LindaRose Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 Iam so confused and lost....me and my ex are kind of back together? He broke up with me and is the one who reached out and started opening communication lines. Iam not even sure, we started talking again the beginning Of July mostly via whatsapp and text and it's everyday through out the whole day. We tell each other ILY, babe, I miss you, GoodNight etc, we also tell eachother important things going on in our personal lives and we've meet up 2 times and been intimate, we talk, cuddle, playful so it's not just sex. The thing is we haven't talked about us getting back together or anything and iam kind of scared to to be honest. Should I just tell him I want us to get back together and if he doesn't want that or see that then he needs to let me know or should I wait it out a little and built up or relationship before can be in an actual relationship. Any advice would be appreciated, Thanks
Satu Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 Sooner or later you will have to have an open and honest talk about what went wrong before, and what if anything, has changed. There's no away around that talk. 1
Author LindaRose Posted August 9, 2015 Author Posted August 9, 2015 Oh I know and when we started talking I asked why did he break up with me via message and he said he didn't break up with me but just wanted a little space, he felt I was being to possisive but when he saw me around and my demeanor or looks were scaring him off and that's why he took longer to get back in touch with me. So I don't wanna look like I'm pushing but I also need to know and not waste my time. 2
BC1980 Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 Oh I know and when we started talking I asked why did he break up with me via message and he said he didn't break up with me but just wanted a little space, he felt I was being to possisive but when he saw me around and my demeanor or looks were scaring him off and that's why he took longer to get back in touch with me. So I don't wanna look like I'm pushing but I also need to know and not waste my time. I'm sure he knows you want to get back together. My guess is that he doesn't have an intention of getting back together, but he still enjoys talking to you and getting attention. Likely, if you asked him now about getting back together, he would say no. I think he will say no for the foreseeable future, so, yes, you are likely wasting your time. 2
Thegreatfrazzle Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 Sometimes people break up with no hope of reconciliation, most of LS break ups are. Yours seems like there is still hope, however be prepared to call the whole thing off. It sounds like you both are pretty into each other, and the fact that he approached you is a good sign. My advice would be to talk to him, you don't have to make a big deal of it, just say 'are we back on?', or something like 'so what are we now?'. If you both agree to restart your relationship, don't pretend like nothing happened before, take it slowly, as if you are a new couple. When I got back together with my ex who broke up with me, we were back to 'I love you' within the week, and I honestly didn't trust her when she said it. If however he says that he doesn't want a relationship or just wants to be friends, then it's time to call the whole thing off. If that is the case, he clearly wants you in his life, but doesn't want the baggage of a relationship. The intimacy is a clear sign that he is using you. Block him out of your life and move on, he had his chance, twice by now, but he decided to be a jerk than your boyfriend. Obviously I hope you guys can work it out, but remember, HE broke up with YOU. HE needs to win YOU back. 2
Author LindaRose Posted August 9, 2015 Author Posted August 9, 2015 Thanks for all the advice I really do appreciate it, i will just give it a few more weeks(2) and come out and just ask him and will just except whatever the outcome is. It will be hard but iam sure iam strong enough to manage. Thanks again everyone.
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