spend just about every lunch together, our friendship grew. Then it was like lightning, one day we met outside of work, when I saw her with my daughter (not my real daughter, I posted the details of this a few years ago here) I think I instantly fell in love, seeing her with my family just hit the spot for me. So our friendship continued, I tried to push away my feelings as some kind of crush. I figured I'd give it some time and let the feelings fade I honestly never fell so hard for someone, in fact I never figured at over 50 I'd ever have those feelings again. So now here I am 4 months later and the feelings are just as strong. So does she feel the same? I don't know, lots of the signs are there, I know for sure at a minimum she cares for me as a very good friend. Anyway the obvious thing I need to do is just tell her - but the big issue is that we literally work 15 feet apart. I risk making this an awkward work environment for us both. We can just continue the friendship but with the way I feel now it almost hurts to be near her. I think what bothered me is that the other day I overheard her making lunch plans with a guy she knows (remember desks are 15 feet apart) and I got hit with a wave of jealousy. Yes, she is free to do whatever she wants - this love thing seems to have made me a bit crazy. Anyway I think I will just tell her, she has told me many times how awesome it would be to have a love that started as a friendship - maybe she was throwing me hints. Bottom line I don't want to be going through my list of regrets when I'm 90 and wonder why I just didn't tell her how I felt. This place had some great advice for me a few years back when I was in a difficult situation, I'd be interested in any of your thoughts.
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