Jet96 Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 Like seriously do you think that every guy that whants to talk to you and get to know you only want to get in your pants ? Its like everytime i say hi in your mind you think that i just want sex. Why ?Everytime i try to have a conversation you give us that now what do you want look like we always want something other than your time and attention not whats in your pants ! Some guys are not in it for that. Some actually want a long lasting loving relationship with you not a short lasting moment in bed with you then we're gone.For some of us were not imagining you naked when we see you in public or Master bating to you in our thoughts in private. Why cant you see that ? 2
loveforever101 Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 I'm not a girl but I see why they tend to assume this. A lot of guys are jerks and they mistreat women, at least that's my opinion. I have a friend who is alwayssss getting attention from guys. They'll say stuff to her and send her pics of their "boomstick". If a lot of women have to go through what she goes through I wouldn't blame them for assuming something like that. It sucks for us guys who actually care like you said but you just got to show them you're something special.
yxalitis Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Hello ladies, I can answer you, if you don't mind. Sometimes it's simply because the guy just wants sex, true, but I hasten to add, that sometimes girls just want that too. However, society has driven home the message that guys who seek sex are "studs" and girls who seek sex are "sluts" Sadly, this is as true today as it ever has been. You get defensive because you don't want to be thought of like that, put up obstacles and barriers to your sexual nature, until a guy has earned your trust to be allowed inside to see that aspect of you. You gals do enjoy sex too, of course, you agree it's an important part of a relationship. The difference is, guys are (usually, let's not generalise too much here) interested in knowing the sexual part of you AT THE SAME time as getting to know the other aspects of your personalty. I have known girls who are of the opinion that when dating, just "get the sex over with", and continue to date the guy to see if it's going to work, whereas the norm is to wait until you are "sure' he's "right" before committing to take it to "the next level" An average guy is't going to know where on the spectrum you lie, and is probing to see. Every relationship I've ever had has been quick to get to sex, I slept with my ex wife on the second date, and stayed 19 years with her. I have also dated a girl for a very long time, only to discover the sex is crap...I'd like to have known that earlier! Next tine a guy is annoying you with overt flirting or suggestive behaviour, and you aren't ready, put him down with a simple: "Keep that up and you'll never get me!" 1
spiderowl Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Well, experience of online dating actually does the opposite to what you are saying. It shows women just how much men think about sex and how they can't restrain themselves in any decent fashion when chatting to a woman online. It doesn't give a very good impression of men in general, which is a real shame for those who don't behave badly. If a guy can't exchange three brief messages without bring the subject up, or saying something borderline or directly crude, then what impression does that give women? I have chatted to guys online (very briefly I hasten to add) who have behaved in a really dodgy, sordid manner. Once I realise what kind of person they are, I cut them off. But I have felt that some of these guys should not be walking the streets, but need locking up. Sadly, it has given me a different perspective of men and now I know what some are thinking when walking down the street or in a bar or other public place, it makes the world seem a less pleasant place. Any ideas I might have had that guys like love and romance like women do have been shattered. I know that some do want a relationship but there are real predators out there. 3
yxalitis Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Well, experience of online dating actually does the opposite to what you are saying. It shows women just how much men think about sex and how they can't restrain themselves in any decent fashion when chatting to a woman online. It doesn't give a very good impression of men in general, which is a real shame for those who don't behave badly. If a guy can't exchange three brief messages without bring the subject up, or saying something borderline or directly crude, then what impression does that give women? I have chatted to guys online (very briefly I hasten to add) who have behaved in a really dodgy, sordid manner. Once I realise what kind of person they are, I cut them off. But I have felt that some of these guys should not be walking the streets, but need locking up. Sadly, it has given me a different perspective of men and now I know what some are thinking when walking down the street or in a bar or other public place, it makes the world seem a less pleasant place. Any ideas I might have had that guys like love and romance like women do have been shattered. I know that some do want a relationship but there are real predators out there. On this I 100% agree... ALL of ladies I have dated have both recounted tails of ridiculous overt sexual attitudes, one called Che up at 11:30, and asked her over to his place...right then! She laughed (with zero intention of doing so) and asked him why so late? He said he wanted to "have fun" with her. Another date, Carol, had a guy just reach over in the car and grab her boob! It DOES make it hard for those of who have learnt to be more subtle in getting the woman to sleep with us on the 2nd date..seriously!!
Author Jet96 Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 On this I 100% agree... ALL of ladies I have dated have both recounted tails of ridiculous overt sexual attitudes, one called Che up at 11:30, and asked her over to his place...right then! She laughed (with zero intention of doing so) and asked him why so late? He said he wanted to "have fun" with her. Another date, Carol, had a guy just reach over in the car and grab her boob! It DOES make it hard for those of who have learnt to be more subtle in getting the woman to sleep with us on the 2nd date..seriously!! This is what i ment some of us guys are NOT look ing for that it could be our 20th date and if we havent had sex im fine with that i get the pleasure of knowing the lady before we have sex .
Author Jet96 Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 Well, experience of online dating actually does the opposite to what you are saying. It shows women just how much men think about sex and how they can't restrain themselves in any decent fashion when chatting to a woman online. It doesn't give a very good impression of men in general, which is a real shame for those who don't behave badly. If a guy can't exchange three brief messages without bring the subject up, or saying something borderline or directly crude, then what impression does that give women? I have chatted to guys online (very briefly I hasten to add) who have behaved in a really dodgy, sordid manner. Once I realise what kind of person they are, I cut them off. But I have felt that some of these guys should not be walking the streets, but need locking up. Sadly, it has given me a different perspective of men and now I know what some are thinking when walking down the street or in a bar or other public place, it makes the world seem a less pleasant place. Any ideas I might have had that guys like love and romance like women do have been shattered. I know that some do want a relationship but there are real predators out there. Then What is the first thing that goes says hi and introduces himself to you properly?
mortensorchid Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 I think it's because of basic biology and chemistry. All guys are thinking of it no matter what they say otherwise. That doesn't mean they are truly after it from every woman they just say "hi how are you" to. But ... Unfortunately after many experiences in life, people are people no matter what. Men use women when they want to and throw them away or find some reason or excuse as to how and why they are. All you can do, as a man who thinks that he is a good man rather than one of "those", is go forth and keep doing what you've been doing.
Jame22 Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 This is what i ment some of us guys are NOT look ing for that it could be our 20th date and if we havent had sex im fine with that i get the pleasure of knowing the lady before we have sex . Most woman will be gone well before the the 20th date If you don't at least make an attempt. Like all things in life, you have to find a happy medium.
Phoe Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 I have never thought "all guys just want sex". Cause it's not even remotely true. Simple enough I suppose. 4
madjac74 Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Like seriously do you think that every guy that whants to talk to you and get to know you only want to get in your pants ? Its like everytime i say hi in your mind you think that i just want sex. Why ?Everytime i try to have a conversation you give us that now what do you want look like we always want something other than your time and attention not whats in your pants ! Some guys are not in it for that. Some actually want a long lasting loving relationship with you not a short lasting moment in bed with you then we're gone.For some of us were not imagining you naked when we see you in public or Master bating to you in our thoughts in private. Why cant you see that ? Based on your whole paragraph, maybe they don't perceive your look as "I want to just have sex" but rather "I am a creepy guy who want's to not masturbate to you while naked in public??""
mrldii Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 I'm a woman and I don't know that I don't believe "that all guys just want sex". All the guys I have personally dated/related with have wanted sex, but I don't know that that's the only thing they've wanted; in my defense, I'd like to believe I'm at least partly to *blame*. 4
yxalitis Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 This is what i ment some of us guys are NOT look ing for that it could be our 20th date and if we havent had sex im fine with that i get the pleasure of knowing the lady before we have sex . Well, 20 is a tad high for me, TBH, I'd be wondering what the problem was at that stage. Even if you had two dates a week, that's nearly 3 months right there, and you still aren't banging?
mrldii Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 If guy doesn't say something crude she loses interest so I started being cruder. It's what you all want but won't admit you want. I agree. But only to the extent that it's important that the IG site "Bye Felipe" stay up and running and providing hours of entertainment for us ladies.
madjac74 Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 If guy doesn't say something crude she loses interest so I started being cruder. It's what you all want but won't admit you want. You can determine what people want? It doesn't seem like it 1
fitnessfan365 Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 I'm a woman and I don't know that I don't believe "that all guys just want sex". All the guys I have personally dated/related with have wanted sex, but I don't know that that's the only thing they've wanted; in my defense, I'd like to believe I'm at least partly to *blame*. GREAT post. It's very attractive when a woman has a sense of humor and keeps it light about her role in the seduction dance. Personally, I can't stand it when some guys try to act like they're above sex. It's weak and women often see right through that crap. I mean if we didn't want sex, we wouldn't be dating women. But it isn't the only thing some of us want. So if the OP was expressing frustration when some women are way too guarded, I agree w-him there. It's really nice w-my GF. Even though our sexual chemistry is through the roof, I consider her a genuine friend of mine and like just spending time w-her. We're actually planning a trip to Chicago right now. W-her, sex is the bonus, not the goal. 4
joseb Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 GREAT post. It's very attractive when a woman has a sense of humor and keeps it light about her role in the seduction dance. Personally, I can't stand it when some guys try to act like they're above sex. It's weak and women often see right through that crap. I mean if we didn't want sex, we wouldn't be dating women. But it isn't the only thing some of us want. Yes - all guys who enter into romantic relationships with women do want sex. And no-one should feel bad about that. Or try to hide it. But, importantly, for (most?) of us it's not the only thing we want. 5
fryingpan Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Well, experience of online dating actually does the opposite to what you are saying. It shows women just how much men think about sex and how they can't restrain themselves in any decent fashion when chatting to a woman online. It doesn't give a very good impression of men in general, which is a real shame for those who don't behave badly. If a guy can't exchange three brief messages without bring the subject up, or saying something borderline or directly crude, then what impression does that give women? I have chatted to guys online (very briefly I hasten to add) who have behaved in a really dodgy, sordid manner. Once I realise what kind of person they are, I cut them off. But I have felt that some of these guys should not be walking the streets, but need locking up. Sadly, it has given me a different perspective of men and now I know what some are thinking when walking down the street or in a bar or other public place, it makes the world seem a less pleasant place. Any ideas I might have had that guys like love and romance like women do have been shattered. I know that some do want a relationship but there are real predators out there. I'd say that guys "like" love and romance more than women do. Aswell as sex. In every relationship that I have seen its the man who is the more romantic and loving of the two. 3
Toodaloo Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 I am a woman and I want sex. In fact I want lots and lots of sex... Just with one guy. One guy that I can talk to after the five minutes of passion is over and done with. One guy that I can do things with other than just humpy bumpy... There in is the problem... Finding someone compatible with me for the whole meal not just the pudding... So far I have yet to find a guy who is halfway sane who wants lots of sex with me... I have found lots who are sane and that do just want sex. A few that have got their knickers in a twist over it all and made great fan fares over it all. I have found many who demand and use vile tactics to try and get sex... Please God give me a man who DOES WANT SEX!!! Lord knows when I get to find one I am compatible with he is going to get devoured... 6
S_A Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 I am a woman and I want sex. In fact I want lots and lots of sex... Just with one guy. One guy that I can talk to after the five minutes of passion is over and done with I feel like I should apologize or something
Toodaloo Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 I feel like I should apologize or something Ha ha!! Some of you guys can fit a lot into 5 minutes 1
Snakechammah Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 I am a woman and I want sex. In fact I want lots and lots of sex... Just with one guy. One guy that I can talk to after the five minutes of passion is over and done with. One guy that I can do things with other than just humpy bumpy... There in is the problem... Finding someone compatible with me for the whole meal not just the pudding... So far I have yet to find a guy who is halfway sane who wants lots of sex with me... I have found lots who are sane and that do just want sex. A few that have got their knickers in a twist over it all and made great fan fares over it all. I have found many who demand and use vile tactics to try and get sex... Please God give me a man who DOES WANT SEX!!! Lord knows when I get to find one I am compatible with he is going to get devoured... Toodles, this is an EXCELLENT post! My sentiments exactly!
Toodaloo Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Toodles, this is an EXCELLENT post! My sentiments exactly! Your going to be eating some poor man alive too??? At least they will dies with smiles on their faces I guess!!! 1
Popsicle Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Like seriously do you think that every guy that whants to talk to you and get to know you only want to get in your pants ? Its like everytime i say hi in your mind you think that i just want sex. Why ?Everytime i try to have a conversation you give us that now what do you want look like we always want something other than your time and attention not whats in your pants ! Some guys are not in it for that. Some actually want a long lasting loving relationship with you not a short lasting moment in bed with you then we're gone.For some of us were not imagining you naked when we see you in public or Master bating to you in our thoughts in private. Why cant you see that ? It is annoying when women assume this. It's also annoying when men assume women are evil. 2
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