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My bf of 6 months, we were friends before that, dumped me a month back sayin the same cliche its not you, its me. I cried, begged and pleaded, hurted myself but nthin worked. He offered me to be friends sayin that he wants me to be in his life and i said yes

 

I still love him alot. Lately he started ignoring me, sayin that he thinks that i should stop talking to him at all.

I dont know what to do? I cant stop thinking about him, he told me so many things when we were together that he would make me his wife or he love me as much as romeo loved juliet!

Was all of that a lie? i feel like a fool and i ve exams but i cant study. I feel so depressed

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I'm sorry you are going through this but time & distance are your friends. You can't be friends with somebody when you want more. Once he's out of your life you can begin to heal. It doesn't feel like it now but you will survive this.

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Screw this idiot. Block him out of your life. I went thru a very similar experience many years ago and regret giving the guy the time of day. If you're that invested that it's tearing you apart to be in contact, then stop torturing yourself and break it off, for yourself. You don't even have to say anything to him. Just stop torturing yourself and walk away. It's going to be extremely painful, but you will get over him eventually. Just try to focus on your studies. It's not that he didn't mean what he said to you when you were together, but he's just not right for you, since he's letting you go like this.

 

 

Take back your pride and don't fight for it to the point that it kills you. At some point enough is enough and you have to walk away. However, it's only going to happen when you recognize that walking away is the only way.

 

 

You will be ok. Whatever happens, happens for a reason. You might not understand the reason for some time though. Just take it day by day and cry all you need to and come on here for support.

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My bf of 6 months, we were friends before that, dumped me a month back sayin the same cliche its not you, its me. I cried, begged and pleaded, hurted myself but nthin worked. He offered me to be friends sayin that he wants me to be in his life and i said yes

 

I still love him alot. Lately he started ignoring me, sayin that he thinks that i should stop talking to him at all.

I dont know what to do? I cant stop thinking about him, he told me so many things when we were together that he would make me his wife or he love me as much as romeo loved juliet!

Was all of that a lie? i feel like a fool and i ve exams but i cant study. I feel so depressed

So, first of all, you hurt yourself? You might has well have put a sign on your forehead that said "STAY AWAY! CRAZY PERSON HERE!"

 

Sometimes we do things in the heat of the moment that don't make much sense. Other times, it goes deeper than that.

 

If you'd indulge me, I think it would be really good for you to explain yourself so that we can all understand why you'd hurt yourself in an effort to get back together with your BF. You just might learn a little something about yourself.

 

What made you do that? What did you think he would do, and why? How did you believe this would help him want you? Just explain the whole thing, and I'm sure you're going to get lots of help with everything.

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I cried, begged and pleaded, hurted myself but nthin worked

 

You hurted yourself but it didn't work to get him back?

 

Wow that's SICK!

 

Maybe if you jumped off a bridge he'd notice.

 

But then it wouldn't matter would it.

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Thanks all for your answers. I tried no contact and my ex bf texted me on 2 day, we talked for half an hour and he give me mixed signals. Im so confused. I feel like he is still playing with me

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Update: Here is the thing i dont know what to do anymore. My ex who dumped me texted me 2 days back and talked all sweet and nice so i thought maybe, maybe he has changed but then we didnt talk much and he didnt text again.

 

Now 2 days later i ended up texting him asking if we could talk on call and he acted so cold and rude. It has been killing me the way he is acting, i ccry all the time, i cant stop thinking about him, i feel like il go insane, i have this sinking feeling in my heart. how can a guy who loved me so much once behave like this that he doesnt care anymore? He is happy, going out and im just here crying in my home

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Yes in my opinion, when someone promises you too much too fast, they are lying & manipulating you. My ex did that too me. It makes me believe that our whole RS was a one sided lie. I doubt she really even loved me.

 

 

If it helps you, just think of him as a liar & user. Go full NC & pretend he's dead. Good luck & sorry for the hurt. It will slowly get better.

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Yes in my opinion, when someone promises you too much too fast, they are lying & manipulating you. My ex did that too me. It makes me believe that our whole RS was a one sided lie. I doubt she really even loved me.

 

 

If it helps you, just think of him as a liar & user. Go full NC & pretend he's dead. Good luck & sorry for the hurt. It will slowly get better.

 

Thankyou for the reply. I tried this in the past, i thought he just used me and stuff but tbh the more i think about it, the more miserable i feel. It's hard to believe that everything he said was a lie. Worst thing is he broke up with me on text.

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Listen to the advice given to you. You need to stop having contact with him. He's screwing with your head and you're allowing it. He dumped you. At that point, there was nothing left to talk about.

 

 

Want to feel better? STOP talking to him. INGORE his texts, block him on social media and heal. Out of sight out of mind and time passing is the only thing that works.

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It probably wasn't a lie but something he felt at the time.

 

The trouble is whatever he felt isn't enough.

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My bf of 6 months, we were friends before that, dumped me a month back sayin the same cliche its not you, its me. I cried, begged and pleaded, hurted myself but nthin worked. He offered me to be friends sayin that he wants me to be in his life and i said yes

 

I still love him alot. Lately he started ignoring me, sayin that he thinks that i should stop talking to him at all.

I dont know what to do? I cant stop thinking about him, he told me so many things when we were together that he would make me his wife or he love me as much as romeo loved juliet!

Was all of that a lie? i feel like a fool and i ve exams but i cant study. I feel so depressed

 

The problem here is you agreed to be friends! Don't ever do that!!!!He is taming you for granted now.Completely go NC.If he texts, ignore his texts!He will realize his feelings for you when you go NC and he stops hearing from you!

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Stop talking to this guy. This is insanity. You are doing the same thing and expecting a different result! Just go NC on this guy. If you don't focus on your self and don't study you will regret it for a veryyy long time.

 

You want to heal, that is why your on this forum. Deep inside you want to forget about this guy. You are probably thinking that if you haven't met him, your life would be much better. Life is this... ups and down. The good thing is that during the downs, you will be able to develop yourself. Once you get over this you will become a better person, wiser and stronger.

 

Just give it time... you'll see

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Thankyou for the reply. I tried this in the past, i thought he just used me and stuff but tbh the more i think about it, the more miserable i feel. It's hard to believe that everything he said was a lie. Worst thing is he broke up with me on text.

 

 

Dunno about your RS, but in mine the only rational explanation for her actions in the RS is that it was all a game & lie to her. When you analyze your relationship, use logic & the truism: actions speak louder than words. Do NOT waste energy, feelings & time talking about your relationship with your ex. If he's like my ex, you're just gonna get BSed & lied to more. Liars lie, that's what they do & are good at. My biggest mistake & setback was not going full NC when I was dumped.

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Look 6 months is nothing I have just done 19 years 17 of those married wells till am but you see what I mean, you will be fine and you will eventually meet someone that is right for you, stop contacting this loser your playing right in to his hands, take it from someone who knows you are not going to get anywhere with him by contacting him, give him time to miss you and also let him do a bit of thinking himself about what you might be doing in your new life without him, your a young woman you have the rest of your life in front of you and you will be fine, you will wake up one morning and you will be back to being you, good luck.

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Listen to the advice given to you. You need to stop having contact with him. He's screwing with your head and you're allowing it. He dumped you. At that point, there was nothing left to talk about.

 

 

Want to feel better? STOP talking to him. INGORE his texts, block him on social media and heal. Out of sight out of mind and time passing is the only thing that works.

 

Yeah im trying really hard to not talk to him again. But idk i cant stop thinking about him. Every moment all i think about is him and he probably dont even think about me now. He acts like i waas never anything, like i never existed.

During daytime i distract myself somehow or other but nights are esp hard and i so feel like talking to him

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The problem here is you agreed to be friends! Don't ever do that!!!!He is taming you for granted now.Completely go NC.If he texts, ignore his texts!He will realize his feelings for you when you go NC and he stops hearing from you![/Q

 

We were friends earlier so i thought he genuinely wants to be friends with me and he still cares but now i think i was wrong. He brokeup with me on text, didnt even have the courtsey to call. Im afraid he might just not miss me

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Update: my ex texted me!!

 

I took advice given here and went NC on my ex. It's the second today and he texted Hey cutie!

Idk what to think of that! Should i reply or just ignore?

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Here's the thing: My boyfriend brokeup with me 1 month ago sayin the same old it's not you it's me! I was devastated as i never saw it coming. We had a healthy relationship but were having some fights lately, nothing serious though. The time he was with me he promised me the world so when he brokeup i couldnt believe it. I begged, cried, pleaded him to stay, to talk and to give us another chance since i dont even know what went wrong.

 

He said that we would be better as friends and stuff and that he has made up his mind and cant take me back. I agreed to be friends with him.For one month he acted hot and cold, somethimes he talked nicely and sometimes treated me like crap but he never talked bout breakup, everytime i try to talk to him about it he just stops replying. Then after a month one day he said that i should stop talking to him completely. I was so hurt, i stil love him alot but he acts like i was never anything for her.

 

After he said that i thought of going NC on him and he texted me on day 2 sayin HEY CUTIE. i replied after a few hours and we talked for an hour or so but then he just said BRB and it's been 24 hours and he dint text me back yet.

What he is trying to do!? I cant stop thinking bout him. I feel like im losing myself.

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He's stringing you along.

 

Go complete NC and put him in the past.

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Ugh, how old is this guy? He sounds very immature. Don't reply to him at all any more. He's seeing if you're still at his beck and call. He likes the boost to his ego. But he doesn't want more than that. If you really want to stop the insanity, don't reply to his messages, calls, nothing.

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Ugh, how old is this guy? He sounds very immature. Don't reply to him at all any more. He's seeing if you're still at his beck and call. He likes the boost to his ego. But he doesn't want more than that. If you really want to stop the insanity, don't reply to his messages, calls, nothing.

 

He is 21, so am i.

When he brokeup he said he wanted to be friends and he'd love to have me in his liife. At that point i believed him, i thought he genuinely wants to be friends but looks like i was wrong.

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He's just making sure the you're his back up plan whenever things go south with his new RS. Ignore him and go NC

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Hi everyone,

Ive posted here earlier so long story short: My bf dumped me one month ago on a text sayin it's not you it's me. The time we were together he used to tell me that he loves me alot and he has never loved any girl this much and stuff. So when we broke up i was surprised, i never saw it coming.

 

I cried, begged and pleaded him to stay because even when he was breaking up with me, he told me that he love me. He said he thinks we will be betteras friends and i agreed.

 

So i was being friends with my ex for a month and 10 days now. Durin this time sometimes he treated me well but most of the times he acted like an ass. Then one day he apologized saying that he's sorry for acting like an ass all the time and i deserve better. We talked normally after that.

 

Fast forward 3 days he again started treating me like ****, when i told him that my grammy had a heart attack he said that i should stop talkin to him at all, i was so hurt i backed off. After that we talked a few times. 3 days back he texted me hey cutie and we talked so well for a lil more than an hour but then he said brb and never texted back.

 

So today after 4 days i texted him and he replied saying hello baee how are you. but idk what happened to him after that he was acting different so i told him that you've changed or you dont wana talk to me and he said yes i dont. I was so hurt, still i askked him nicely whats wrong and he said that Nothin and i dont need to enquire.

 

I was devastated. After sometime i texted him that id never forgive him and deleted him. Now i feel like its hard to even breathe, like im chokin, im going insane, i dont eat, i just cry all the time. I was never like this, i was this strong, independent and confident girl. I hate myself for being soo f weak, i cant stop thinking bout him, somewhere deepi still want him to text me, Im losing it all.

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You need to stop contacting him. Did you read "The No Contact Guide"? If I were you I'd read the guide and follow it verbatim. The only way you are gonna start to feel better is to stop torturing yourself.

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