I don't think I'll ever find someone as perfect as my ex boyfriend. Devastated :(

[jasxo]

My boyfriend unexpectedly broke up with me two days before our first anniversary and I have been in shambles ever since.

 

Throughout our relationship he was the most amazing boyfriend - he treated me like a queen. He was trustworthy, showed me off to his family, complimented me like crazy, told his friends he was gonna marry me, never disrespected me during disagreements, was faithful, told me he loved me every single day, initiated conversations about the future, had pictures of us all over his house and genuinely made me feel like the most special girl in the universe. Basically he was a dream come true and I felt so lucky to have him.

 

I've researched ways to get over a breakup and many sites say to make an objective list of reasons why it wasn't meant to be and characteristics about him that you disliked. The worst I can think of is he left the toilet seat up and kissed me too much in the morning while I was still trying to sleep. Literally. I had no complaints.

 

Three days before the break up, we had an argument about something really stupid and insignificant and I figured it would blow over. Admittedly, I didn't handle arguments well (often ignored him and had a quick temper) but I never knew it affected him that much. After a few days without speaking, I got this message: "I've been thinking a lot and I think we should put things on hold for a bit. I love you and care about you but I need time to fix myself. I don't like the way you express your anger and I don't want it to destroy me. I want to be friends, and if it ever feels right to start over down the line I'd be happy to go for it, but I can't do this right now. I really wish you the best." I literally cried to him and begged for him back. I promised I would change but it didn't seem to phase him. A day later he removed our relationship status.

 

He never told me how much this bothered him before this so I never got a chance to fix it. He used to promise that he would stay committed to me through thick and thin and we'd always tackle tough times so it kills me that he would leave for a very fixable problem; especially when he never communicated it to me before. Now I can't stop thinking about him and missing everything about him. I hate myself for treating my sensitive, sweet man in a way he couldn't handle. It's been a week since this all happened and we haven't spoken. Do you think there's a chance he'll come back to me based on what he said? How do I get past this? I'm giving him the space he wants in hopes he'll come back on his own but I'm not sure he will. I don't think I'll ever find a guy this perfect again in my lifetime.

Edited August 9, 2015 by jasxo

[Gus Grimly]

He never told me how much this bothered him before this so I never got to make a change. He promised he would stay committed to me through thick and thin so it kills me that he would leave for a very fixable problem; especially when he never communicated it to me before.

Ugh. Don't you HATE that? We are all human, not some magical immaculate conception. We make mistakes, every single one of us. No one is perfect. That's why I can't stand when people break up over something the other had no idea was bothering them. Like we are supposed to be mind readers, especially when they never made an attempt to tell us how much we hurt them.

 

It's immature to be honest and personally I don't want to be in a relationship with someone who won't communicate their concerns. It's not worth all the stress and drama. I know you love this gentleman but he sorta went to an extreme. No second chances, no Mulligan, no do-overs just "Cya!!".

 

I'd say there might be a chance for reconciliation, but you need to tell him that he needs to communicate his needs and concerns to you. That way you are able to work on your character flaws that cause him grief.

 

Oh yeah, he broke up with you through Text message. That's pretty F'd up.

[mrldii]

Hate to be brutally frank here, buttttt...

 

if what you've written is true, then you didn't deserve this "so perfect" guy for as long as he did stick around. If what you've written is true and that IS how you handle arguments, then - whether he comes back or not - you should do the necessary work to fix that part of you so you are worthy of a "so perfect" guy like him, in the future.

 

If you ever want to hold out any hope of working it out with this "so perfect" guy, you'll get to work on that work, right away.

 

 

 

Best of luck to you...

[WomenWubber]

Don't expect him back.

 

Also consider erasing the word 'perfect' from your vocabulary. No one can measure up to that.