lino Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Hardly a text buddy...they hardly text, only ever in (often belated) reply. Minimally interested I'd agree with. I don't mind pushing a bit to begin with, but after a long passionate kiss, I'd have expected more from Vay. The ones I'm not interested in fall in love and burst into tears, the ones I like aren't interested enough to bother texting or calling me to arrange a new date. ...Maybe I'll move to HK! If they usually reply very late and you not so much, definitely a sign of low interest. Can't comment much on Chinese women as haven't got experience but aussie or Australianised migrants aren't the top prize they believe they are. Maybe the move isn't the worst idea, especially if you've had experience working there previously. If I hadn't met my girl I'd have considered moving abroad. Too much of a lottery here!
Author yxalitis Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 It's much more likely they have a vested interest in finding what they perceive to be a rich white man from America. What? Where did you get that from?
guest569 Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 The ones I'm not interested in fall in love and burst into tears, the ones I like aren't interested enough to bother texting or calling me to arrange a new date. ...Maybe I'll move to HK! How long did you wait before telling those who were in love with you, "sorry, I'm not that into you"?
Popsicle Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Will share this little pearl in our next secret vagina people meeting. 1
autumnnight Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Will share this little pearl in our next secret vagina people meeting. Yep, while we're doing those keigels to make sure they're nice and tight lol 2
No Limit Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Don't even need 2 dates to figure it out (unless for whatever reasons that have nothing to do with the guy date #1 went horribly wrong of course); the only time I wasn't quite sure about a guy I was able to make a (positive) evaluation like 3 minutes into the conversation.
mrldii Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Will share this little pearl in our next secret vagina people meeting. Yep, while we're doing those keigels to make sure they're nice and tight lol This Thursday night? At our weekly bra-and-panties pillow fight night get-together, right? 2
jen1447 Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 This Thursday night? At our weekly bra-and-panties pillow fight night get-together, right? I forget - are we destroying men this week or next? 2
fitnessfan365 Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Or as guys we could just rely on common sense more. If a woman's interested, she'll say yes when you first ask her out. Anything else including lame maybe excuses is a polite no. No imagination required. I mean obviously we're the more direct and practical of the genders. So we appreciate getting it straight. However, I imagine that women have a lot of crap to deal with when it comes to being pursued. Hit on all the time, guys not wanting to take no for an answer, etc.. In some cases it probably is easier to get out of an awkward situation w-a maybe than leading to drama over a rejection.
Author yxalitis Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 How long did you wait before telling those who were in love with you, "sorry, I'm not that into you"? I covered that in it's own thread. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/535506-now-she-wants-go-exclusive-wah But we are talking about 4-5 weeks of weekend-only hookups.
Author yxalitis Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 Don't even need 2 dates to figure it out (unless for whatever reasons that have nothing to do with the guy date #1 went horribly wrong of course); the only time I wasn't quite sure about a guy I was able to make a (positive) evaluation like 3 minutes into the conversation. Hmm, I don't want to slap a label of "superficial" on you, but, really, 3 minutes? You've NEVER tried to keep dating someone to see if you can form a deeper connection than whatever the hell it is you see in 3 minutes? You ever heard the term "grow on you"? I'm just speechless!~ You can determine the worthiness of a man and future life partner in a MAXIMUM of 3 minutes! I assume the rest you discarded as unworthy of your further attention? WOW!
Author yxalitis Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 Or as guys we could just rely on common sense more. If a woman's interested, she'll say yes when you first ask her out. Anything else including lame maybe excuses is a polite no. No imagination required. I mean obviously we're the more direct and practical of the genders. So we appreciate getting it straight. However, I imagine that women have a lot of crap to deal with when it comes to being pursued. Hit on all the time, guys not wanting to take no for an answer, etc.. In some cases it probably is easier to get out of an awkward situation w-a maybe than leading to drama over a rejection. 1. Not everyone has the wisdom to interpret the obscure and subtle ways a woman will politely push you away, especially when you are young and inexperienced. 2. It’s NOT always as clear cut, take this tale: (About 4 posts in) http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/531227-good-date This girl outright rejected me, I worked my way around it, and in the end, after about 4 weeks of great dating: she fell in love with me! Pity I didn’t feel the same…but that’s another story. 3. There’s also the woman who wants to be pursued, who EXPECTS the guy to chase her, be persistent, you hear stories like this all the time: where a guy spends time and effort to woo a lady, yeah, woo, that’s a word, hardly ever seem relevant in these “3-minutes to impress me or you’re out” scenarios that we call modern dating.
Zagan Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 (edited) Aren't you the person who posts threads saying you're only attracted to 'good looking' Asian women? Or something along those lines.. Edited August 10, 2015 by Zagan
fitnessfan365 Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 There’s also the woman who wants to be pursued, who EXPECTS the guy to chase her, be persistent, you hear stories like this all the time: where a guy spends time and effort to woo a lady, yeah, woo, that’s a word, hardly ever seem relevant in these “3-minutes to impress me or you’re out” scenarios that we call modern dating. The question is though, why would you want to date a woman who makes you jump through endless hoops anyways? By always taking things at face value, you keep things simple and avoid high maintenance women in the process. Seems like a win-win to me.
Zagan Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Oh yeah that's right, you started a thread called 'Holy Hong Kong girls!' in which you went on and on about finding a 'date' while you were there for one night. This was how you narrowed down your online search to find one.. "My first search results, being quite specific about location, age, weight etc, netted me 1,000 results!!" Age and location, fine, but weight? I'm not saying you have no right to point out your preferences but if you're going to be labelling people superficial you might want to check back on some of the requests regarding women you have made in the past. If you had the choice to filter down these results by picking attributes of a womans personality rather than her physical traits would you have been happy to spend your 'short stay date' with somebody who wasn't physically attractive immediately to you, but smart, funny, good to talk to etc? No because you made it clear you were there for one night and wanted a date for a one night stand. I suppose my point is, to a degree we're all a little superficial, some more than others, but just because it's more apparent in somebody else it doesn't delete the fact that it's also one of your own traits. 1
Author yxalitis Posted August 11, 2015 Author Posted August 11, 2015 Oh yeah that's right, you started a thread called 'Holy Hong Kong girls!' in which you went on and on about finding a 'date' while you were there for one night. This was how you narrowed down your online search to find one.. "My first search results, being quite specific about location, age, weight etc, netted me 1,000 results!!" Age and location, fine, but weight? I'm not saying you have no right to point out your preferences but if you're going to be labelling people superficial you might want to check back on some of the requests regarding women you have made in the past. If you had the choice to filter down these results by picking attributes of a womans personality rather than her physical traits would you have been happy to spend your 'short stay date' with somebody who wasn't physically attractive immediately to you, but smart, funny, good to talk to etc? No because you made it clear you were there for one night and wanted a date for a one night stand. I suppose my point is, to a degree we're all a little superficial, some more than others, but just because it's more apparent in somebody else it doesn't delete the fact that it's also one of your own traits. I hardly think what is effectively a one night stand is the same thing as a life time partner. Of course I'm looking purely at the physical, because that;s all this is going to be! The woman I date here in Melbourne have been of many variations in body size and "attractiveness".
Author yxalitis Posted August 11, 2015 Author Posted August 11, 2015 The question is though, why would you want to date a woman who makes you jump through endless hoops anyways? By always taking things at face value, you keep things simple and avoid high maintenance women in the process. Seems like a win-win to me. Maybe because you thing they are worth it!
fitnessfan365 Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 Maybe because you thing they are worth it! I don't know man. To me, it's always seemed silly to jump through hoops and excessively chase one woman, when there's always women available to meet. I mean why not find a woman w-all the same great qualities that also won't jerk you around? For me, I want dating to be an enjoyable and stress free experience. Not one where I have to play games and get stressed out over not knowing where I stand.
Author yxalitis Posted August 11, 2015 Author Posted August 11, 2015 I mean why not find a woman w-all the same great qualities that also won't jerk you around? Because maybe these qualities are rare. For two people to BOTH find each other compatible, attractive, and interseted enough to have a real crack at the "next big thing" is rare. I'm sick of STR, 6 months, 9 months, 6 weeks, 2 weeks...2 months... If I find a woman I feel is so much more than that normal "Checks the boxes so let's go" I WILL pursue her... That's how I feel about Che...she is simply amazing, and I will try and get her to go out with me again, even if she is miss minimalist texter. Maybe she is only a little interested, but I will try and show her why she should be more so. I probably won't succeed, maybe I'm too fussy, I've certainly rejected woman who were very keen on me, who did seem like great people who I respected, liked, and got along well with, with whom the sex was good... But I want more than "she's OK" I'm in no hurry, I'm doing my HK trip partially because I'm not looking for that casual hook up here in my home town, I'm a highly sexual person, and this is a release for me. I'm building up steam here I need to let out. so..that's why. I'm glad you can find so many woman you find with the right qualities to date seriously.
jen1447 Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 Hmm, I don't want to slap a label of "superficial" on you, but, really, 3 minutes? You've NEVER tried to keep dating someone to see if you can form a deeper connection than whatever the hell it is you see in 3 minutes? You ever heard the term "grow on you"? I'm just speechless!~ You can determine the worthiness of a man and future life partner in a MAXIMUM of 3 minutes! I assume the rest you discarded as unworthy of your further attention? WOW! Lay off No-No, she's a teen - hardly enough time to cut an evil dating swath thru humanity.
Author yxalitis Posted August 11, 2015 Author Posted August 11, 2015 Lay off No-No, she's a teen - hardly enough time to cut an evil dating swath thru humanity. Oh, OK, that explains a lot. Kids these days, entitled seems like the right word to use. "Everyone's get a ribbon!"
fitnessfan365 Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 Maybe she is only a little interested, but I will try and show her why she should be more so. It's human nature to want what we can't have. So when someone doesn't share our interest level, they're attractive because it's a challenge. But in the end, it becomes more about winning a prize, then the actual person. For me personally, I'd rather be w-a woman who appreciates me for me that I don't have to prove anything to. 1
nadine5 Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 I agree with Jen that the first woman is pissed at you. Was there something you were doing that you failed to do on Saturday? Such as, text her good night? I remember you told us that she replied that your kids were beautiful and that you didn't respond until Sunday. Do you think this has anything to do with it?
Author yxalitis Posted August 11, 2015 Author Posted August 11, 2015 I agree with Jen that the first woman is pissed at you. Was there something you were doing that you failed to do on Saturday? Such as, text her good night? I remember you told us that she replied that your kids were beautiful and that you didn't respond until Sunday. Do you think this has anything to do with it? Don't know, either that or I didn't see if she was free Sunday... But, the ball was in her court,she said she'd let me know... I've called twice, no answer and texted her... That's it...I give up...sigh!
Author yxalitis Posted August 11, 2015 Author Posted August 11, 2015 Update...so Che answered the phone...at last "I can't talk I have a mouth infection" And she sounded bad...so, I guess that gives her a pass on not answering the phone... But why wouldn't you text back after a missed cal, and SAY so...? I mean, obviously she feels bad, but it tales a few seconds to tpye out a message letting me know... Think I'll give up!
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