Im devastated..it feels like im losin myself over and over again

[Thegreatfrazzle]

This guy sounds like an absolute a$$. I can relate because my ex girlfriend was a complete bit@h. These kind of people are not worth our time. So I did the smart thing and cut her out of my life. I feel much better now. It's time for you to have some self-respect, reclaim your dignity and remove this joker from your life. Your breakup sounds like a blessing in disguise.

[felicity221]

Feeling really devastated since yesterday! I so want to text my ex but i know i shouldnt and thats why im postin it here.

 

So he was being rude to me since few days ans then texted me 4 days back that he is sorry, he lost his uncle so wasnt himself. I told him no worries and im sorry for his loss and il always be there for him. 2 days later he texted me and ( lets assume my name is A) called me his A.

 

I was so happy i wanted to tell him i miss him, that i still love him but i didnt. Anyways when i replied he hardly talked for 5 mins and then never replied me. It's been 2 days today. I wana text him so bad, i cant stop thinking bout him. I feel like im broken, at times i just wish i could die, this is too much.

[felicity221]

Im on my 3rd day of NC and it's killing me. i still wish for my ex to text me. days are fine but nights are torturous. Sometimes i wish if only i could just end all of it forever. Im tired of crying but thats all i can do, hardly eats anything, im obsessing over a guy who doesnt give a **** bout me.

 

I so wana break nc and tell him i miss him. i wana ask him why he did this to me? why he doesnt care when i am still in love with him. why people lie, he brokeup with me saying im not a muslim i know that's a bull**** reason and even if it is true then why didnt he tell me in the beginning, why lie, why make false promises, why play with people's feelings!!

[Learningtowalkagain]

You're 21, there will be plenty of other men interested in you. Always remember that.

 

His action is speaking louder than his words. If he wanted to be with you he'd make more of an effort than a "hey cutie" text. You were the one begging and pleading, he knows he has you in the palm of his hand to do with as he pleases. You gave him that power, you need to take it back. Right now he's stringing you along.

 

Stay NC. Focus on YOU. Go to the gym. Talk to friends. Find a hobby. Post here. Start a journal.

[felicity221]

just broke NC told my ex that i miss him and his response was why?

He acted so rude, im more hurt now, i dont know if i can go through this pain, its too much to take, i feel helpless. the guy i loved so much doesnt care if ilive or die, what did i do wrong i dont even know, i did so much for him that noone can ever do and he still treats me like im nothing.

Ive never felt like this, i can hardly breathe, im so devastated, feel like everything is falling apart, til now iwas holding onto a hope but even that's gone today, he doesnt wana talk, the guy who said all the right words today acts like im Noone

[felicity221]

After everything that has happened, Ive decided to stay strong and do NC. I broke the NC 4 days ago told my ex i miss him, his response wasnt great and i t just added to my pain. After that ive decided that whatever happen i wont text him cuz he told me that im being pushy and he doesnt wana talk.

 

Now its been 4 days, ive had my weak moments but i managed somehow didnt contact him. Just now he texted. Hey B here! ( B here is the name of the guy i dated before him).

I dont get it, what does he want? whether to reply or not and what to say?

[felicity221]

After ive decided to go NC on my ex, he texted me twice inn last seven days. Yesterday he texted me wanting a pic of mine saying that he miss them. I did send him a few and he said i look dateable. What does that even mean! he obviously doesnt wana get back together i know that pretty well then why now he is saying things like this.

 

Later in our convo he called me his b****. I was so furious i didnt like it a bit, he has no right to call me that now, Im just really confused what he is tryin to do, Is he trying to mess with my head or playin some stupid games?

[dumbass2]

What are you confused about? i really see nothing that should lead you to believe he wants you and truly why would you. It should be obvious to you by how he has responded to you previously about using your ex's pet name and now you allow him to do this to you? You're dateable? You don't see that as degrading? There is nothing to be confused about. He is toying with you. You are now his play thing or as he so eloquently put it, "his B***!

 

 

Block..block...block and get this scumbag out of your life or choose to let him emotionally abuse you.

[ExpatInItaly]

After ive decided to go NC on my ex, he texted me twice inn last seven days. Yesterday he texted me wanting a pic of mine saying that he miss them. I did send him a few and he said i look dateable. What does that even mean! he obviously doesnt wana get back together i know that pretty well then why now he is saying things like this.

 

Later in our convo he called me his b****. I was so furious i didnt like it a bit, he has no right to call me that now, Im just really confused what he is tryin to do, Is he trying to mess with my head or playin some stupid games?

 

Why did you respond? And why have you not blocked him?

 

Look, it's clear you're hurting tremendously. It will never get better if you keep letting him in to your life. He doesn't want to be your boyfriend anymore and he couldn't make that clearer. He contacts you to get attention and some validation but that's it. And the cycle starts again.

 

You are young and have plenty of time to meet better guys. Had you dated much before him? You appear to have invested a lot in your ex.

[felicity221]

Why did you respond? And why have you not blocked him?.

 

I did date a guy before my recent ex but i never felt this way like im atm. I responded him because when he broke up with me he said that he wants to be friends and still wants to have me in his life. i thought he genuinely wanted to be friends because everything was so great between us that i still dont know why he brokeup.

But now i think maybe i was too naive to believe him. He talks to me as if everything's fine, as if he never did hurt me and i just dont get it how can someone be so heartless. The reason he gave me for breakingup was that im not a muslim and i believe that's a bs, he knew very well before dating me that im not.

The way he is acting now is disgusting. I cant believe this is the same person i loved once or maybe i was just too blind to see the redflags.

[d0nnivain]

So now that you have seen the red flags, block him. Better late then never

[felicity221]

Havent posted here in a while, i thought i was doing great but today it seems like everything's coming back. Feeling literally sick. My ex, who brokeup with me, around 10 days back asked me if we can patch up and i told him i think i need some time. Later i told him that i think we are worth another shot but then he went like im pro to the idea but we take things slow. now idk what that means or where i stand atm with him? We talk casually for few minutes in a day or two but this isnt going anywhere, I want to know what he wants but im afraid if i ask him he'll just push me further away.

I want us to be like how we were, i want to tell him i love him or how much i miss him but he's acting so different like im no more than a friend. This is really draining me now, i feel the same way how i felt when he dumped me.

Any advices on what does he mean by taking things slow or if he really wants to be with me? Should i tell him how im feeling?

[PaperCrane]

Block. Ignore. Delete.

 

Respect yourself, girl. He sure as hell won't.

[felicity221]

Hello everyone,

Well after everything that has happened, my ex and i got back together. Though we havent yet talked about why he broke up with me in the past but he once he said he feels he did wrong to me and wants to give things another shot. I eventually agreed because i think i still love him, he wanted to take things slow and i was okay with it. Well now we talk often and everything seems fine but i feel like he has changed or he is acting different. He was never a guy who shows too much of affection and stuff but he used to say he loves me and things like that once in a while. Now he just never talk about our relationship, doesnt say he loves me or anything like that. I did ask him once can we ever be like before and he said he doesnt know but we can try.

 

Now this is emotionally draining me, I want to tell him i love him or how much ive missed him the time we weren't together but i dont know whether i should. Am i just overthinking it? Should i just tell him or wait for him to say it? I dont know i feel like he never gonna say it, he is just different now, i have no idea what to do?