Am I too ugly/weird to date?

[LexiAmbrose]

I'm a really feminine male in my 20s who's average looking as a guy and very sexy as a girl (I'm either transgender or a lesbian trapped in a guy's body, I also look 100% female) but I find myself completely unattractive without a wig/makeup on and would never ever date myself (I can barely look at my reflection but when I'm dressed as a girl I can very happily stare at myself all day). I want to date an average looking woman with a sense of humour (hot girls make me really terrified and I don't wanna waste their time with my male ugliness) but if I see my male self as hideous and can't even look at my reflection would a woman ever date/marry me? I'm healthy (feminine body with abs), sensitive, talented (art), have money, intelligent, tall, large penis, etc.

[Satu]

Other people tend to reflect your feelings about yourself back to you.

 

People who have a healthy measure of self-esteem are easy to be with.

 

Make that healthy self-esteem your goal.

[Clarence_Boddicker]

Don't be ashamed of yourself. There's nothing wrong with being a feminine male or transgender. There are some girls who are attracted to girly guys, even very attractive girls. Some girls get turned off by masculine behavior & would give a guy who isn't a typical male a chance. Some bisexual girls might want to try a guy that's got more feminine energy then masculine. Just be yourself, but without the self esteem issues. Be happy & don't worry that a lot of society hates on tg people. That will change in a few generations. Self hatred is more unattractive than gender identity issues.

[LexiAmbrose]

Don't be ashamed of yourself. There's nothing wrong with being a feminine male or transgender. There are some girls who are attracted to girly guys, even very attractive girls. Some girls get turned off by masculine behavior & would give a guy who isn't a typical male a chance. Some bisexual girls might want to try a guy that's got more feminine energy then masculine. Just be yourself, but without the self esteem issues. Be happy & don't worry that a lot of society hates on tg people. That will change in a few generations. Self hatred is more unattractive than gender identity issues.

 

I'm okay with my mentality, I just significantly hate how I physically look as a male, I feel like I'm wearing an extremely itchy sweater that I can only take off by putting on a wig, I don't know if it's because of the autism, my looks as a male or my massive repulsion of the entire male gender's appearance, I feel comfortable looking at people as a girl but can't do it as a guy, can women love you if you 100% love your mental appearance but hate your physical appearance (I try to dress as feminine as possible to where it's socially conventional but every guy in the state still calls me bro/dude which annoys me)?

[LoveRefreshed]

OP, just be yourself. I don't know about all this transgender **** in the world, but I feel like a man and I have a dick, so maybe I'm lucky.

 

 

Women at a certain age, stop caring so much for looks (not completely) but a lot goes into the quality of your character, your personality, and how you are emotionally.

 

Just focus on yourself. Look at the things you can change (You feel girly? start doing some pushups) and do something about it. Let anything else go and just talk to girls you find attractive. Sooner or later, one will find you attractive just as you are.

Edited August 9, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Clarence_Boddicker]

Most women are not tied up with physically appearance as much as a person's heart & personality. Yes there are girls out there that do find feminine males attractive & would prefer to date them.

 

 

Not sure I understand your other question/issue. If you wanna look like a woman, there's no reason you can't work towards that. Grow your hair out, remove your body hair, permanently remove your beard, take care of your skin, lose weight if you can, take hormones, train your voice, etc. There's a lot you can do if you really want to. There's guys who dress & live as women full time, who are pre or non op transgender. They don't let their male body hold them back.

[casey.lives]

what u look like isn't so important ... it's what u act like!

do u act like a man??! That's what makes a guy attractive

looking "pretty" is always desired .. beauty is always desired

[HereNorThere]

I'm a really feminine male in my 20s who's average looking as a guy and very sexy as a girl (I'm either transgender or a lesbian trapped in a guy's body, I also look 100% female) but I find myself completely unattractive without a wig/makeup on and would never ever date myself (I can barely look at my reflection but when I'm dressed as a girl I can very happily stare at myself all day). I want to date an average looking woman with a sense of humour (hot girls make me really terrified and I don't wanna waste their time with my male ugliness) but if I see my male self as hideous and can't even look at my reflection would a woman ever date/marry me? I'm healthy (feminine body with abs), sensitive, talented (art), have money, intelligent, tall, large penis, etc.

 

 

a) it's going to take a really special, understanding open minded person to date and understand you. Maybe someone who has been through something similar

 

b) most people are not open minded enough to even fathom your predicament

 

c) YOU'RE still having a hard time figuring yourself out. How can you expect someone else to?

 

I'm sorry that life has dealt you this hand. I'm sure you get lonely and frustrated just the same as the rest of us. I wish I had better advice for you, but I really don't. Just remember that it's always going to be easier for people who adhere to societal norms, but that doesn't mean it's more fulfilling. Things that come easy for humans tend to not be as appreciated. One day you'll have your moment in the sun and it will be so much greater because you appreciate it.

Edited August 9, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Clarity4us]

All the self images you hate are created by insecurities that come with that lifestyle. That lifestyle is not easy nonetheless and damages your self confidence. It does not mean there is anything wrong with you at all. People just seem to be more indifferent and insensitive to differences. Just get some self help books on self esteem and I would see a therapist. I think that would help with your identity crises.