Pancake Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Am I the only one who likes to know why you think that women think that way Jet96? Sounds like there must be a dramatic story behind this assumption... I rarely think that men who talk to me only want to get in my pants and then my boyfriend calls me naive lol
Popsicle Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 In the beginning, I find that guys don't want you to think they want a relationship though. They don't want you to have any expectations whatsoever. Expectations make men uncomfortable. They want you to have a go with the flow/whatever attitude, yet somehow NOT think that they just want easy sex, (which is actually counterintuitive for a woman). It's a dilemma. 2
DivorcedDad123 Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 We don't just want sex...we want sammiches too! Cut diagonally sometimes. 4
mrldii Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 We don't just want sex...we want sammiches too! Cut diagonally sometimes. Of course diagonal cuts...that's where the love is put!!! 1
LoveRefreshed Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Why can't I want a loving relationship and picture them naked at the same time? They're not mutually exclusive.. and if I want a relationship, you better believe I'm letting my imagination run wild. 3
pteromom Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Like seriously do you think that every guy that whants to talk to you and get to know you only want to get in your pants ? Its like everytime i say hi in your mind you think that i just want sex. Why ?Everytime i try to have a conversation you give us that now what do you want look like we always want something other than your time and attention not whats in your pants ! Some guys are not in it for that. Some actually want a long lasting loving relationship with you not a short lasting moment in bed with you then we're gone.For some of us were not imagining you naked when we see you in public or Master bating to you in our thoughts in private. Why cant you see that ? Because so many guys are like that. Many guys blatantly ASK for sex without knowing us. Others pretend to want a relationship then bolt after we agree to sex. Others do want relationships, but obsess over sex and treat us like objects. It's only a matter of time until a woman becomes leery of a man's intentions. But that doesn't mean that we know there aren't good men out there. Try to see past the doubt and suspicion, and just show her who you are, and the wall will fall down. 2
LoveRefreshed Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Why isn't sex just assumed? It doesn't really need to be talked about. If I am on a dating website, and I am messaging a girl, I want to bang her. She should already know this, and I don't have to say this. In person, it's not the same I guess, since I talk to lots of girls. I guess I reverse the assumption and assume she doesn't want to bang me until she starts flirting I think girls should also just assume guys are just being friendly until we ask for a date, flirt, or start doing some touching. (Not pervy groping!)
smackie9 Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Women think with their emotions, and guys think with their penis.....just the way it is. 1
Timshel Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Why isn't sex just assumed? It doesn't really need to be talked about. If I am on a dating website, and I am messaging a girl, I want to bang her. She should already know this, and I don't have to say this. In person, it's not the same I guess, since I talk to lots of girls. I guess I reverse the assumption and assume she doesn't want to bang me until she starts flirting I think girls should also just assume guys are just being friendly until we ask for a date, flirt, or start doing some touching. (Not pervy groping!) So this is OLD.....no wonder so many threads. Am I mistaken or does every one in the 'room' want intimacy, a long lasting connection with another human being? Can't wrap my mind around the superficiality of it. No woman can speak for every woman but if there is no attraction; no, just no. Sex is assumed now?? 1
LoveRefreshed Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Are you really that naïve? What's a relationship without sex? The whole point of OLD is to find a partner, right? So by assumed, I mean of course I want to bang her, I don't need to send her a pic of my dick or start out with some crude comments. I'm not in the habit of messaging girls on OKC that I am not attracted to. I don't mean that it's assumed that because we message each other, we're going to bang. When did I say a girl telling me no meant anything else? A no is a no. What are you on?
Timshel Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Are you really that naïve? What's a relationship without sex? The whole point of OLD is to find a partner, right? So by assumed, I mean of course I want to bang her, I don't need to send her a pic of my dick or start out with some crude comments. I'm not in the habit of messaging girls on OKC that I am not attracted to. I don't mean that it's assumed that because we message each other, we're going to bang. When did I say a girl telling me no meant anything else? A no is a no. What are you on? Dude, do what you do. Lucks.
spiderowl Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Then What is the first thing that goes says hi and introduces himself to you properly? Yes, guys do this, then three sentences later they show their true colours.
todreaminblue Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 going by experience i would say not all men just want sex....but mostly all think about it...and sometimes its not even conscious thought...it just pops right out there without prompting.....all men are not walking machines....and showing respect in spite of sex drive is how most men behave......some men however....are just dicks......deb 3
Zagan Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 This reminds me of a show I was watching a long time ago (I can't remember what it was, some shyte) .. Threre was a scene in a night club where a good looking woman was sat with her girlfriends drinking and a guy said "excuse me" to her.. And she turned around and started straight away on a rant about how she's out of his league why do guys think they can just come up to women and start harrassing them and assuming she will sleep with them bla bla.. To which he replied "sorry, you have the wrong impression.. your chair leg is on my jacket" 7
Author Jet96 Posted August 11, 2015 Author Posted August 11, 2015 This reminds me of a show I was watching a long time ago (I can't remember what it was, some shyte) .. Threre was a scene in a night club where a good looking woman was sat with her girlfriends drinking and a guy said "excuse me" to her.. And she turned around and started straight away on a rant about how she's out of his league why do guys think they can just come up to women and start harrassing them and assuming she will sleep with them bla bla.. To which he replied "sorry, you have the wrong impression.. your chair leg is on my jacket" Exactly What I mean. Why Women Have to asume that all guys think there just vaginas that talk instead of actually human beings ?
Zagan Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 Exactly What I mean. Why Women Have to asume that all guys think there just vaginas that talk instead of actually human beings ? Wow wait! They talk!?!?
LookAtThisPOst Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 I am not sure if online can be compared to real life when it comes to this topic, but I think about 99% of the profiles I've read, it's like a broken friggin' record/beating a dead horse. "If you're looking for a FWB or one-night stand, move to the next profile!" "No players or men wanting to see nude photos!" "Not looking for sex!" This is probably on every "Message me if..." section of an OK Cupid profile. LOL Well, experience of online dating actually does the opposite to what you are saying. It shows women just how much men think about sex and how they can't restrain themselves in any decent fashion when chatting to a woman online. It doesn't give a very good impression of men in general, which is a real shame for those who don't behave badly. If a guy can't exchange three brief messages without bring the subject up, or saying something borderline or directly crude, then what impression does that give women? I have chatted to guys online (very briefly I hasten to add) who have behaved in a really dodgy, sordid manner. Once I realise what kind of person they are, I cut them off. But I have felt that some of these guys should not be walking the streets, but need locking up. Sadly, it has given me a different perspective of men and now I know what some are thinking when walking down the street or in a bar or other public place, it makes the world seem a less pleasant place. Any ideas I might have had that guys like love and romance like women do have been shattered. I know that some do want a relationship but there are real predators out there.
hotpotato Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 Because a lot of men do, esp on pof. Ive met plenty of men who didn't try to get to know me and only wanted sex.
hotpotato Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 I am not sure if online can be compared to real life when it comes to this topic, but I think about 99% of the profiles I've read, it's like a broken friggin' record/beating a dead horse. "If you're looking for a FWB or one-night stand, move to the next profile!" "No players or men wanting to see nude photos!" "Not looking for sex!" This is probably on every "Message me if..." section of an OK Cupid profile. LOL Some people actually go on dating sites to date. If I ever wanted just sex, i'd be hitting up some saints player lol 1
No Limit Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 Well, the last guy who approached me said he'd love to take me home for a fun night and that he'd 'give me a good ...'. At this point I just take this as a compliment - and to his defense, he was totally drunk which was probably the reason why he was so 'honest' right away - but I hope it's understandable that in situations like this I do assume the guy to just want sex. It's actually the guys who want more than sex who are more difficult to decipher. Not sure if it was the alcohol or maybe he had just been through a bad breakup but the guy who accused me of cheating on my (non-existant) boyfriend with him I wrote about a couple times here but before that he suddenly kept saying "You don't like me, do you?" and stuff like that. A little hint for the guys - if she stays at your side for a long time and spends that time talking to you, not just trying to grab off as many drinks she can from you - then yes, the girl DOES like you.
Zagan Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 It's funny because there was a recent thread by a woman who was in a 'dilemma' because the guy she'd just started dating was very sweet to her. Sent her nice txts and treated her well and was very in tune with his emotions toward her.. And that was some kind of problem. So when we make it known we want to have sex with a woman then we're wrong, and when we make it known we really like that person that's (in some cases) wrong too. Maybe a lot of men are confused about exactly how to interact with women, so maybe straight up honesty is just best
Zagan Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 I'd prefer to actually have some kind of connection with a woman I have sex with rather than just liking the look of her physically. It's not a one way street, I'm giving my body to her too, so she should be worthy just as much as I am. And that should be the case for all people. Sure there are men (women too) who just want the physical side, and with sex being far from sacred in society today is it any wonder so many men assume some women have the same ideas in mind as they do. There are even dating websites for married people to hook up with other married people .. The lines are blurred.
smackie9 Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 I don't know why men get such a bad rap. Of course they want sex, why is it such a crime?....that's the expectation, it's part of the genetic makeup to continue our species. It's our job as women to learn how to navigate through the minefields. I didn't have any problem figuring out their intentions when I was dating. And yes depending on who it was, I was down for some casual sex. 2
kilgore Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 Women think with their emotions, and guys think with their penis.....just the way it is. That is both a generalization and always true
Jj66 Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 Men want sex because we are men. Pretty damn simple. We like other things too, but sex is what makes the world go round. 1
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