smackie9 Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Maybe someone can link her to that thread "How do you tell someone you don't want a second date?"
Author RoseVille Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 So was he drinking at this birthday party before he talked to you? And were there a few cocktails during dinner?? No, he wasn't drinking at the birthday party when we met. But yes there were drinks at the bar.
Author RoseVille Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 Maybe someone can link her to that thread "How do you tell someone you don't want a second date?" Umm, I don't need that thread. I realize he's not interested, that was the point of the OP. It's frustrating to get mixed signals until you get the right signal.
Author RoseVille Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 Is it possible he's uncomfortable in bars/crowds/public places? I don't get the lead-in interest followed by the at-the-moment shutdown (at the bar). Almost sounds like he was overwhelmed. Some ppl do have social anxiety issues. Nah, he's a pretty social, funny guy, and he goes out a lot. He's not anxious; he's just not interested.
Author RoseVille Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 You will see it coming but he doesn't know it. It's still his game. Lets see. He actually just responded to the text from this morning: "Nah, changed my mind." No kidding?! Haha!
katiegrl Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Umm, I don't need that thread. I realize he's not interested, that was the point of the OP. It's frustrating to get mixed signals until you get the right signal. So what was the "right" signal? That he has not responded to your text this morn? I agree it does not look good, but if I really liked him and he called me tomorrow, Tuesday or even Wednesday for a date Saturday night, I would go. Just me.... 1
katiegrl Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 He actually just responded to the text from this morning: "Nah, changed my mind." No kidding?! Haha! Lol...fabulous! BTW, I posted my last post before I read this! 1
SycamoreCircle Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 He actually just responded to the text from this morning: "Nah, changed my mind." No kidding?! Haha!Well, since you know he's not interested, I guess you'll leave it at that.
Author RoseVille Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 So what was the "right" signal? That he has not responded to your text this morn? I agree it does not look good, but if I really liked him and he called me tomorrow, Tuesday or even Wednesday for a date Saturday night, I would go. Just me.... Yes, that he didn't respond, after usually being the first to initiate and to respond within 20 mins max to texts previously.
Author RoseVille Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 Well, since you know he's not interested, I guess you'll leave it at that. Yes, I don't see the point in responding. I'll see him around, I'm sure.
katiegrl Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Yes, that he didn't respond, after usually being the first to initiate and to respond within 20 mins max to texts previously. I am fairly certain the *rules* change a bit after the first date and you click. So best not to judge things by how he was *before* date. Now, after the date, is when you start paying attention. Jmo. Did he ask you out again!?
jen1447 Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 If he ever comes sniffing around again Rose (seen that happen before), make him kiss your butt.
SycamoreCircle Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Ask him why he seemed into you at the party and not into you during the date. See if he'll produce some cajones.
Author RoseVille Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 I am fairly certain the *rules* change a bit after the first date and you click. So best not to judge things by how he was *before* date. Now, after the date, is when you start paying attention. Jmo. Did he ask you out again!? Nope! And I don't expect him to.
Author RoseVille Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 Ask him why he seemed into you at the party and not into you during the date. See if he'll produce some cajones. Why would I do that? People change their mind. They see you in a different light. Maybe he didn't like my dress or my makeup or my choice of cocktail. Maybe he's not over an ex-girlfriend. Maybe he had a brunch date today. Doesn't really matter to me what his reason is, it's no skin off my back. 2
katiegrl Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Ask him why he seemed into you at the party and not into you during the date. See if he'll produce some cajones. I am so confused. It sounded like they clicked during the date! Made out afterwards and everything! I think he was nervous at the bar, that's all. Perhaps he needed a drink or two to loosen himself up? He may really like you and is a bit confused as to how to play this. Doesn't want to come on too strong or needy, for fear of turning you off. What did he say in his text....or was that just a joke?
SycamoreCircle Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 C'mon, we've all been there. It sucks. We want people to like us back. You don't have to but I think it would be interesting to see how he responds.
Snakechammah Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 His last text sounded very rude. "nah, changed my mind." - Gosh!! Bullet dodged, Rose. You deserve much better than this twit.
katiegrl Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Why would I do that? People change their mind. They see you in a different light. Maybe he didn't like my dress or my makeup or my choice of cocktail. Maybe he's not over an ex-girlfriend. Maybe he had a brunch date today. Doesn't really matter to me what his reason is, it's no skin off my back. So then why did he kiss you at the end of the date? Twice? Why are you being so negative? He did respond to your text this morning, right? Or were you just joking about that? 1
katiegrl Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 His last text sounded very rude. "nah, changed my mind." - Gosh!! Bullet dodged, Rose. You deserve much better than this twit. OMG is that what he said? I thought that was Rose who changed her mind...about writing him off. Man, guess I mis-read that one, didn't I.... Yeah, next!! Definitely.... Ugh. 1
Author RoseVille Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 So then why did he kiss you at the end of the date? Twice? Why are you being so negative? He did respond to your text this morning, right? Or were you just joking about that? He responded 10 hours later about an event that was to happen 8 hours ago, with, "Nah, changed my mind." I'm not being negative. I sincerely think he's no longer interested. I'm being objective. 1
SycamoreCircle Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 OMG is that what he said? I thought that was Rose who changed her mind...about writing him off. Man, guess I mis-read that one, didn't I.... Yeah, next!! Definitely.... Ugh.That was about going to a concert, not about her.
Author RoseVille Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 C'mon, we've all been there. It sucks. We want people to like us back. You don't have to but I think it would be interesting to see how he responds. I think you're trying to set me up to receive hurtful information. And I don't like it.
Author RoseVille Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 That was about going to a concert, not about her. It was a festival, and it was about going together. So yes, it was about me.
katiegrl Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 He responded 10 hours later about an event that was to happen 8 hours ago, with, "Nah, changed my mind." I'm not being negative. I sincerely think he's no longer interested. I'm being objective. Yeah I agree. A man who is interested surely would have responded with more than "nah changed my mind.". How rude! Sycamore, really? 2
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