Need some input, have you ever fallen for someone online far away that you never met?

[Lobouspo]

So I met this woman who lives in London, and I live in the Southwest United States. We text a lot and talk on the video chat for hours a night sometime. Originally I thought it was just kinda fun meeting someone across the globe to chat with, but I'm getting feelings for her. We've discussed meeting in October, but I'm apprehensive about meeting someone in a foreign country that I've just known from online dating for just a month.....BTW ...no catfish thing going on, as her info had checked out on Linkedin and we video chat every day. Any thoughts, advice or similar experiences would be appreciated

[xcupid]

This is what happens when you "meet" someone online. Sounds like you're falling in love with the idea of being in love. That's the trick the mind plays on us with online communication. We get "close" with someone who is really a stranger until you meet them in person.

 

She seems to be a wonderful person to you because you get along so well.

 

Keep in mind that when you chat with her you're probably seeing her at her best. You don't see her at other times when she's discouraged or frustrated or angry or upset or whatever.

 

Long distance relationships are HARD to sustain over time.

 

Reality is you won't know whether you're compatible with each other and what she's REALLY like until you meet in person and spend a lot of time with each other. That is the ONLY test when it comes to relationships. Good luck!

[HereNorThere]

This isn't what you want to hear, but just remember that what you are basing your opinion on is largely fantasy. Rarely do these type of things end up being the same IRL. I've had them ending being better but more often they are worse.

 

Also, people tend talk a big game on the Internet, but IRL, intimacy is much harder. Don't be surprised if someone turns out to be much less warm in person. Meeting almost resets the dating clock. Plus, if you don't live up to their fantasy, they tend to be a little resentful.

 

Have fun, but guard your heart.

[Gaeta]

Yes about 4 years ago I came across a man on a dog forum. He was a dog trainer , he had a lot to teach, I had a lot to learn. Soon we found ourselves in some type of infatuation and skype on daily basis. (Him US, me Canada)

 

Long story short: It lasted 1 year, he made plans 5 times through that year to come and see me and he cancelled each of them. He refused my every attempt at flying to him.

 

At the time I joined a forum for people in the same situation as me. About 80% of us our relationship failed. A) people ended up never meeting B) People felt no connection in person C) One of them lost interest right after meeting

 

For the 20% of them that it worked it ended up being long months even years to organize one of them moving country.

[LoveRefreshed]

Never. I can't fall in love without physical intimacy.